I feel like I don't belong in this world - what can I do?

Question

I am on wellbutrin and zoloft which has helped some....but I still sometimes wish I was dead because I look around at people and sometimes I hate them & wish Osama would blow them all up, and other times I look at them like I just will never fit in with them

I guess it doesn't help that somehow I got mixed up in a fundamental Christian church, and they are pressuring me to give up everything I love (basically anything that doesn't feed me spiritually...like secular music). Their lifestyle is so drastically different from mine, but they have taken me in and want me to be a part of them....I don't know what to do

Answer 1

First of all, you never let a group of so called Christians to tell you you shouldn't listen to the music you enjoy or clothes you like to wear or anything else that you do. You know what's right and wrong and most of what preachers tell you is wrong is not in tune with what God would say. He didn't put you into this world to be miserable. I'm a Christian who doesn't conform to man's doctrines and quite happy about it at that. I can't tell you where to go to church or who to listen to but you have a mind that God gave to only you. You are unique and what makes you happy, unless it harms someone including yourself, is okay with God. What do they know? Damn straight that's not feeding you spiritually. God is freedom, not dictation. Make sure your doctor knows how you feel. You might have a crack at a different medication with better results. Some medications cause more problems than they solve. Eveyone who's here belongs. We all have something to offer. That includes you. I don't have to know you to tell you, yes, you belong!

Answer 2

Christianity can be a real lifesaver because it gives you a purpose, but don't lose your individuality to it. Any church that tries to regulate your life down to the details (like, don't have piercings, don't listen to secular music, don't wear short skirts, etc.) probably won't do you much good in the long run because it'll just suck the life out of you and frustrate you even more. But there are plenty of good churches and good people out there.

Remember that you don't need to look a certain way or behave a certain way to sit down and have an honest heart to heart with God. He's not going to reject you for liking certain kinds of music.

And as far as wishing you were dead, just suck it up and make the best of what you have. I know that sounds harsh, but I used to get depressed like crazy, and sometimes the best thing to do is just move on. Every day, sit down and make a list of the things that make you unhappy. When things show up consistently on your daily lists, work to make them better or avoid them, if you can. Additionally, the best way for me to deal with depression is to just relax and listen to some really deep music.

And if you're not fitting in with the people you see, find new people. There are so many people out there...and somebody will be for you.

Answer 3

my wife was on zoloft and serezone for a long time. supposedly, she was going to need it the rest of her life. However, when she got pregnant with our first child, she quit taking it. she did experience some panic attacks, but nothing like she had before she starting taking it. i don't know if age or stability or what made her able to cope without taking it anymore, but four years later she is still off it. More importantly, she has not had a panic attack in many months. i do not know how this applies to you other than, whetther you have to medicate the rest of your life or not, your feelings of anguish may diminish greatly as time goes by. as far as religion, follow your heart, not any coercion or pressure. Christianity can be a wonderful source of spiritual strength and growth, but it can also be a curse of guilt and pain. i wish you the best. I am soooo thankful that my wife managed to hang in there when she felt the way you are feeling. good luck.

Answer 4

Medication is NOT totally the answer for depression. It would be novel if it was, but it is not. Have you ever tried group counseling? Or for that matter getting into a sport or hobbie that will allow you to meet some people. You need to find out for yourself who you are, what you are all about and also what religion is best for you. These are things only you can decide. I went through the same thing, depression and all, not too long ago. I found my way and feel like a new person today. I know you can find your way and I bet you are a wonderful person just like me.

Answer 5

Maybe the medication needs to be readjusted or changed which is something you need to talk to the doctor about first. It is critical that you tell him/her how you have been feeling and then refer you to a counselor that can help you understand your feelings.

If you are looking for a spiritual answer, read for yourself into a newer translation of the bible. Take time to be kind to yourself and learn to love yourself. Listen to secular music that is relaxing and upbuilding if you so wish.

Remember that you are special in God's eyes and he does not expect more of you than you can give.

Answer 6

everyone feels isolated from the rest of the world a lot more often than they would admit. Shoot, I feel like that most of the time, and hey, it the spirituality is not you, then no one can force it on you - you might have to go, but you do not have to believe.
Being young is a lot like a sentence. You have to do the time before you get to do what you want.

Answer 7

Look, forget the church a moment. Concentrate on what is important; peace in your life. Just belonging to a church group isn't the total answer. First, give your life to Jesus Christ. Ask Him to be your personal Lord and Savior. Then, ask God , your Heavenly Father, to give you peace. The peace which surpasses all understanding. You don't have to do it in front of anybody. Do it privately. Just you and God. Give all that hate and anger and frustration to God. Just say: God, I have all this anger and hate and all these other emotions and Father, I give them all to you. I'm done with all the emotional junk. Help me to live the life you want me to live. Give me Your peace. Take away all the emotional garbage I've been carrying around and replace it with peace of mind and harmony. Thank you Lord, for giving me what I ask for. In Jesus name and I Praise you because you are God and are Worthy to be praised. Thank you for making me Your child. In Jesus name. Amen
Now when you've done that, forget it. Leave it there. Praise God, and thank Him for what He is about to do for you. Only when you've done this will you feel the peace you've been wanting. Try it, what have you got to loose?

Answer 8

this is the worse time for you to join any group. And "Christians are good and some are bad. Any group that wants you to give things up.......well you need to find a new church.

You need to find your nitch in life so you feel like you belong.
You don't need to fit in with groups. You need to just be you.

Answer 9

u should get some tickets and go on the show call
Dr. Phil if u dont know him is the guy with no hair or u can write a book and tell everyine about ur feeling about this world
i bet teens will like it
cuz id like to see something like that
if u did plz write thank to gamer on the front page!!!!!

Answer 10

well....

i would advise on this matter what i would advise of most any quite like it.

i believe you to be rather youthfull ... under 30 let me say...so...i am going to categorize you as one of the many youth which are unsure how/where to find acceptance. (or as you say..."I just will never fit in with them")

which to me indicates self-confusion. so i would say you are discovering what your own values are in a society which offers some which you like and others which are unlike you.

know what it is you can accept about yourself. and plug into those activities and relationship(s).

basically you want to discover where you are lacking or which is most troubled. ... your personal esteem (that is...who you are/what you do/what you have) or your social esteem (same as personal except these would be classified as what society may be expecting from you for being accepted into organizations/activities/relationships. and personal esteem is often confused with social esteem by people. but you want to connect with yourself so that you realize where in society you feel welcome and productive/loved.

since you are on medications it is fair of me to deduce that you have some sort of history with depression or whatever mind-set classification you are within. i think that it would be honorable for yourself to try to understand why you are being recommended these medications. i mean....what are the actual personal symptoms and behaviours which call for these types of medication and i don't know them so i won't presume to know about them or you....however.....even though you are prescribed medication it is acceptable for you to take stock of your personal mind and realizations.

with a counsellor that comprehends the more full physical organism alongside a mental health counsellor it would be or could be very productive for you to self-discover with unprejudiced co-operation.

my personal advice knowing this about you is to consider the relationship of your person to you. how you feel about which thoughts/experiences...??...questions such as what ideas create for your identity...and how do you feel/think pertaining to these.

if you feel like you don't belong in this world ...is indicative of social esteem (same as social acceptance) issues. and social esteem issues generally redirects a person back to what is esteemed personally.

so...please try to separate one category from another so that it will be easier for you to sort out your plan of transformation.

there is further aid available in self-discovery. but...fortunately or unfortunately...it is advice which you may or may not be prepared to accept. and i would not ever force my own ideas onto an other person.

try not to be hard on those who will accept you though request/advise that you give this or that up which feels right or good for you. their ideas may not always be well considered of you personally (or they may) but they may trust that a change of conditions enables self-esteem and personal discovery within a structured environment and they are right on this....but there can be further confusing elements (by loss or gains in do/be/haves) complicating (or simplifying) your choice to know you personally.

this means that you need to discover you in relationship to that around you.

i can go on...but i think you must be getting a clearer picture of how you can proceed.

i do wish you very well however....and you are always invited to ask for further advice or clarification on any topic matter which may be confusing to you.

much hope and love to you