i think my boyfriend have changed. before he can wait for me for until 10minutes,he's not mad. but now i think he only have waited for 1-2minutes he's mad at me. i always tell him that im sorry.
im not always late but sometimes its the environment that's keeping me late (i.e traffic) i told him to be more patient but he still insist that its his attitude and i can't change it.
but when im the one who's waiting eventhough he's 30mins late its ok for me. i understand him. i don't quarrel with him.
that's why everytime we are having little fights the reason is always me, cause even a single wrong move, he's mad.
2007-02-26 21:19:25 · 16 answers · asked by jhen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People change over a relationship due to the familiarity, and the comfort zone that he may be experiencing with you. Probably over the period of time, he's begun to take you for granted. First it didnt matter even when it was 10 mins late, thats the time you may have just begun, slowly you both get to know each other, a bit of the romance sheds, and then it becomes an everyday thing, I mean knowing each other, having little fights or arguments. Which is okay. But, if this is looking like a problem for you, which it does for me, and if these little things (which it looks like) lead on to bigger things, I think you do have an issue here. No matter how much you love him or he loves you. You will have to talk to him, put your foot down. First try getting irriated (I mean, pretend you're irritated) with him for him being late, or him messing up something, pretend your mad...try it for every occassion he does that, and see what this leads into, if your boyfreind is really immature, impatient, and needs a lot of growing up to do before he can even commit himself with you, then you'll see your arguments getting larger, and larger. Take a break, avoid for some time, and then, sit with him and tell him exactly what is happening, and what you do feel, and also that, if this is the way it is both of you would be stressed out.
good luck
2007-02-26 21:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
w0w, then its not your problem...its his problem!! My dad is exactly the same way with my mom!!! Don't say its different because its not....my dad always yells and screams when he can't find something of his or even when he can't find the right cereal bowl to eat out of!!! He yells at my mom like she is stoopid or something....but me and her have came to the conclusion that its not her......its him that has the problem!!! I think that since he is only your boyfriend...he needs to change his attitude or move on!!! He can't get mad at you when you 10 mintues late and then expect it to be ok when he is 10 minutes late!!! Hell no ma....you have got to take action and let him know that you are not going to take his bullcrap for eve litle thing!! You need to tell him that if he doesn't change his attitude towards you then he needs to move on or get some counceling!! And no honey, the reason you two have fights is beacause you let him yell and get upset with you...don't even give him time to get mad at you!!! You get mad and yell at him and let him know that he is not going to step all over you like a piece of freakin trash!! Your worth more than that...and everything can't be done on his time....make him follow your time!! Your schedual...you make the time and dates...and when he is late...don't even get mad, just say its alright and continue...then when he plans, be 30 mintues late.. so when he gets mad you can bring down the hammer and say "Remember when you were 10 minutes late last week".....then see what happensz....(he can't get mad at you) or at least he shouldn't!!
2007-02-26 21:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what u should do, if u know u need to be somewhere at a certain time make sure u allow ur self enough time to get there... u should countculate in all the factors that might cause u to be late..... as far as ur boyfriends attitude every time ur late that's a form of abuse, u might consider who ur dating if he persist with his attitude. remember whats good for the goose is good for the gander!!!!!
2007-02-26 21:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he has no patience, and is blaming u for everything, and not being at all realistic, because in the real world, people are not perfect. why is it u that always has to say your sorry, relationships are a give take kind of thing, where one person should not have to always be sorry for every little thing. sounds as if he feels he is always right, and he argues over the small stuff, maybe u need to discuss some stuff with him.
2007-02-26 21:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh. i hate those kinds of people.
really, that's not fair at all.
so the next time you're a little late, bring up the subject about him being late for half an hour and you not being angry about that. when he argues, tell him how you feel and if he still shouts, walk away.
or maybe just break up with him. soon he'll be mad at everything you do, so get out before it gets out of hand.
2007-02-26 21:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by wordsofapoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 21:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by ramayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a give and take kind of deal. It sounds like your boyfriend is all about him. It's not fair to you to be put in the situation, when he can be late and you cannot be. I would say dump him, but you probably care about him a lot. He sounds kind of jerky though.
2007-02-26 21:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom Guru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the flick, sweetie. He'll never change. People like this are a real pain. Everything is always your fault, but if they're in the wrong, that's different. One rule for you, another for him.
2007-02-26 21:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation hun, whenever they think you do one thing wrong, they suddenly will find lots of things wrong, and soon your fighting over stupid things and your being made to feel like your in the wrong. You need to either sit him down and talk to him, or leave him cause it doesnt seem like its going to work
2007-02-26 21:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Babe, well i must tell you this is something you wounldn't like to take for ever...
All you have to do is call him up and talk to himabout it, if he doesn't change, then i must tell you that he's not right guy for you, you understand his insticts but doesn't understand yours, so what kind of guy is that, is not reliable, he could do worst more if you don't talk to him about..
At least to know where you stand?
Hope this helps...
2007-02-26 21:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by codedfeelins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋