I feel so alone and worthless when my parents yell at me, should i stop being a baby and grow up?

Question

Is it just me or do all teenagers feel so?

Answer 1

Teenagers feel the same way but you can get ahead of that in due time...When they yell at you, just understand them and always think that all they want is your own safety and they don’t mean to do it… If you feel that it’s on your personality try to minimize it and just develop a good relationship with your parents... they love you...talk to them. thats the best solution.

Answer 2

I think i will give more than just a answer to this one.
All teenagers feel that way. That is for sure.

Now what you have to inculcate in yourself is the quality by which you can erase permanently all those negative habbits for which you are being yelled at. It is human nature to capture all the negative habbits easily and to reject the positive habbits even more easily. Small small things add up to make a big thing. Your general habbits (even the tiniest of them like weather you come home and wash your face or dont, weather you put the towel to dry after using it, or you are tired but when you find your room in a mess then u clean it up) are the best reflection of your true self.
Your mom and dad only want you to inculcate the best of the best habbits which they know about. They want you to have better habbits and standard of living than they themselves have. and they know that they have struggled hard to achieve it. So when they see you not developing in a mature individual then sometimes they cannot control the frustration and let the steam escape. When they yell , then dont take offense... that is the worst thing you could ever do in a situation like that. Read between the lines so that you can know what did you do that made them react this way. Try to rectify the problem and always be cool. never get off the hook. Always remember that the only two people who will honestly feel happy when you progress are you mum & dad.

Answer 3

Growing up sure is hard. But at no time should you be made to feel worthless.

But that's easy to say. Parents get exasperated with their children & don't always handle situations as best as they should or could. And there are some people who should have never had children. BTW, we know what causes that now. :)

I don't know why you're parents are yelling at you. Maybe you screwed up royally. But yelling never solves anything.
Know that you aren't alone, though. Teenagers go through so many emotional & physical changes, it's a wonder any of us get through those years at all. And whether your parents hollered at you or not, you would still have feelings of worthlessness, along with insecurities, confusion and a zillion other things.

If this is affecting your performance in school & other aspects of your life, see a counselor at school. Or find a free agency in your community. They are VERY good, usually funded by United Way.

Don't worry. You'll get through these years just as scarred as the rest of us.

Answer 4

Parents yell even when they are upset about something else in their life. Check whether there is some like that. Let them know that you are feeling hurt about their yelling. No guarantees but it might work some times. But do stop babying around if that is why you get into trouble. Dont get disheartened with all this. repeat to yourself that you are not worthless. Hope things work out.

Answer 5

No it is not just you. But it would be a good Idea if you would discuss this with your parents. I am sure they want the best for you.

It is very difficult to be a teenager. Explain to your parents you are in-between childhood, and becoming an adult. When they give you constructive criticism you would appreciate if they would talk, and not yell at you. You want to grow up and learn the correct values in life, from their life's challenges, understanding, and experience. Explain to them that you value their input. But it is very difficult for you when they yell.

When you do this they will look at you from a whole different perspective, and will consider your emotions, and feelings. They will see you for who you really are and be very proud of you, for the fact that you are speaking to them as an adult.

Answer 6

Yes, it is fantastic to grow up. Can you sit down and make a small list of reasons for which your parents yell at you? Take note of what upsets them and try to avoid giving them an opportunity to yell at you. Often teenagers in their struggle for independence go through experiences of ups and downs. The best way to pro act is by loving yourself and appreciating yourself. Love and appreciation of self should lead to constant growth becoming what you are called to be a human-becoming. In this happy realistic process chances for yellings from parents are less. Try it.

Answer 7

hi friend! EVERYBODY goes thru the same stages, believe me. I am an asian, but ever since i have started answering quest on yahoo...i reached the conclusion that human emotions are the same everywhere.
there was a time , when we were kids, mummy wouldn't allow us to have sleep-overs at friend's houses. now that i have grown up, i realise that the world is a wicked place and why mothers are so possesive about their daughters!
your parents are NOT your enemies, they stop u from something coz they worry about you.
are you sure you dont give them cause to worry about?
do they get unduly angry?
try TALKING to your mum in a grown up way, that SHOUTING hurts you.
from ur side, pls be open to discussion, SHARE THE DAY'S HIGHS AND LOWS with them so that you may BETTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
i f nothing works, pls try talking to the school counsellor. she will help you.
pls try some mind relaxing activities like yoga, prayer, meditation, reiki, have you ever heard of it? try the net. MAYBE THIS PATH OF SELF-DISCOVERY WILL GIVE YOU THE REQUISITE PEACE OF MIND. Allright?
pls be sure to talk to them about ur feelings on the subject in a calm, self posessed manner.
YOU ARE N.O.T. worthless. you are a wonderful human being, stand infront of the mirror daily and tell urself this, girlie.
try to acieve an inner calm and peace.
study hard, stand on ur own two feet, carve a niche for urself in ur career and then see...its a different high! go for it...live ur life to the FULLEST, at ur age, there shud be no room for unhappiness.
God be with you...

Answer 8

I would discuss this issue with your parents, they may not know that when they yell and you that it make you feel worthless and alone. And if that doesn't change, seek help from a professional counselor or an adult family member of your parents.

Answer 9

its noraml to feel that way at that age,it is cos you are still learning yourself.and your confidence hasnt developed yet.and there is the tendency for you to beleive what people say about you.negetive or not,you will grow out of it but you need to help yourself.everything is an experience take what you can from it and develop yourself,dont be too much on the defensive it can be destructive.be good.

Answer 10

the best thing to do is talk to your parents about how you feel. Tell them you feel worthless, tell them you don't know how to feel better, do they know how to help you, do you need couseling and if so is it so bad? therapy is only about what YOU need nothing else, they help you realise what is important and should be on the top of the list and what you think you need to do and helps you prioritise yourself. Its not about making you feel different, therapy is about making yourself happy with yourself. Take care Heather