I have been friends with this guy since I was in elementary. We dated as children. We hadn't seen eachother since I was 14. In January we saw each other. He confessed that he never stopped liking me. We started dating. Things got serious, but we stopped dating for a million and one reasons. Well I avoided him for as long as I could and we just ended up back together. Well now we are doing the same thing all over again. We avoided each other for as long as we could and today we just had to see each other. What should I do. I love him, but before me was this other girl who refuses to let him go. I know he has some feelings for her and I am not the type to compete. I keep letting him go to her and then once I think he is so into her, he and I see eachother and forget that we are in a complicated situation. I'm confused.
2007-02-26 15:46:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's using you, and the other girl as well.
2007-02-26 15:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pineapple Hat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does not sound too complicated to me.
It seems your old school mate is playing both ends to the middle.
He is two timing you.
He it seems likes the attention of both women.
While you and he are on the outs he does not have to worry about double dating.
He can focus his attention on the other woman.
I wonder is she is in town when you to go through your cycle.
I wonder if she is the regular girl and you are the weakness.
Her side of the story would be interesting to hear.
Let Mr. Wonderful know he has a choice to make.
If you are not okay with the way things are only you can change it.
I say give him all the time and space he needs.
Keep circulating he is.
2007-03-06 14:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are in a position to marry, this is just a guy and just dating, in which case you are both free to do as you wish. If you are in a position to marry, how secure do you think you could be in a relationship with this person? A million and one reasons to stop dating sounds pretty convincing to me. Stop the physical romantic part of the relationship and see what happens. You may find that your strong feelings for him die down a bit and it is easier to think clearly. Reconsider giving your love to someone too easily. If he is torn between two girls it means he doesn't love and respect either one of them enough. You shouldn't settle for that.
2007-02-26 16:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by ozzman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Left or right Baby!!! Is it love or is it passion? It seems as if you guys have passion, and if you do then let him go, if he doesn't want to then tell him to not go back with her, put some time in between, meaning: not you not her, for a while, maybe he need the attention of 2 women and I do not think that is someone you would like to be with, so if you put sometime in between then it will help him clear up his mind, and at the same time you would have time to clear your mind. Oh yeah after time up he needs to let go to one of you, which he should no matter what.Good luck.
2007-02-26 15:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Knella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is complicated. I don't think I have much advice for you but it seems like you two just lust after each other. Once the lust and the newness is gone will you still want to be with him? If so maybe tell him to make a decision between you or her and see if you can make a relationship with him. I would tell you to follow your heart! Good luck!
2007-02-26 15:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow girly i'm sorry this would stink, but honestly i would just move on b/c ur obviously not all thats on ur mind n u deserve someone who only thinks of u. If he can think about this other girl while with you, what makes u think he won't develop feelings for someone else. Sorry, but i'd say MOVE ON To Bigger and better things
Good luck hope u get the help u need
2007-03-06 15:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a great situation.
He is either too weak to choose or he likes variety, either way, it is time to move on. Maybe you will run into him again in 5 or 10 years and he will have grown up. But for now, he is will only hurt you.
2007-02-26 15:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by HeyLady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him tell him that you refuse to get back with him until you know the other girl is out of the picture. And stand your ground. Yes it will be hard but you need to realize that you deserve more and you don't need the drama that follows along with it.
Good Luck
2007-02-26 15:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats crazy and i never been in a situation like urs but i thank that u guys r 2 scared to get close to each other like exchanging hearts....i mean its cute to fall in love with ur bestfriend but u gotta know what ur doing because that can cause u guys to not even wanna b friends anymore and lose tha communication.... i mean i dont know what u guys like or dont like but communication is tha most important thing in any type of relatioship.....any other time i would advise a person to take it slow and let faith do its job but thats kind of hard for me to tell u....c i thank u should step up to this guy and let him know why u r falling in love with u and if he feel tha same then that should b good for tha both of u guys.....now as far as this other chick if i was u i would check up on that i mean why u not showing and caring to him beeing with another female he feels like u dont care or u dont wanna b with him and be tha lady on his arms and thats not what u want him to thank about u.....and i know u say u dont care but i know inside that **** really does hurt and thats just what love do to people.....so `stop tryna ack like u dont care b4 another female enyjoy ur man but still keep in mind tha friendship is very improtant and its hard to find cool as people now and days so take to him and c how things work out o yeal and it seems to me that u guys r still acting like lil kids with tha whole ignoring each other for some time STOP that because that will drive you'll apart and that will b hard to fix
2007-02-26 16:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have..Just let the other girl have him..And if she thinks you don't want him ..then she wont want him either and then take him back..Sometimes we have to let the one we love go .If he loves you he'll be back.Don't give up on him..But let the other girl think you have..You have to try and think like the other girl.
2007-02-26 15:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by prizmblue2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably hate me for saying this, but after 50 years of romance , marriage and dating again, I wish I had followed this: "If you love something set it free, if it loves you, it will come back to you" and I would add, for good, not for just a while.
2007-02-26 15:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋