My boyfriend and I have been together for about 1yr and 1/2. In the beginning of the relationship we were sex maniac's (sometimes 3-4 times a day). Now we seem to be having sex less and less (about once every 2 wks). I know he is not cheating on me because I'm on the phone or with him all the time. I cant think of anything that has happened in his life recently that would take a toll on our sex life. I'm thinking maybe now that he knows I want sex a lot he has backed off. Maybe I should give him excuses when he wants it and he will realize how I'm feeling. I don't know. Sex isn't really that big of a deal I mean other than that we have a GREAT relationship. any advice for me would we appreciated. Thank you =)
2007-02-26 18:38:24 · 17 answers · asked by wisperssweetnothingz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He always says no to me. I dont ask that often like every 3-4 days but its always no unless he is extremely horny
2007-02-26 18:44:30 · update #1
I do ask him about it but when I do he gets angry and asks me if sex is really that important to me
2007-02-26 18:46:35 · update #2
Geez I didnt think so many people would attack me on this question. Im concerned that something may be on his mind thats all. I love him and I wanted to make sure that this was a normal thing.
2007-02-26 18:50:30 · update #3
uh well me and my girl have been together since august of 1998 and youll find that after a while it gets old. But there is something you can do about it! Im not trying to be funny here but you guys have to get kinky and tell each other your fantasies and mix it up a bit. Believe me this is all that will save your sex life otherwise its lights out at 9 o clock and goodnight! Because lets all be honest here for a minute it doesnt matter if your Hilary Duff when two people are together a long time you get tired of the same old sex. But!! if you get creative sexually its like tuning up the motor on that old hotrod it will get things going. take it from someone who knows wink wink!
2007-02-27 16:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just to ask him about it. He might not be cheating on you but, he might be interested in someone else. That's a possibility but probably a long shot. He might've just slowed down a bit because you two have been together awhile. If you want to know or want to improve things, ask him about it. Don't badger him. Back off if he get irritated but let him know how you're feeling.
2007-02-26 18:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by FactoryGirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every couple wants sex early in the relationship because new relationship gives great adrenaline rushes and hormones. There may not be anything wrong. You cannot compare the way your sex life is right now to the way that it used to be. If he is treating you differently, then something may be wrong with him. If it really bothers you, then you need to be honest with him. If you are open enough to have sex, you should be open enough to talk about it.
Amanda
2007-02-26 18:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
extra info would help. yet right here is going: in case you have had intercourse and he's not having it with you it must be for countless motives. a million. there must be yet another female. 2. according to danger the intercourse wasn't good. 3. you are able to step it up and look captivating and warm for him to prefer you. If he has had intercourse with all his exes its of course obvious that he's sexually lively. My suggestion is start up with #3. Do the completed push up bra subject, make up, gown warm and ask your self him and get him able the place he will not be able to assert no. make certain you do examine and locate out what he likes... whether you are able to watch porn to do it. I certainly have prevalent some firends that are females that take stripper training to maintain the intercourse interesting. make the attempt. make effective the intercourse is nice and that he's incredibly blown away after, you have gotten the skill to tell by skill of the look on his face. If that would not artwork to proceed the intercourse, then you definately could look in to reason #a million and pass by using his telephone, yet make effective u attempt #3 and a pair of firs tbefore leaping into any end. good good fortune
2016-10-16 21:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as him about it. Otherwise maybe it just got too routine for him you could try spicing it up a little and see how it goes. Is the problem that he says no when you try or that he doesn't try anymore. Maybe he is just waiting for you to initiate it more often. The best thing to do is ask him about it maybe he feels the same way but doesn't know how to tell you! good luck!
2007-02-26 18:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by MelC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if se-x is not that important to you, why are you asking the question, just let it be, live life, be a good partner and get on with it, or, make it a huge drama production, who knows if you try really friggin hard maybe you can drive the poor guy nuckin futs.
or he'll act like an old dog that you been kickin and just run away.
ONE MORE THING GIRLS, IF YOU WANT TO RUN A MAN AWAY, HOLD OUT ON THE SEX AND "TRY TO TEACH HIM A LESSON!" I PROMISE THEY WILL FIND IT SOMEWHERE ELSE, AND QUICK.
just surprised ya'll haventr figured it out yet.
2007-02-26 18:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you don't make him feel that having sex is just to satisfy you.
Do you know that men also love some foreplay as well? Make sure you read about how to provide extra sensual foreplay. Dun ever let him feel you are in control.
Lastly, please talk to him whether if he is in good health? Communication is important in any relationship and no merely sex.
2007-02-26 18:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by hsm 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate when girls say they know their man isn't cheating. You don't know that...You just assume that. You don't have a reason to believe he is...but don't say you know. If your relationship is great then don't worry about the drop in sex especially if its not that big of a deal.
2007-02-26 18:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its normal for guy to slowly 'lose' interest in sex... especially with their girlfriend... i can guarantee u if u get another girl to do with him, he will be 'active' like before... guys are always like that... of coz, including me too... this is my thinking lo... like u say, sex is not a must, but a neccesarity to maintain a relation... try tok to ur bf regarding this issue... maybe he have some reason for losing in sex... or try something new...
2007-02-26 18:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just human nature. He's probably masturbating to fantasies, I really don't know many guys who can go for two weeks without some kind of orgasm.
2007-02-26 18:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋