My boyfriend and I really care about each other and we were friends for a year before we became a couple so we know each other really well. Anyways we have been kissing a lot more lately and he knows that I do not want to sleep with anyone until I am married. This includes all types of sex. Anyways, he respects that but we have been kissing and he always goes after my neck and my chest and things got carried away and he was slipping his hand up my shirt. He also thinks it's okay to touch my butt or chest. I told him that it is my body and I asked if he respects me a nd he said yes. He is a great guy and always listens to how I am feeling...but do you think I am over-reacting or am I right to say this to him?? I love when he kisses my neck, but it could lead to something more that I've promised not to do until marriage. He said he doesn't want "sex" and respects that I don't. So when we do all this...is that bad for him if he gets worked up and doesn't get anything in return?
2007-02-26 18:59:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What limit do y'all think I should stop at as to not get him worked up and also to keep us from doing more than I intend?
2007-02-26 19:01:24 · update #1
Limiting your activities is a good idea. Foreplay is temptation. If your truely waiting until marriage I would advise it's probably not a good idea to get the blood flowing, if you know what I mean. It could lead to a lapse of judgement, and you might end up with a regret in the morning. I respect your decision and I'm sure your boyfriend does too. But, again... temptation isn't a good think for your resolve, or his for that matter. Set you boundries (its NOT overreacting!!), and make sure you BOTH stick to them.
2007-02-26 19:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by lilnickle144 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to set the limits you are comfortable with, and he shold never get mad about what those limits are. I agree with others that it doesn't take a whole lot to get many guys or girls worked up, but that doesn't mean they can't deal with stopping. It might not be fun, but you can still do it. He can always take care of himself at a later time. At the same time it is very easy to go beyond your limits if you aren't strict about them and let them keep changing. Don't let it be always your responsibility to make sure you stop when you want to. Make sure he knows you expect him to help you keep your goal by not taking advantage of any momentary impulsive feelings you might have.
2007-02-27 03:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
Well, I think it’s really okay. You should put limits on your boyfriend and he should respect that. And about your question "is that bad for him if he gets worked up and doesn't get anything in return?" the answer for me is yes. If he loves you, he must understand why things go like that. He should be broad minded regarding on that situation. Maybe you can make up to him in other ways like being so thoughtful and extra caring to him. I admire your aspiration in life and you’re a tough woman.
Keep it up…
May love and peace of mind be with you…
2007-02-27 03:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by RJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u r strong...keep it up. if u said no to ur bf stick to it. it's a good thing to reserve things like sex until marriage. in fact, that also serves as a test to ur bf whether he really loves u that much to give in to ur principles and respect ur decisions. that way u can be sure that he's not only after ur body or ur virginity. if he respected u up until u finally decide to marry then he's worth all the wait, but if he gives up just because he thinks ur depriving him of sex, well, he doesn't deserve u. it's also a great feeling on ur part. u can tell ur future hubby proudly that u got no one else but him when it comes to that part of ur personality.
2007-02-27 03:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by suzielyse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for men even kissing gets them "worked up" like you say but i respect you for wanting to wait and i think your guy is lovely for wanting and respecting you to wait...... Avoid starting things esp. when alone coz one thing always leads to another.
2007-02-27 03:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its good to be a virgin but you need to find thing to do then sit and kiss and if a woman said no then its no stop let him feel your butt and **** because if he get work up then what stop while you are a head
2007-02-27 03:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with waiting if both parties agree, but I am betting from what you have stated that he really wants more, and unless he is very patient he will move on eventually.
2007-02-27 03:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respect your boundaries- end of the story. You are a very strong woman and you should be admired.
2007-02-27 03:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Theodore B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my case.... a simple kiss gets my mojo rising. So i say that if you dont wanna have sex.... dont touch him
2007-02-27 03:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married soon!
2007-02-27 03:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Josephine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋