I have 2 sons 8 & 11 and they should have everything if I should die! I lost my leg and he thinks that since we r together now that its ours.Finally I put his name on an account and he started spending like crazy going into the car business, together, I had him transfer $100.000.00 and put it in a CD. Because I have CD's put in my name and ny 2 boys. Well I went 2 the bank 2 inquire about what would b best 2 do because I had finally found a house. So, she pulled up my accts. and there it was, He had put his 2 sons as benificials on this CD without asking me or telling me about it. Well needless 2 say I chg,ed it 2 my sons and withdrew out a substancial amt. and closed out the money market he was on and went ahead and bought my home, without telling him or giving him a chance 2 talk me into anything or put his name on the deed 2. When I confronted him with this he said he did not c anything wrong with it,that he works, spents on tools.I think this was wrong what do u think?? HELP ME!!!!
2007-02-26 17:41:32 · 18 answers · asked by dreamctcher426 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I say he has no right to YOUR money. If you are not married and do not feel like allowing him or his children to have anything to do with your money, then don't. He has no right to it. Take care of yourself and your children, if he doesn't like it, too bad.
2007-02-26 17:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Happy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Good afternoon.
In the first place, both of you should have individual accounts and one joint account. Whatever savings or the money that you had claimed from loss of leg should not give him totally. Unless you really trust him a great deal but we still need a contingency plan.
There are some people who will think otherwise and regard that we should place everything into 1 account. But we should still have a personal account on our own, just in case...
Okay, back to you question. He sounds more like a male chauvinist, who only does what he thinks is correct and always want to have a control over his woman. Based on your question, he doesn't like to discuss anything with you. Gal, you have to be careful with this guy. He spends a lot of money and he only wants the best for his sons.. (I mean which parents don't).. But you have to remember the fact that he should also consider your sons as his own as well.
What he had done was wrong. You should sit down with him to talk about this matter. Tell him nicely that from his point, maybe he doesn't see anything wrong with it. But ask him to understand from your point of view, that both of you are in a relationship now. And these of decisions should discuss with you or to inform you. This is the fundamental concept of respect and trust of being in a relationship.
He needs to know that you don't feel good about it that he has made a decision and that you are made aware of it. See what he says.. Remember, this is a friendly talk. Please think of what to speak to him before you talk to him. He seems like a guy who will jump to conclusions or is a quick temper person. So you have to strategize a bit..
Good Luck!!
2007-02-26 18:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm sorry for the situation that you are in. These kind of issues can be very difficult. I think you have done the right thing though. You need to look after you and your 2 boys first and foremost. I'm sure your partner is a great, loving guy, however I also think that if he truely loves you, then he will respect your decision. Love and trust should always be mutual in a relationship. Good luck!!! :o)
2007-02-26 17:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nyza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being slick and it is wrong. If he lied you he would not have you choosing between him and money. Your children comes before him and everything else, what you did was terriffic to have his name taken off and your children name put on it. I also believe you need to sit down with him and have a nice long talk, also be careful with your personal information around him because he does not sound like a very trustful guy after the way he did that behind your back.
2007-02-26 18:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely wrong and I'm pretty sure that you know that he's using you.You know what's best for your children and allowing some man access to your money is not it.For him to even say that your money is "ours" is absolutely ridiculous.Your money belongs to you and your kids.They are your only responsibility.If he wants money,he should get his own instead of trying to be a low down crook.When you leave this earth you want your kids to be taking care of and if you continue to let this man cheat you,you're cheating your children and as a parent myself,I know that's something that you do not want to do.Think of your children and that way he'll never be able to talk you into anything.Give him 0 access to your money or else your kids will suffer when you pass and he'll be the one happy.Lucky for you though,all the bad that he's already done,will fall back on him.GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-26 17:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by DA_ONE_AND_ONLY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should remove him from the account & get an agreement in writing for anything else you spend on him as to paying it back, etc.
If you spend/invest any more in this business he started, be sure he pays it back & get that in writing OR insist that you be part owner in the company.
It sounds like there's not full communication & agreement between you two. Be careful that you are not being tajen advantage of.
2007-02-26 17:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Vyctorya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i trust that is going below the heading of 'sexual harassment' if (a) you do not pick it and (b) you ask him to diminish it out and he keeps doing it. it really is fantastically obviously in simple terms what you imagine it really is - he's hitting on you. he will be rationalizing it as "being supportive" or another such silliness, yet you in effortless words do not hug and puppy someone who you're not to any extent further in touch with, extraordinarily if she works for you. Your possibilities are: enable him artwork you into mattress or tell him to stop it and probable get yet another job.
2016-12-05 00:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to protect your self and your children. FIRST. Get a good lawyer and or financial planner and leave him out of it...in fact you should probably kick this guy to the curb cause it sounds like he is only after your money. Get help today!!!
2007-02-27 01:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say this guy is a leech, how dare he try and control your money, big mistake on putting his name on anything, Id say get to a lawyer quick and get everything in writing for your own kids.
2007-03-02 13:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by jumps62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married to him-he has legally no rights to any of that money-that is yours, for you, and your two sons-no one else! He needs to pay you back what he spent, took, whatever-asap! Please, get rid of the guy asap! Or, at least keep your money 100% separate from him, at all times! Please consult with an attorney, (if you can afford it), to see what you can legally do to protect this money of yours from him at all times. I wish you and your sons the best. Take care.
2007-02-26 18:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to provide for your sons- they are number one. Do you really want to be involved with someone who was deceptive with YOUR money? If he thinks it's ok that he did this, then he sees nothing wrong with it and will do it again. Even if he apologized, I wouldn't trust him again. Get out of this situation ASAP for the sake of your children.
2007-02-26 17:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by Chatraye 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋