I'm in my 40's and it's the first time I'm dating two guys at the same time - I believe I'm a pretty lady with a not so bad looking body. I have a loving heart and enjoy laughing and looking at the bright side of life. I have a hard time with dating and have been in 6 relationships my entire life - to me, it's 5 to many.While dating, it seemed like I always ended up fighting men off me. I've always limited myself to being intimate with only one person that I've developed a relationship with. This also applies to my kisses - I feel that "swapping spit" is something I really don't want to do with just anyone and my girl friends tease me that my kissess are expensive. Which leads me to my problem:
2007-02-26 17:10:57 · 9 answers · asked by hot single mom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The past 5 weeks I've been dating two guys who are sweethearts - they don't know each other. When we depart it's always been a quick peck on the cheek, a hug and goodbye - well, one guy decided to give me a full kiss and it was terrible and unexpected, it through me off and I even had to struggle a bit to pull away. Now I don't even want to go out with him anymore because I felt like he forced himself on me but he seemed to get pleasure from it- I don't know - what in the he-- I'm doing - I guess I just wanted to vent - if you have any answers or suggestions on whats next I'd appreciate it. I just finally decided that I did want to share my life with someone and I would give it another shot. Yuck - I don't like the dating part. Thanks
2007-02-26 17:18:35 · update #1
Was it terrible because it was unexpected or was it terrible because he was a bad kisser? Sounds like you want to be the one to call all the shots. relax...when a guy wants to plant a full blown tongue tying, spit swapping kiss on you its usually a sign that they are attracted to you and would like to become more intimate. Not saying you have to jump in bed with him, but take it has a compliment and consider his personality and other actions before being so judgmental over a kiss.
2007-02-26 17:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Hot Single Mom, first put the wine glass up! You've sent the same question to us three times in the last hour. Secondly, make up your mind, which guy you want to date and date him exclusively until you throw him to the curb. But, tell him you are throwing him to the curb for whatever reason, i.e., he's a lousy kisser, or he likes Merlot and you like chardonnay! Anyway, just three weeks ago, you wrote you were dating a fellow who was bonding with your daughter and you didn't want him to leave your company and your home (you missed him). Frankly, hot momma, that can be very confusing to your daughter and not a very good example! So, keep your dates private and away from home until you find the man you want to marry. That prevents your daughter from bonding then unbonding with strange men. Then introduce "the final one" to your daughter and encourage the bonding. (Three weeks and now he's out or one of the twosome?)
2007-02-27 01:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and date as many men as you want. Dating isn't marriage. Its more of a trial. If the first date seems smooth go for a second, third etc. BUT... the first gut feeling you have that this guy isn't who you want to have a relationship with, end it. Its okay to be picky. Take all the time you want to find who makes you happy and will treat you with the respect you deserve. Next time your friends tease you, remind them its your life and heart, not thiers.
2007-02-27 01:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by partyhnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha. This reminds me of the moive 13 Going on 40 when the hockey guy started doing a strip tease.
2007-02-27 01:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom had a saying it does not make a woman bad that she dates cause she just trying to fine the right one.and .I have always dated two guy at a time .they never knew of each other.but .I stop dating all together am tried of men.I need to fine my self again.and not get lost in men.they think they own me.and am happy alone.....
2007-02-27 01:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put yourself out there but you can't fight people off....You have to give the guys a chance. Look for the good things instead of the bad.
2007-02-27 01:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to take it easy...we only live once hun.Don't be in denial...don't try to fight them off.Enjoy your life..U deserve it.Life is beautiful...I am not saying the only way to feel it by dating guys:D..but yes..u need to see...feel every feelings that u can.GOod luck:)
2007-02-27 01:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out why you're so terrified of physical contact.
Then explain it to the guys.
You're not normal, so if you don't clue them in further mistakes will happen.
2007-02-27 04:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to me
i always wanted a milf!
2007-02-27 01:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by I LOVE YANKS & DESPISE REDNECKS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋