after meeting first time he was like ;i really like you and i know you also like me i need sometime with you so that we can make things in proper way'....then we met 2nd time with group of friends....but after 2 days of that his behavior changes a lot he has started treating me like a FRIEND only.....by the way( he had breakup of his 8 yrs relationship)....in nov 2006.......one of our common friend's observation is that his circumstances are so difficlut that he wont be able to go for love marraige for the second time,,,,he might do arrange marriage just for the sake of his mom's happiness, i am very confused at the moment ......if i cutoff....will i regret? and if i wont cutiff, will i be able to bear the pain when he will go with some one else......i discussed his behavior change with him he says no one knows what is in our fate! what should i do.......very tensed:(
2007-02-26 18:14:03 · 12 answers · asked by Ashiii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he cares for you but is torn between you and his mother. His mom is most likely not happy with his seeing anyone outside of her wishes.
Also, he may still care for his ex-girlfriend and has mixed feelings right now. I wouldn't break it off completely but let him know you will date others. Give him time and a little separation (no pressure). It might help him decide what he wants to do....right now he is confused...
2007-02-26 18:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want to be mean about this but you really have no choice to make. He doesn't want to be with you and he doesn't know how to just come right out and tell you. He is treating you like a friend because that is how he wants it, he doesn't want anything long term with you.
It's best to have him as a friend than to not have him at all. I'm really sorry that this may sound so mean but from reading your question this is the only answer that I would see fit to put here.
2007-02-26 18:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is concerned about your certainty and while I've heard people say that they "knew right away", I am more inclined to question it. The two of you barely know each other. And he obviously has some pain and trust issues because of his last relationship. I hope he is able to move past those, but clearly he hasn't yet. I would suggest to you that you either find a way to start over with him with respect & understanding of where he is at or move on.
2007-02-26 18:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a mamas boy. I would steer clear of him. You only know him for a very short while now, if you are in pain now can you imagine how much pain you will be in if you do start a relationship, and then he breaks up with you.
Be smart, and wait for him to make the first move. He knows already that you are interested in him.
2007-02-26 18:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ended an 8 year relationship only 3 months ago? Chill... you are wanting way too much way too fast.
He is still hurting. Accept the friendship and in time maybe it will be more.
2007-02-26 18:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by reallyconfuzzled1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not into you, sorry. Any guy (or girl) that changes that fast has a screw loose. End it. He's not paying attention to you and he has no idea what he wants. He not being mysterious when he says it's up to fate. He's pretty much telling you he has no idea if he wants you or if something better might come along. Make up his mind for him and end it. It's better to find someone who cares for you and knows what they want.
2007-02-26 18:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by FactoryGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to rush into anything or allow someone to push you into a relationship too fast, especially if it is physical. People need time to get to know one another, to see if they're compatible. I don't recommend that you rush into anything with this person. Tell them to take it slow because you're worth being patient for.
2007-02-26 18:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by CandyCane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably still very broken up with this previous 8 yr. relationship. I am sure he really likes you but you want to move to fast and he is probably scared of being rejected again.
2007-02-27 02:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by 333(i'm only 1/2 evil) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let it be and let things go in their natural way and course, dont try to think too much, he is reflecting about his life right now and youre right its not a good idea to push that topic, so be friends with him,its for the best
2007-02-26 18:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him how you feel. If you have feelings for him then be honest with him. Hopefully he will be honest with you. Don't be pushy. Good luck.
2007-02-26 18:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋