Well, I don't really have any best friends that are girls, just pretty good friends and family. I was going to do the usual sister thing and then maybe my fiance's sister. But I feel like I'm missing something. I really want a chief attendant whose outside the family. I have some girlfriends but we hardly ever hang out and I usually just see them passing by here lately. My closest friend is a guy who moved to another state and probably can't make it.
Should I just not have a maid of honor?
2007-02-26 16:28:49 · 25 answers · asked by Amanda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I thought about making my soon to be sister in law the maid of honor because she is more my age than my younger sisters. I really do want a maid of honor I just lack in resources.
2007-02-26 16:33:33 · update #1
My sister was 12 years older than me when she got married ( I was 12) I was her maid of honor and she also had one of her married friends be her matron of honor. I am getting married next year and my sister is going to be my matron of honor and I was going to have one of my friends be my maid of honor, but I'm in the same boat as you. I am not really BEST friends with anyone of them to choose one over the other. So I am just having my sister as my matron of honor and the rest bridesmaids, while my fiance is having two best men. Point is...it's your wedding, you do what you feel is right. REMEMBER though...Family will always be there whereas your friendships can end.
2007-02-27 02:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever YOU want. Been to a wedding where there only was a maid of honor and a best man, then the bride came marching into the church. Beat having a bunch of girls get upset for not being included in the wedding. Also, went to a wedding where children came out first and then the bride came into the church. The kids were cute because they were all dressed up. There is no right way to do things. If you really feel you're leaving out people, or just about not knowing who to include....then leave everyone out.
2007-02-27 02:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by EV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your sister as maid of honour, and one friend as a bridesmaid, plus flower girl/s and a ring bearer, and ushers and his choice of best man. To even it out, he might have one more man. But the main man and the main woman are the ones who will sign the wedding register with you and your husband.
Some people go nuts and have like 9 bridesmaids and 9 best men - excessive I think. The maid of honour needs to be chosen though because you will depend on her throughout the wedding for different things (ex. recording all of your gifts and givers in your wedding album, so that later, you can send out "thank you cards" and "know" what you're thanking each person for). You'd need to decide whether you'd have that at the reception, which can be really drawn out (the way we did ours), or at a brunch the following day, which I've seen done as well. You "need" to have a maid of honour. If you don't care about parting with "tradition", maybe your male friend could take the role. If you could provide his transportation to the wedding, I'm sure he would get there for you. Best wishes! When is your wedding?
2007-02-27 00:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Raindrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer I can give you is to have your sister as your maid of honor, and your fiance's sister as your bride's maid. Long after your wedding is over, you and your sister will be able to talk and share memories of your special day, and you will have included your fiance's sister into your family and started a few special memories of your own. Family is much much more important than girlfriends that your not even close to.
2007-02-27 04:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MandaKaye, did you say you have a sister? If you do, she is the one who should be your maid of honor-- or matron if she is married. Her feelings would be hurt if you didn't have her as your maid of honor- as far as his sister goes, you don't know her that well (I guess) and if you don't have a sister but have a close cousin or if you are close to his sister use either of them for your maid of honor. She is your "helper" through the wedding planning, especially for the shower. And you said you're close to your family, and family is the best to be in the wedding after all, you know you will still be "friends" with them in 10 years so they can be involved in your children's lives and you can reminisce your wedding.........Congratulations....have a great wedding!
2007-02-27 00:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by mac 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am asking my soon to be sister-in-law to be my maid of honor because I don't want to choose between my friends for the position. It's also easier because she'll be planning things like the bridal and bachelorette party and she's close with my mom so they can plan together. I do believe it's acceptable to not have one at all, there's nothing wrong with that. Good luck!
2007-02-27 00:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have the guy friend as your Honor attendant? If he can make it. It's my understanding that the two "key attendants" are the witnesses for signing of the marriage license, at the end of the wedding. Congrats! Take care.
2007-02-27 02:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR wedding!! Do what you want. There are guideline but no hard fast rules about weddings. Be true to yourself and do what you feel like. It would be weird to have a maid-of-honor if it didn't feel right. This is your day!
2007-02-27 00:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what is the difference between a bridesmaid and a maid of honor anyway?? What do they actually do?? Your attendants don't really need titles, do they??
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2007-02-27 06:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding don't stress over the little things you can make every brides maid, a maid of honor or two or none.... its what ever you want!!! good luck & be happy!!
2007-02-27 06:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by lorena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋