his girl has been on and off with me for ages....and i dont know what to do. At the start we were really good mates, then she started taking me to lunches, movies etc...and when she broke it off with her ex, she told me to go comfort her, which i did, but didnt go any further, as i didnt want to be the rebound. Soon after, she got angry at me(dont ask why i dont know), and didnt taslk to me properly for ages...one thing i did notice, i never ever once asked her to go out to lunches, she always done all the work back then....???2months gone,and now we went to the movies together, i asked and she accepted, and also we went out during the day just mucking around, and she was acting like she used to which was great.....i dont know whether she likes me as a friend, or whether its something elsE?....she does seem to be more interested again, and is talking to me properly again now. Thing is i really like her, but dont want to ruin what we have. what could i do in a subtle way to show her?
2007-02-26 18:22:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did just break up with her b/f last year around decemberish...the same time she roughly stopped really talking to me...and now shes coming right again...whats this mean.
Well today she said she wants to thank me for doing something fo her, by taking me out to the movies.....
How can i let her know i like her in a subtle manner....give her compliments, thank her often??tell her i had a great time?
2007-02-26 18:23:29 · update #1
the start should read "this girl", not "his girl"
2007-02-26 18:24:12 · update #2
It sounds to me that even if you do end up having a relationship with her you will only get hurt at the end. She doesn't seem like a person who wants a relationship. It seems to me that she enjoys playing with peoples emotions. And enjoys getting the attention. She uses people like a ping pong ball. PING, she talks nicely, PONG, she is rude or ignors. PING, takes you to the movies, etc.. PONG, she stops. PING, asks you for comfort, PONG, is finished with you after she is comforted.
Either she is a selfish person, or is not stable emotionally.
You sound like a great sincere guy, find someone who is worthy of you. You deserve better.
2007-02-26 18:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her how she feels. Tell her you know she just came out of relationship but you do like her. She probably stopped talking to you for a bit because she was depressed or angry over her breakup. She could've been just mad at men in general, who knows? Ask her about that and just tell her that it hurt you a bit because you really like her. Drop a few hints like that. If she still doesn't get the point, ask her point blank. It might ruin what you have no but it's doubtful. Either way, you'll know where you stand with her and hopefully, you two can get to the next level.
2007-02-27 02:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by FactoryGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. I suggest you drop some hint like "would you like to have a candlelight dinner date with me?"
Bear in mind, the answers can be both ways.
1. If yes (congratulations)
2. What? No? Why? - perhaps you should jokingly say : 'luckily you rejected me' and smile..... (to avoid embarrassment)
The moral of the story is : if you dun ask you wouldn't know the answer
2007-02-27 02:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by hsm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm lets see she was talking to you when she was with her bf and then she breaks up with him and stops talking to you. Can we say she was just using you to possibly get her bf jealous.
And also she is back to being nice to you again like she was before when she was with her bf. Take the hint she is back with him and trying to use you as a pawn in her twisted little game.
Move on you do not need to be letting this girl play mind games with you.
2007-02-27 02:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her just say so " i like you more as a friend, i think you really cool, attractive and it is fun hanging out with you", if she would answer as "i like only as a friend" , so than you will know what is a deal and just accept it and be her friend. If you wanna find out why she got mad at you than couple months ago, than ask her why did she get mad at you. It is all about communication, she cannot read your mind, like you(you cannot read her mind and wonder why she did like that). It is all about communication, tell her how you feel, what you think.
2007-02-27 02:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by M A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, do things that hint to her that you like her with your body movement...like being close to her all the time and show her that you won't get so close to other female friends
then if she likes you she'll do the same
if you're going to the movies, there are tons of moments to ask or just kiss her in a 'moment' thing
2007-02-27 02:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I bet she already knows how you feel about her. Why don't you just "spill your guts" and tell her you want to be more than friends. Really, what's the worst that could happen?
2007-02-27 02:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋