Should I start dating someone else in case?

Question

I usually date more than one person at a time and have a few numbers to call and dates to go on with other women, but I have been seeing this girl for a couple months on and off and she has me trippin. I don't know how things are going to play out with her but she is the one I'm most interested in, so it feels weird to even go out with anyone else. It just seems like what's the point. But on the other hand I think it will help me get my game right if I start seeing other people, because I won't put too much importance on her and scare her away.

I think she feels strongly about me but I don't think she is ready to go there yet, she has been hurt and it has taken a lot of work just to get to this point with her. I really don't think she is ready for that comittment yet.

It took a lot of work to get her to this point, I asked her to trust me even though she says she trusts no one she is taking a chance on me. We are not too serious though according to her so I guess that means not exclusive. I just don't want to be played by her.

Yeah, I guess I might be afraid of getting hurt because I don't fall for girls they fall for me, but this one has turned the tables on me.

She is taking a lot of time and work and I am starting to doubt that she is really ready for anything serious, though I think it is too soon for that anyway at this time. I'm 25.

I mean she is a wounded bird and she is afraid of getting hurt again so I am afraid she will push me away as she continoues to fall for me because she is afraid of getting hurt again.

Answer 1

If you really like this girl, give her your undivided attention. Or else she will sense that you are playing her and she will eventually lose interest in you. Then again, thats the perfect/ideal scenario. Who am I to say. I also feel that when you have other focus (not just one person), you don't obsess too much about them and it may work out better.

Answer 2

If you put too little importance in her she will think that you don't like her and leave. Why don't you try dating this one woman steadily? Are you afraid to do it because you might get your heart broken if you do? Attempt to date one woman for some time and see how it pans out. Don't be afraid of being hurt. It is natural and will happen. That is how we learn and grow from relationships. I am personally thankful for every crappy relationship I've been in because I've learned what went wrong and fixed it.

If you aren't ready for a monogamous relationship then that's an entirely different story. But I would say take a chance and if you fall flat on your face just smile and say "Ok now what can I do so this doesn't happen again?"

Answer 3

Hmm. what do you mean she is taking to much time and work?
If you really do have feelings for her, then you should not date anyone else. Maybe she knows that you like to date more than one woman at a time and she is concerned whether you will play her like the others. I truly believe that everyone has someone in the world just waiting for them to appear.
You say she is the one that you are most interested in but then turn around & state that she is taking to much time and work. Perhaps you are tired of waiting on her to be who you want her to be. You are 25, one of the prime ages in your life, perhaps she is not looking for anything else besides occasional dating.

Answer 4

i suggest you stop seeing all this as a game, because its not. people believe that it is and thats how they mess up. trying to make up rules and make moves based on what they want. not a very bright idea. if you lilke the girl and you feel like you dont really want to go out with other girls at the moment, then focus on something else like friends and hobbies while you wait for this girl, cus what's the point of dating other girls? you might send her the wrong vibes about you. and that might make her think that you are not relationship material. and then you know what would happen.
i hope things work out for the best.

Answer 5

i would be honest with her and let her know what the deal is
honestly is the best things that you can do to have a good
relationship. if she not ready for what you want then you both
need to be honest about this and then you will know what to
do next. it may be that she not ready for what your want and
you might need to move on. i feel if the cards are on the table
then both know the rules then you can do what is right.

Answer 6

Dating several girls at once is stupid. I can't believe you'd reduce yourself to actually hurt the feelings of one girl, just to feel better and perhaps "cooler".

Also if you feel that way you might actually be a tad bit in love, though I don't know considering you say you date more than one woman at a time.

Answer 7

I think you should give monogamy a chance. You should at least attempt to give this relationship your full attention, and if things do not go as you wish, then venture out.

Answer 8

Why don't you try being real and not care so much about your "game"? If you like the girl that much then why do you need to play others?

Answer 9

How old are you?

Dont have a "game" be honest and not clingy.

If you date other people, she'll know it and wont like it (if she likes you too). If you date otheres she will think you dont really care.

Answer 10

1ST AND FORMOST, IF YOU CARE ABOUT HER YOU SHOULDN'T BE CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR GAME.
2ND IF YOU'VE ALREADY BROKEN YOUR PREVIOUS PATTERN IT'S ALREADY TO LATE.
3RD TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL, BUT BE SURE OF YOUR FEELINGS BEFORE YOU OPEN UP, CAUSE YOU CAN'T TAKE IT BACK.
4TH DON'T WORRY ABOUT SCARING HER AWAY, SHE KEEPS COMING BACK FOR A REASON, YOUR GIVING HER SOMETHING SHE WANTS/NEEDS. SMILE- YOUR HALFWAY THERE