I posted this earlier and only got a few answers and I was hoping i could get a few more.......whatever it is you've got to say I really would like to hear it.
okay so i've liked this guy for a while and i think he likes me but i get the feeling that he doesn't what to ask me out cuz he thinks i'm out of his league, and i mean like we're pretty good friends but i want more and i think he does to...but anyway thats not my real question, what i really wanted to know is ......so all of my friends don't think hes the right kinda of guy for me (and i kinda agree) becuz i need a little more support for a bf but i like him and wonder if i should just persue this as kind of a fling or go all in or not at all?
and what do i do about him not feeling like he can ask me out?
2007-02-26 17:05:22 · 15 answers · asked by * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's take the last question first. What do you do about him not being able to ask you out? Well ask him out! Simple solution.
I have never been one to have flings, so I am more inclined to say "Go all in, or bail and walk away." If he isn't your type, then move on and save him the heart ache.
My only real concern is you thinking that you are out of his league. Come on girl! Grow up.
2007-02-26 17:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to answer ur question without knowing the exact reasons why u and ur friends think he's wrong 4 u. Are u sure ur not being pursuaded by their opinions? What kind of "support" is he not giving u? if its moral and emotional support.... i'm sure he'd show u more if u told him u needed it. if he likes u then he will make an effort to make u happy, within reason.
Leave ur friends out of it! and decide what YOU want. unless u need a piece of azz that bad.... why waste ur time with a fling?
As far as him feeling like he's outta ur league.... everyone feels like that at some point. We all have settled before and people have settled for us. Do YOU think ur out of his league? If not then go for it. U wouldnt be asking, questioning it, and doubting ur feelings if u didnt already know that u like him.
2007-02-26 17:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kimber Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to live with regret. Go out there and talk to him and find out if this is the kind of man you want in your life. If we didn't have mouths we wouldn't have life to deal with, if you don't know ask, talk, people listen, If you don't ask you will never be heard, if the answer is no, so what, at least we know we tried. If the answer is yes, we are very very happy. so what if you get a few no's, life is all about the yes's. Take care Heather
2007-02-26 17:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at the back of your mind you have doubts and your mates are wary then i'd stick with being "pretty good mates". Theres a lot to be said for a good mate and if you persue the chance of a relationship now you could loose him as a mate. Mates can go out and hey - who knows what the future might bring!
2007-02-26 17:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an established friendship with this guy, why risk it for a dating relationship that could end up causing you both to not like each other at all? If he thinks you are out of his 'league' then he doesn't sound like he is ready for more then being friends.
2007-02-26 17:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by partyhnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can try to help you ! first of all if you 2 are really good friends to tell you to truth if you wouldn't want to loose him at the end i wouldn't do anything but be friends because i had a few since i was a kid an when i got older i slept with him and we were buddies for a while then we each found someone an then we just stayed friends then one day i was still with that someone an he told me he was in love with me an i told him im sorry i wasn't in love with him in love with him but i said we could stay friends he said OK but then one day he wanted to sleep with me again for the first time in 3 years an i said no an he put me down like a do and now we haven't spoke in years an i lost my best friend . so if you date him that could happen to you but if you want to try to go for it then try but becarefull but if you really think in your heart go for it an see what happens because having that feeling does mean something sorry so long just tryin to help an im new at this
2007-02-26 17:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by the mule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer yours and you can answer mine hehe. dont do it for a fling cause after that it may leave your friendship in an awkward spot. All you can do is let your friendship grow more and more and if it eventuates into something more then GREAT! I mean Im doing the samething just being friends with the guy...
2007-02-26 17:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi:
I think you should follow your heart, if you like him at all I think you should at least go out with him once or twice, but let him make the first move ( to ask you out). Just give him a little motivation to ask you out.
2007-02-26 17:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by jambrellia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be shy about asking girls out, or he could be afraid of rejection. If you think there is potential, ask him out. It's always better to give it a try, then to be left wondering. Ask him out!
2007-02-26 17:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by megs1bq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually,your question is as confusing as you are!
Do-Don't-Will-Won't
You've made me absolutey dizzy just reading it! (which is proably why you did'nt get as many responses as you expected,when you posted it the first time.) So why did you post it again?
2007-02-26 17:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋