Difference in parenting.?

Question

I moved in with my boyfriend and his 6yo son In October. And i need to know how to approach this. My BF seems a little lazy to me. He has job that gives him a lot of free time at home. But he doesn't send much of it interacting with his son. He will watch TV before sending time with his son. Few examples. He proud of the fact that his son is a independ child. But at six how independent can he be. I give him complete attention when helping him with his homework. My BF will watch TV and read the directions to his son. But still be more into the TV. At bedtime he wants tucked in. My BF response is not tonight. But he's only laying down hisself. Not like he is getting ready for work or really busy. And few other things that really get under my skin. How do I say the obvious without calling him a lazy *** or worse a Bad parent. I just feel at that age he a lot more attention.Because of things i have witnessed. Like still putting his shoes on the wrong foot. He pouts alot. And

And his attention span is a pain. Have to repeat things more than twice. Or is all of this just what boys do.

Answer 1

I think he's the same kind of parent that my husband is. He leaves it to me. I don't know what the answer is, because if you make an issue about it, you cause anger.
Perhaps you could suggest putting the tv off until the little boy goes to bed.
I wouldnt' worry too much about his putting the shoes on the wrong foot, or pouting. He's just a little boy, and quite frankly, he's not getting enough attention.
It must be hard for you. I hope you learn to love him and give him what he needs.

Answer 2

My husband is the same way.Most Men don't have the built in parenting skill s that a lot of mothers have. Try talking to him about it. tell him that you are worried that his son is going to feel like daddy is distant from him. Don't get in his face about it though. He has been doing things his way for many years and you can't expect him to change over night. Try implementing ''Daddy and me time" My husband spends an hour a day with just my son. They play game, count, jump around in my son's room and all kinds of fun stuff. i use the time to clean... works out for all of us.

Answer 3

Let his *** know girl! He do that **** cause he know you gone do it if he don't. Tell him exactly how you feel.