I wouldn't have to if they just let me do something fun once in a while. They are just too strict and overbearing and I feel suffocated. I just want a little freedom and I want to live my life while I'm still young. You know?
2007-02-26 17:45:42 · 13 answers · asked by DarkAaron 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It may seem that way from your perspective, but they probably love you very much, want the best for you and want to keep you from getting hurt.
I used to think the same way when I was a teen. I thought my parents were prudish, overly strict and controlling, being invasive and hovering. I secretly disobeyed them, sneaking off to do what I wanted to do instead of listening to them. I thought that there was no way they could understand how I felt. I was wrong.
My rebellion against what they knew was best for me caused me to get into loads of trouble. My grades fell, I was responsible for getting my girlfriend pregnant, I became an alcoholic and I attempted suicide - all before I was 16.
Later after I became older, got married and had kids of my own. One by one they grew up to become teens themselves and they had some of the same complaints against me that I had against my parents. I realized then that I wasn't unique and kids for generations have been struggling with their parents like this throughout history.
With our last daughter at home, we are attempting to allow enough freedom so that she will learn the consequences of making wrong decisions on her own, while at the same time imposing some boundaries to insure her safety. It's a fine line and a very important one.
Try to understand your parents' actions before judging them too harshly and put yourself in their shoes. Imagine if you were the parent and had a teenage kid - would you allow them to do the things you are wanting to do?
2007-02-26 17:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember thinking I was so cool, sneaking off to see a older man when I was 17. I wanted freedom.
It sure bit me. It took years to get back on track.
I sometimes wonder if they trusted me so much and I betrayed that trust or did they just not care.
That was almost 40 years ago. Today there are so many more things out there that can get a person into trouble or just plain dead.
I hope that you will think about what it is that you REALLY want out of life and how what you are doing will affect those goals. A very small deviance from the directions can take you far from where you want to be.
2007-02-27 02:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Butterflie927 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how young you are, but if you are still living under your parents roof, then you are probably at least under the age of 18, safe to say that. It would help if I knew your age.
I do not know what you think of young or what you think of fun and freedom, but you will have time to do that in your life. You will have time to go out and have fun when you are able to deal with the responsibility of doing the things you need to do before you do the things you WANT to do. That is adulthood. You need to know that your parents are not doing this to be mean. They are doing this to protect you. There are things in the world that they wish that you NEVER had to deal with, and hope and pray that you NEVER ever encounter. Respect them. In turn, they will give you more freedom little by little.
In the meantime, try doing some things around the house without being asked. Prove to them without being told that you can be more responsible. Clean up the kitchen or the living room or whatever. Make sure your room is cleaned before you go off to school. Make sure your homework is done. Tell them what's going on at school and what tests you have. Be honest with them and open. If you have a better relationship with them, and you allow them to know what is going on, then they will know you are not hiding things. they will be able to trust you more
Talk to them. Ask them about adding one little privilege, like going to the mall with some friends on a weekend after your chores are done and after you've got your homework finished up for the weekend. Make sure you have your things you NEED to do before the things you WANT. It will show you are responsible and ready to handle some more freedom. Hope this helps. Have a good day!
Amanda
2007-02-27 01:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of fun are you looking for? What kind of people do you hang out with? Is there a reason they are so strict? Maybe they are just trying to protect you. Maybe they were wild when they were younger and know what happens when young people have their "freedom". Give them a break and change your attitude toward them. Maybe they will start to realize you are maturing and allow you to go have 'fun' once in a while.
2007-02-27 01:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cindie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually like to answer in a mature way, but this one I can agree with you. My parents were totally overbearing and would never, I mean NEVER let me out of the house without a detailed explanation. So I did lie, I lied all the time, that's the only way I was able to get out of the house. That doesn't mean I did drugs or drank all the time, but I got to be free. Once I turned 18, my parents pretty much eased up and I showed them I was mature.
I say, choose your freedom wisely when you lie. Sometimes it can bite you in the ***.
2007-02-27 01:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by MissDivine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you EARNED any freedom or fun time?
i guess not. Life isn't just handed to you because you are board, you have to earn your freedom. Be thankful there isn't a revolutionary war that takes all males over the age of 12 and sends them off to battle...If there was, I'm sure you would understand what it means to really earn something. Stop being a bratt and try to do something nice and responsible for once..
2007-02-27 01:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to them and telling them how you feel...if that was not successful then tell that you are going to make new plans with or without their approval, but use that route as a LAST resort...try to find a way for this to work
2007-02-27 01:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought that too.....and now when i look back i realize that they had good intentions. be more concerned if they DONT talk to you rather than them not letting you go somewhere.
there is something behind their decisions. they have a fear. find out what it is and do whatever you can to eliminate that fear. I was thinking today that one day my daughter will want to go "out" and that would be hard for me. then I realized if I stay with good communication and trusting in her / vice versa...then I can learn to handle it.
ask what is their fear of you going out. i'm sure it's not you that they dont trust...its everyone else out there.
2007-02-27 01:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG... sound like my parents! I always tell them that i'm going to a libary but i end up going out.. its the only way they will let meeh out... they will never understand... They care and liove u so much that they dont want to to go out in case u end up doing something bad or something.. i call our lies.. .WHITE lie... its okay... u cant always be honest! I've grown to be a fine women... i've been in college four yrs and will be done soon... ! i even finish high school with honor...
2007-02-27 01:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by honeyxmust 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just dn't do things that will get you in trouble.
they only make boundaries cause they love you.
if something were to happen to you.
it'd devistate them.
the protective parents are the ones that care.
2007-02-27 01:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋