Do you ever wish that other people could see your emotional and mental scars???

Question

It's harder to see what's going on inside another person, right?

So do you ever wish that people close to you, could see your emotional and mental scarring?

Because then they could understand what is or was happening and try helping you.

I wish i could show how i feel inside to my family, i have tried telling them they don't understand or really give a damn ( they rather have long intense talks about football and football transfers)
So maybe if they saw how much i was hurting inside , they would help me, instead criticising or ignoring me. I would have to slit my throat before they did something and even then they would only do soo because if they didn't, it would make them look bad to other people.

Is this a extreme of attention seeking?

And does anyone else wish people could really see what they were going through?

Or am i crazy???

Answer 1

Yes i have felt like this before, and still do sometimes!

It gives you such an intense feeling of helplessness and loneliess but what i have learnt is most of the time they have their own issues, or maybe they ignore you because they just dont know how to deal with it, or what to say!

Maybe they have guilt about something and find it easier to ignore you than open up!

But, as for your problems, i would suggest seeing a counsellor or therapist....what you said about ' would have to slit my throat before they did something ' concerns me...i have felt exactly like this before, but it's not good as it can lead to self harm...please if you feel this desperate seek professional help. (I used to self harm frequently, mainly a cry for help or to show them how much i was hurting).

A therapist is not biased (unlike your family) and can often see things that you cant, so be open to their suggestions.

I hope that you find your way, i really do. You must already be a strong person, and things like this only make useven stronger!!!

Good Luck, and NO, you're not extreme attention seeking, just sounds like you need some understanding!!!

x x x x

Answer 2

i completely undertsand what you mean. Some people have said that your crazy wanting others to be able to know how your feeling.. I don't think you mean everything but just your pain and ur not crazy! I don't think your attension seeking and I hate when people think that about people who have mental diffculties..you are simply crying out for help and feel like you can't get it without having physcial proof!

Depression is a cruel condition, i know! People who have never experienced it , never understand..they have the attitude of "wise up"..if only they knew.

If you are continuously feeling very depressed , or feel unhapy for longer periods than yoru happy perhaps seeking a medical professional would be good. It could be the fact that you just have a chemical imbalance in the brain and need an anti-depressant to help you through these times. Perhaps, your home and family situation has contributed to you feeling depressed, as you don't feel heard?? If there is reasons behind your depression perhaps talking to a counsellor or therapist would help you?

If going to anyone seems to dauntig why not try the samaritains you can ring or email them and explain your feelings! Try their website
www.samaritans.org

i hope you get help or feel better soon! Good luck x

Answer 3

No, you are not crazy. You are probably depressed and you feel like people do not understand you or listen or care.
So being angry with them, and wanting to get their attention (even in an extreme way) is a pretty normal reaction or way to feel.

Don't ever think of hurting yourself. They probably do care, but just don't realize how much you are hurting.

You sound like you are still in school. Go to a teacher or counselor there and tell them how you feel. They might be able to help you reach out to your family or give you suggestions. Or you could ask your parents to take you to the doctor and then tell the doctor about it. then they would refer you to counseling, which your parents would also have to participate in at some point.

Just get help for the depression. It won't get better if you don't treat it right away. You could recover from this bout only to have another episode when you are an adult (which is what happened to me, I was not close to my family either, so I never got my depression treated when I was younger and it was probably easier to treat)

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 4

If we were all seen with our mental scars in a physical form it would be a repulsive thing to see. There isnt one of us without the internal disfigurement you speak of, its just a case of how we all deal with them. Some shout and scream, some write it down and vent the pain that way. Some just sit and stare and some cry uncontrollably until things subside.
Some may want to ignore the hardship we all have inside simply because that is what they do. To unleash that they feel would only serve to bring them down and not necessarilly help the situation.
If you feel you need to talk, find a friend that isnt afraid to listen, or if beyond that there are many other people that will listen and give advice.
Do talk though, a problem shared really is a problem halved, whether it be to a friend or to someone you dont know, it all helps shine a light on the way forward.

Answer 5

I don't want anyone to see my emotional or mental scars, but that is my issue. I don't think you have an attention seeking problem; you just want to be heard. It doesn't sound as if your family is very understanding. My was not either, so I guess I went along with it and shoved my feelings down deep. You are probably healthier than the rest of us.

I am sorry you feel so ignored. That is a hard position to be in. It probably doesn't help now, but you will meet someone who cares for you and wants to listen to you.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

We British have been brought up (especially us older generation) not to show out feelings. Whether this is right or wrong I don't know. What I do know is that you are obviously very hurt inside and probably needs some counselling. Other people, even our loved ones, do not really want to know our problems because they are too busy dealing with own. I think you should try to look after yourself and not expect others to look after you, especially if you haven't tried talking to them. Maybe they do know what you are going through inside, but if you cannot get help for these people, then my dear seek help elsewhere.

Chin up.

Answer 7

You have hit the nail on the head. If emotional and mental scars were visible it would at least make people understand. It is a frustrating situation and even by explaining to someone what you are going through they still really can't comprehend the difficulties.
The only thing to do is to hang your head high, have hope and soldier on. The pain has got to ease eventually.

Answer 8

sometimes it would be easier to see inside people to see their emotional scars, but then that is why there is mental health professionals who are there to help you, perhaps if you could see inside your family they probably unhappy inside too but use the football to hide their feelings, i think you are depressed and need to speak to a doctor, it is not attention seeking what it is is a cry for help, get some before it gets worse, PS crazy people don't know they are crazy so don't worry about that.

Answer 9

form of... I left an emotionally abusive husband after 8 years and his abuse became actual yet have not thoroughly escaped it because of the fact I nonetheless could desire to handle him because of the fact of our 2 young little ones. this is complicated there are going to be people who think of your making a huge deal of no longer something however the scars are real in simple terms interior. It makes you have low self self assurance and doubt each and every thing and absolutely everyone yet you're able to do it. you may desire to no longer stay and be taken care of like an merchandise without thoughts and be "owned" fairly than enjoyed.

Answer 10

It would be good if those close to you could understand your pain! but if all of our emotional scars and personal pain were there for all to see, then harder people woul use them to hurt us or take advantage! Please dot take such extreme measures as throat slitting to get folks to understand.. Try talking tomeone else, not so close....