First, let me tell you, I lives with my mom. Ok, tonight, I was on the phone with my friend talking about one of my friends' mom. My mom was eardropping on my conversation and misinterpreted it. She accused me of talking about her, but she would not tell me what I said. Therefore, I can't defend myself. I went to her to defend myself a couple of times, but no hope. What do I do? Why the mind games?
2007-02-26 18:14:55 · 9 answers · asked by teryl2930308 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is your mom so bored that she feels the need to eavesdrop? or is this something she does regularly?
she is either a bit insecure with your relationship or she's just nosy.
dont defend yourself....youre giving her ammo. Just tell her you're sorry if she misunderstood and that you love her.
2007-02-26 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even though it all depends on the mother, I would recommend just dropping it. If you keep trying to defend yourself, she'll interpret that as you admitting that you talked about her, and that you don't want to admit it (I know that that sentence sounds weird, but that's the only way I can think of saying it). Just say that you weren't and leave it at that. If she asks what you were talking about, tell her. Don't try and force the truth onto her. And this may not be the right way to do it, but it's what I would do.To the mind games, it's because that's what mom's do. They love to mess with our heads. I hope that my answer helps. Oh, and don't bring up the eaves dropping until after you explain yourself, if at all. You'll just make her all defensive.
2007-02-27 02:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rather than upset your mom, why don't you just tell her exactly whom you were talking about and then, why don't you ask her why did she think you were talking about her? If she has a negative opinion about herself and thinks you have a negative opinion about her, you need to clear that up at once. If you are an adult, over the age of 18, then you need to start looking for your own place where you can have some telephone (and other) privacy for yourself so that cannot happen again. Best wishes.
2007-02-27 02:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she was eavesdropping in the first place. She is probably hurt right now, but all you can do is tell her the truth. If you have a good relationship, then she will believe you. That's the problem when people eavesdrop. They hear things they don't want to hear. She'll be fine in a day or two.
2007-02-27 02:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her when you listen to other people's private conversations you may hear things you don't want to hear. If you misinterpret them it's your problem not the person on the phone. Reacting and trying to defend yourself is just giving her the power in the situation. If she doesn't want to hear your explanation then she shouldn't listen in.
2007-02-27 02:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by MissWong 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should earn your money move to a seperate house . That will be the solution for your every problem about your family . Sorry I do not know too much about you so I said earn your money .Maybe you have a job and already earning too much money .I wanna say that it is normal to have problems if you live with your family.
2007-02-27 02:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start off telling her right away what you and your friend was talking about, also explain to her if you had a problem with her that you would talk to her about it first, then with someone else.
2007-02-27 02:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you told her he truth...than thats all u can do...she might never believe you....but moms never stop loving their kids...dont keep beging her to listen it sound like ur lying...moms think that way...
2007-02-27 02:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by **PrinCess** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moms are slightly insane
2007-02-27 02:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋