I was with this guy for 3 years and him and I hit a lot of bumpy roads. I can honestly say that he was never there for me but I was with him because I felt that he needed me and I don't know why, but I liked that feeling. I did a whole lot for him and he did things for me but mostly material things. He didn't show up to my great uncles funeral last July so I spent the rest of the summer in PA. I met this guy there and him and I were liking each other but it became a long distance relationship and he goes to school in NC, so that didn't work out. And being that I was with the previous guy for so long I don't have any friends and I felt lonely, so approximately six months later, which is now I went back to him. We've together for a few weeks now and it's like he tries to blame everything on me. To him everything is my fault and now he's telling me never to come back to me. I here crying and hurt as hell and I don't know what to do with myself. What can I do to not hurt so much?
2007-02-26 16:31:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ms J
There’s lot’s of possible reasons: short on self-respect, fear of the unknown, short on self-confidence, fear of being “alone”, the list could be endless. however…. the situation as you’ve described is WORSE than being alone, fear of the unknown, etc!! He’s not accepting his responsibility in the relationship, and avoiding any “ownership” with claiming “he never came back to you”.
“Alone” is way better than this, learn about yourself- build your self-respect so you don’t repeat this situation.. Make new friends, female and male, people most always want to connect with others. Learn which people want to connect for “good reasons” and which one’s want to connect for “bad reasons” then stick with the people with “good reasons”. Do things You enjoy and look to other’s who enjoy the same, never “settle” thinking you don’t deserve better. When you find someone,, if the “bumpy roads” are longer than the “smooth roads” find a better road !! Always respect yourself if you don’t, nobody else will either!
2007-02-26 16:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run as fast as you can. being with someone is supposed to feel good, not make you feel like that. that guy is a jerk and does not deserve you. i wont lie, it will hurt, but what you need to do is have a good cry. talk with a good friend. you need to go thru the emotions. i know it sounds crazy, but that's what i did. i promise you things will get better. you deserve do much better. email me if you want. c.coen@yahoo.com. maybe we could talk. I know what you are going thru.
2007-02-26 16:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being someone elses whipping boy. Get on with Your life.
2007-02-26 16:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, please do not sad. there are a lot of guy out there.
just forget him.
do not think this as you problem, because it is hurt you.
just carry on your life and enjoy your life.
remember to forget him.
2007-02-26 16:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Martina J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋