i read his email ( and he doesnt know) and i found out that 7 months into our datin he told his ex he had a sex dream about her...that was in the past i trust him and could just be a joke but it bothers me a bit. but i cant just bring it up bc i dont want him to think i snoop in all of his stuff. i love him to death we have been datin 1 year and i trust him completly but should this be a concern? i believe he is honest with me and loves me bc if he didnt i dont think he would have stayed with me this long....
2007-02-26 16:39:34 · 19 answers · asked by dancerchick5287 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wasnt trying to look at all his things was just lookin on his site and was lookin at emails i had sent him and found hers...i do trust him bc i know he doesnt talk to his ex's one called him the other day and he wouldnt answer it. he will even let me look into his phone to see who has called and who he has called. we are honest with each other i am just self conscious and afraid to lose him so im nervous.
2007-02-26 17:03:15 · update #1
Don't worry about it. It was just a dream and it passed long time ago almost 1year. You want make it a problem with ur relationship with ur bf ? u need to think about. I think, u should forget it and tell ur bf should to stop thinks about his ex. That's all and easy way that make u happy.
2007-02-26 16:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by SkY A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do... is tell the little wiener he can get screwed!
you snooped through his stuff? big deal! i mean don't make a habit of it but it's normal - curiosity will tend to get the better of us all - but don't let the way you found out about it affect how you're going to deal with it.. if you had found out soem legitimate way would you have spoken to him by now?
7 months in to a relationship is a pretty long time! and you say you've been together for 1 year - how have you put up with the wonder for the last three months!!!!? you poor thing!
i'm not trying to tell you this guy doesn't love you, please don't get me wrong but why is he talking to his ex at all let alone about some sex dream he had about her? he sounds a little sleazy to me.. and i think you said you trust him a few too many times, kind of seems like your trying to convince yourself you do.
please talk to him about this - it is going to eat away at you and cause problems anyway...
good luck sweety!! personally i think you can do A LOT better but i knwo you can't alway help who you love... ;-(
2007-02-27 01:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to be concerned. First of all, he should not be e-mailing his ex. Second, it is extremely inappropriate for him to tell her that he had a sex dream about her. You say that you trust him, but if you are reading his e-mails, something inside of you is probably telling you that something is wrong. The fact that he has stayed with you for one year does not make him honest or mean that he will not or has not cheated on you. You should confront him about this, see how he reacts, and then honestly examine your relationship and why you are with him before making any decisions. Good luck!
2007-02-27 01:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by puffstermama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural for people to have dreams about other people who were important in their lives once before. I used to have dreams about my ex all the time when I was dating another man, it just happens. But the fact that he tells her these things and hides them from you is cause for concern.
You need to decide whether this is worth a fight or not. Maybe it was just a dream and he just wanted to let her know, but maybe not? It wasnt right you were snooping and this is what you found, maybe if you trust him you should let it slide.
2007-02-27 00:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by MissDivine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do nothing and keep it under my hat.
don't tell him about the email. that won't help at all. don't tell about the snooping and keep the snooping discrete.
he probably does love you.
Seven months ago .. who knows what was going through his head. I would not think it a joke, but she could have been friends or he could have been trying to get back with her or he wanted to shock her.
hard to say and mostly water under the bridge.
good luck.
2007-02-27 00:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you dont trust him completely. you snooped into his private email. he doesnt know about it. so your lying to him when you say everything is fine. when in fact this is bothering you. if it wasnt you wouldnt be asking. your snooping should be the concern here. whats next? a private detective to follow him around when your not there.
2007-02-27 00:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to snoop. if he still has this sex dream about his ex. then i should say he still fantasizes his ex. and thats not a good sign because he lusts for the ex rather than you. stay in shape and wear seductive clothes once in a while so that he would notice ur body.
2007-02-27 00:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Karl G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a real drama,if you tell him then you wil have to tell
him that you read his email. and it been 7 months. so just
leave it along if you trust him then there nothing to worry about
but if you feel that you cant not. then you are only one that can
make that call. but just beware of what could happen. trust is
a big thing in realtionship you have it or you dont.
2007-02-27 00:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him- but be very careful. If he is having sex dreams about her- and TELLING her, it's possible he may still have feelings toward her... I hate to tell you that, and am sorry--- I hope and pray I am wrong- having a dream is one thing---but to go as far as TELLING her??? That just seems weird-- like maybe his sub-conscience is still holding on to something they had together... I hope you don't get hurt, and that I am wrong... Good luck to you-
2007-02-27 00:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by steviesgirl1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your BF wants you to be jelous. so thats why he has mentioned all these things in mail.. may b he wants to have also sex with you..
so it is upon you that how much you can trust him.. if you trust him then go ahead otherwise breakup from him
2007-02-27 00:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by sonali s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋