I am very shy around females and need help!!?

Question

I am an 18 year old guy and am extremely shy around females. So shy to the point that I have never had a girlfirend nor a close female friend. Most of this shyness comes from the fact that I am insecure and have low confidence in My self. When I think about approaching a girl that I really like and talking to her something always holds me back as if a voice in my mind says "NO, I couldnt approach her... what happens if she harshly rejects me or does not feel like talking to me at all". All my friends have female friends
and girlfriends, because of this they act as if they are better than me and at times laugh at me for not having any relationships with females. This really tends to get under my skin and at times I feel lonely and madd because I feel like I have waisted my high school years. At times I think to myself , why is it that all my friends are able to develop relationships with girls and I can't.

Answer 1

yo dude, just be calm and be yourself. they are only human, my best friend is a girl and it just because we dont have any shyness we are just ourself. if the girl doesnt talk to you, then they are shady

Answer 2

Believe it or not but there are many guys in your exact situation...including myself. I'm 17 and i have the same problem and feelings you have, never had a gf and no female friends. Many times i too feel like i have missed out on so much my friends and other guys around get to experience, and just playing waisted my high school years all because i am so shy. Im not gonna sit here and tell you to just stop being shy because its not that easy i know. But what i can tell you is this: make yourself as presentable as possible-nice clothes(ae),clean face(proactiv),nice body(work out!) all of that can be easily achieved with some hard work and dedication. And also trust me on this, it will be way worth it. From doing these things you make yourself presentable and attractive to the opposite sex-making them approach so you dont have to do it =) And last but not least-act confident even if you arent! Stand up straight with your chest out, it will make you appear confident and girls will notice it and like it.

Answer 3

I didnt really have a true girlfriend in highschool...but college has been a different story to stay the least. Alcohol helps lower inhibitions alot. I mean im pretty shy, but when im buzzed I have all the confidence in the world...but if thats not your thing then try talking to a girl and see where it goes. Whats the worst that could happen./ Thats how I first got over my shyness, I stoped caring what people thought about me. I thought who is she? Why not talk to her...and if she wants nothing to do with me than thats her problem.

Answer 4

Dude, what's the worst can happen? She tells you to take a flying leap? So what. Man up, face your fears head on.

Do NOT lie to women.

Do NOT feed them phony lines.

Be a Bad Boy, act and dress aloof. Use your shyness, but give off the attitude that you are too good for them. They will eat it up. Talk little, listen much. Ask them questions about themselves. Everybody wants to talk about them selves. But listen to what she tells you. As hard as this may be, women tend to use a hundred words for what can be said in two. Once you have their attention, be strait up. An honest man is such a rarity that the kind of women you really want will respond.

Part two. Study up on what a woman wants and needs in bed. Confidence here will go along way. If in doubt, ask them.

You have just got to face your fears, and find out that the downside isn't all that much, but the up side can be fabulous.

Answer 5

Mate.... you gotta have confidence in yourself so build that up. By just starting off by saying hello to anyone not just females and then say hi how are you.... keep that up for a few wks and then start saying hi to females and just keep that going and then as soon as you know you'll start noticing changes in yourself and then your confidence will build and then.... you can say more then hi to a chick you can say something like hi im so n so i think your great can i buy u a drink sometime (yes there will be rejections but keep in mind that its their loss not yours theyre the ones who lose out on what you have to offer) And keep building up on your confidence cause dude that is a major turn on for some women.

Get to it dude start saying Hi its not alot but it'll get u started. And trust me it'll work its the little things you do that count:) Oh and remember be yourself around women dont try and be someone your not cause that is a major turn off kk. but otherwise start socialising :D

All the best dude, Keep it real :D

Answer 6

I am a woman and I love shy guys. Its all in what you really really want in life. I always say life is too short to live with regret? right or wrong? so if you don't then get your gut in order and ask her about something logical or about class or about studies or projects, there are a dozen ways of talking to someone, or just say I am really shy and I thought that you could help me with the following and get to know the person. Girls love shy guys!!! use it to your advantage, ask her to help you with this or that and be believable and act like you know what you are talking about even if you don't know. And if you are stuck, say I am sorry but that subject is just not one of my strong points, I would appriciate your imput. It works, its all about angles, try it, the girls will love you for it and you are a good person you just have to learn to show it when you do. Take care Heather

Answer 7

I was exactly in the same boat as you. Now, I'm married for 17 years. I think you just have to try or wait for a girl to approach you which may not happen. Don't try so hard. Act confident even though you might not be. Smile.

Answer 8

ohhhhhh.... you dont have to be shy hun... girls love confidence right? so even if you don't have so much right now just fake it! eventually you'll grow comfy in your own skin. maybe to also boost your confidence try a new hair cut, some new clothes, maybe some nice shades, etc. anyways if your still shy then use it to your advantage, go up to a girl u like and start a conversation and actually say " yeah i'm really shy" most girls find that cute. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Starters, you should be asking if your friends are real friends, they should be supporting you not laughing at you cause you can't get a girl.

I'm 15 and I told a girl this morning I liked her, I was already close to her but It was still hard, she said she doesn't like me like that but wants to remain friends.

Start talking with a random girl you know, even if it's your sisters friends or something. Then you will get less shy round them.

Answer 10

Tough question,,,Youre shy, because why? are you attractive?
Do you groom yourself with care? If you havent met a girl you can feel comfortable with, it might take awhile, the best thing to do is try to talk with girls, maybe in groups of peers at first,
and make a little more effort when you meet a girl you like.
Do you fantasize about girls when you're aroused? or are you thinking of the hot jocks in Phs Ed?