i want him to defend me when his mom yacks her big mouth to insult me why does he stay quiet? why do desi men stay quiet lets just be honest with the answers.. all guys who know what im saying be truthful plz once and for all
2007-02-26 16:36:13 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He doesn't want to argue with his mom. If she says things to your face to insult you, leave and let him deal with his mom. You don't have to be a part of all that drama. Don't let him use her insults against you when you and he have disagreements. If he does so, you should consider the quality of your relationship and what's really going on between you all.
2007-02-26 16:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why would she "yack" at you like you say??? Is there a reason for it?? If not then maybe you need to step up and speak your mind to HER... Let her know how you fee!!! If there is no reason for her actions demand some respect, and if your HUSBAND agrees with you he too should step in on your behalf!!! If not then you and your guy are gonna have a serious problem on your hands!!! Your husband is your ROCK and you HIS, so let that man know and your "Mother In Law" you ain't gonna tolerate her bull****!!! If it doesn't work just keep the hell away from that WITCH!!!! Good Luck !!!! :)
2007-03-06 10:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you expressed to your husband how this makes you feel? At home when you two are alone you need to have a direct talk to your husband and tell him it is his family and he needs to stick up for you when his mother starts her stuff. You are his wife, the one he has chosen, and he needs to show it. Tell him he could just have a talk with his mom (in private - just the two of them) to let her know she has to accept you as his wife and life partner and that he won't tolerate any more negative comments. If he does it before a situation arises then it will probably be more well received. You can also tell your husband that until you feel comfortable with this situation that you want to limit the time you two spend with his family. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-06 13:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they are cowards and love their Mom more than their wife. I would not tolerate this from my parents or anyone.
When I was younger I told my family that when I brought someone home they were to treat her with respect. AFTER she left the first time, they could give me their honest opinions about her. Then I would make up my mind about dating her. If I decided to date her, they would continue to treat her with respect, or they would never see me. As my eldest sister and her family found out I meant what I said. It has been over 10 years and I am sure I have had no more than 10 minutes of conversation with any of them.
But he isn't like that, he avoids all confrontations. If this isn't what you want, then it is time to move on and find the right man for you.
2007-02-27 00:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by llywarch_dindaethwy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One must understand the psycology..!
A mother brings up her son with lots of pain and sacrifices.When he is married , she just can't satnd the fact that another lady is also taking his attention.(....female ego...can't help it)..! She hates it and acts wierd..!
In a troubled situation, the guy stays quite.The wives hate that.But this is the better thing to do.Try and analyse this.....
>If the mother is right.. its no use for the husbands to speak...! She is doing all the job..!
>If the mother is wrong...it will worsten the situation if the husband speaks in favour of the wife..! That will hurt the female ego more...!
The wives , please try to understand...that way atleast you will earn a angelic figure in front of your husbands..!
2007-03-05 17:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Baski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband won't defend you because he is afraid of his mommy.
He has not grown into adulthood, and I guess he wants his old room back when you finally get fed up with this crap and move on.
He never went to Sunday school and learned that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave only unto his wife.
(Man, I'm good)
2007-03-07 00:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid of his mom or is being too respectful by keeping silent.Maybe he doesn't want to get into a situation by taking anyone's side.His silence says he does not agree with his mom either because he does not support her which he could have done if he believed she was right.Have a lot of patience and show a lot of love to your husband.time is the best healer.good luck and happy life.
2007-03-05 04:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by fav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't consider you his partner and has little respect for you. Not all men do this. He needs to wake up and shut his mothers mouth. He has the power here. If she is in fear of loosing her son she will curb it and show you some respect. That fear is not there so she keeps going. Let your hubby know that if he shows you no respect then how can his family show you respect. good Luck
2007-03-06 10:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you are caught in the middle of a situation between a wife and mother and one of them is running off at the mouth it is better just to remain silent and not stir the pot and it will all blow over. If you jump in the middle it just makes things worse.
2007-03-05 19:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his a mommy's boy. What ever his mom says goes even if it's about you. Tell him to start defending you or you are going to get really mean towards he's mom. If he doesn't do it then tell him that he will sleep on the couch intil he does defend you.
2007-03-06 21:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋