I know this girl from more then 10 months now, i loved her a lot, even she said she love me. Guess she is really close to me as i relate everything with her. She has a frdns, very close frnd, he doesnt like me much and continue to interfer in her life, when i askd her she said she cant loose any of us, her best frnd was with her in her tough time, and she love me so she cant losse me at all. I understand all this n its prity ok, but i have notice many things she hide from me, asking her she said she did it for my sake, as she doesnt want me to feel bad. i got to trace a chat between her n her frnd, in which her frnd said I love u to her n she said she love him too, asking her she said its jus frndship nothing else, i cant take it anymore, i thought of moving out but its not easy we didnt speak for two days but i cant live without her. she cried and didnt had food for two days, is it really love or she is two timing, i am confused, is it ok to leave her, or understand her n her frnd?
2007-02-26 17:54:06 · 8 answers · asked by p_t_r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen to this. i know what you are talking about because i just got out of that something like that. GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION. i know its hard and i know it sucks. it is going to hurt but you have to look at it like this. its better to get over pain now than to keep giving yourself more by worrying about this. now you wont be able to trust her. the relationship is pretty much dead and she is just too immature to have one. tell her flat out that its over because of that kind of crap. and she will cry and say sorry and all that but she is only doing it because she feels guilty. stand your ground and be a man not a doormat. tell her if she ever grows up to call you otherwise its just a waste of time. that is bull **** that she is telling that to her "friend" who knows what else she is doing with this "friend" dont give yourself this stress and BS just end it and heal and move on. stop being a doormat and a sap. she wanted to fool around now she gets the consequences. or you can just sit there and stay in the relationship and go through this every 5 days like i did until she leaves you for another guy. the choice is yours. this relationship is over already you just dont know it yet.
2007-02-26 18:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by U.S MARINE GREG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should learn to trust her if you love her. That's very important.
Learn to listen in what she has to say and don't condemn her. Be supportive and don't let the argument last more than a day.
First, tell your girlfriend that your jealousy is hurting you and that it is making you sad. Try to say it peacefully and not out of anger. Being open and honest is the bandage to the relationship.
Second, tell her that you are trying your best be at peace with yourself. Your goal is to embrace your anger and understand that you are a victim of a wrong perception or idea. You may have misunderstood what you heard and what you saw. This will diffuse the anger and the hell you have caused or imagined. Never assume the worst. If you stress yourself with imaginings of the worst case scenario, you throw away your love for your girlfriend into the garbage of doubt.
And the last is to ask her to help you by asking her to be patient. Let her know that it is always best to be open with each other when doubt comes to mind. Not communicating is the demise or death of any relationship.
Realize that you should not be hard on yourself and whatever your girfriend is experiencing with her friend does not pertain to you. If her friend wants her to be more than friends and she does not feel the same way, its a good sign that there are better days in store for you.
Being at Peace is the common thread to understanding. Make sure you hold on dearly to it.
2007-02-27 02:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it could be anything.You need to stick around a bit longer.You need to find out for sure what's going on.Most of the time oposite sex best friends become lovers.But longer you stay,more you'll know.That way if you deside to leave you won't have any regrets about it.Hang in there a bit longer.
2007-02-27 02:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read once that love may be unconditional but relationships are not. It sounds like you have tried to be tolerant of her friendship but it's just not working. If she won't respect your feelings and try to change the situation then you are left with the choice of accepting it or removing yourself from th situation.
2007-02-27 02:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you dump her find a female friend you can hang out with and give her the same dose of her medicine.
2007-02-27 01:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit em both down and let em know what they are doin' to you, you'll be able t tell by the looks in their eyes or guilty glances toward each other if ya should pack it up and cut yer losses..good luck
2007-02-27 02:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by BrownPuPPy_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say when you dont know the whole story and dont know her but from what you type it sounds to me like she is two-timing, if she says the same things to the both of you its just not right.
2007-02-27 01:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by america_guy_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to urself! if she's cheating.. she probably is... if u have reasons to believe so..
2007-02-27 01:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by honeyxmust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋