We dated for a few months and then it just got crazy, too many things came up and we didnt have time for each other. Now fast forward about 6 months. We still talk alot and he just started dating one of his close friends (i dont know her) and they are already engaged (she is 17, he is 19). He and i joke around and talk alot and recently he told me that he loved her but he wanted to hook up with me, he says he loves me and doesnt want to hurt her but he said its worth it and she would never know. I dont know what to do, i do love him, he's one of my closest friends but i would hate to have a guy do that to me. Do i tell her? ive never seen or spoken to her ever. I saved a couple chat logues between he and i so i have proof he said what he said. I just dont want to ruin her fairytale of finding true love with this guy but at the same time she deserves to know, also i dont want to lose his friendship. What do i do?
2007-02-26 16:17:02 · 9 answers · asked by MsMajik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW im not going to hook up with him, im not stupid.
2007-02-26 16:51:45 · update #1
If you don't know her stay out of it and stay away from that bad news dude.
2007-02-26 16:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u knw wat 2 do say no thanx Im not interested (even if you are you knw its wrong) Cause your just gonna be a bootie call to him and is that what you want? Cmon gurl u deserve better not some guy who only wants you to shake his nerves off 4 the wedding. Cmon gurl..... No tell the fiance mate cause hes not a mate if he asks u 2 sleep with him!!! Hes not one 2 keep arnd unless you just want him for the sex. Cmon mate you can do better then that. Tell the fiance cause at least she'll be grateful for u for telling her that. You might lose him but the fiance might end up being a friend JUST TELL HER! And if she doesnt believe you well at least you told her and if you lose your bootie call friend well then who cares he only wanted you for ONE THING!
And you deserve way better then that mate!! I mean cmon... its only common sense Im sure you'd want to be told if u were in the same shoes so cmon she deserves the same courtesy.
2007-02-26 16:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't know what love is, Darline'. If he did he wouldn't be trying to do this to her or putting you in this kinda situation. I personally would tell her, to me it seems like the only right thing to do. But if not, hopefully you have enough self respect not to degrate yourself like this. No women deserve to be the side dish for any guy, dint you deserve more then that?
2007-02-26 16:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would tell you to mind your own business, but she is only 17 and about to ruin her life. I would call her (or one of her friends) and just be honest. She probably won't believe you and accuse you of being jealous, but at least you'll have done your duty. It's all you can do.
2007-02-26 16:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a slime ball. Pond scum. He's not your friend. He's a loser. Drop him as a friend and find someone who has two brain cells to rub together. He's got serious problems and you don't want to be involved. Take two steps backward, turn and run. Don't look back. Seriously.
2007-02-26 16:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by introubleguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from him. He's a jerk. Why would he get engaged at only 19 and then cheat? It doesn't make any sense. It's not your place to tell her; just don't get involved any further.
2007-02-26 16:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would hurt her to "prove" to her he's trying to cheat.
Do you have resentments at him or her?
Are you sure?
Just go away from them both...why stir up things anymore...aim not to hurt,but to help,showing her evidence is to no one's advantage..If he's a creep,she'll figure it out without a "helping hand" from you.
You will look like the as* if you approach her.Good luck..
2007-02-26 16:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he your ex for a good reason. he a jerk, and you need to leave him
along. he playing games and he want you to play with him if he
was any kind of man he would not want you do something that
is so wrong, think about this if he cheating with you on her
then please tell me why he wont cheat on you with others
he want his cake and his pie. time to cut him loose. and if he'
was a true friend he would not have gone there.
2007-02-26 16:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this person is a looser and if you mess with her you will even be a bigger looser than she is.
2007-02-26 16:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋