They say listen to you heart but don't you hate when your heart is simply illogical?

Question

I met this guy when I started a new grad program and we liked each other but he had a gf of 2 yrs. Still, he acted on it & we were kind of together until I told him he needed to figure things out. We decided to be friends to avoid trouble, but we clearly still had a strong attraction. We weren't nearly as close & were pretty awkward around each other until recently.

He broke up with his gf & got back together & is trying to make it up to her. We still often have "those moments" but try to stay away. A neutral friend made it clear he still acts like he doesn't wanna be w/ her. I've tried to forget the whole thing (6 months) but still really like him! (He doesn't know) I'm also upset we aren't good friends anymore. I try to play it cool & end up ignoring him 1/2 the time (which I can't seem to stop doing). I know we would be so good together & I'm not sure what to do. Should I tell him? How do I get close to him again? Why is he still w/ her? (he's not very confrontational)

Trouble is I can't seem to move on (I've tried and tried!). Any suggestions?

How can I even make things normal between us?

Answer 1

well your heart is saying one thing, and your mind is saying something else...but it seems like you should really go on with your life and let this pass.

Answer 2

Some guys simply like to be with women who make them miserable. Somehow it gives them the excuse to run around and make plays for other women. Jerks like this are not worth the time of day. Get a real man, who will know you are the woman for him. Don't settle.

Answer 3

Sorry hun, but he loves HER, thru thick & thin. Move on without him becuz it seems like he wont move on without her

Answer 4

tell him... if he still with her, u should learn how to let go...