Well, I have been going after this girl for 4 months or so.
Before I told her I really liked her, we were good, we talked a lot and laughed at each other's jokes and stuff.
We went to dance together, and that's when I actually started acting different towards her, like as in more than a friend.
I told her I care about her a lot, and that I can treat her real well as if she was a princess. She said she's not looking for a relationship like that.
I still care a lot about her, and I am still caring for her even now. I let her know that I care for her, too.
I am keeping distance, so she doesn't feel too comfortable about me being too nice to her.
She seems.. reactionary, you know? She doesn't initiate anything with me unless I initiate it, and even when I initiate it, I rarely get a good feedback.
She doesn't seem like she understands how I am feeling when she acts like that.
Is it possible for somebody to be so uncaring and apathetic towards a person who cares for her so much?
2007-02-26 15:25:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand everything, but it just confuses me, because she blushes a lot and seems nervous whenever I talk to her.
She never had a boyfriend before, and she's really shy, as soon as I can let her be open with me, I think I can work something out.
I don't think I made any mistakes, I mean, in the past when we were "just friends" she obviously made it seem like she was interested in me. All my friends and her friends said that too.
To the dance also, her friends recommended me to ask her out, when I was unsure of it.
So the things don't match back and forth, that's why I am confused.
If she's not interested, why her friends recommend me to take her, telling me that she talks about me a lot?
Why blush, and laugh, nervous when I talk to her?
2007-02-26 17:28:57 · update #1
Honestly, I do not think this girl thinks of you in that way or ever will. You can keep trying though.
You expressed feelings for her before you are even going out as anything more than friends. That is not good, it is scary to her. Maybe if you had done a little flirting and dated her for a while before getting emotional with her, that would be one thing. Never express feelings to her until she expresses them to you in my opinion.
My advice: chalk it up to experience and move on. Don't make the same mistake again.
2007-02-26 15:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't sound like she is being apathetic or uncaring, she sounds unsure of you. You had a really good thing going with her and you enjoyed being around each other, but when you told her you have feelings for her, you changed on her. More then likely she thinks you changed because she turned you down which is uncomfortable for anybody, but on top of it all you tell you care about her still and yet you keep a distance from her which has to confuse her even more. She is probably waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak. I would advise you to do you best to bring your relationship back to the way it was in the beginning, when you were both happy and enjoyed each others company and then just let it take whatever course it takes... dint try to force it or push it. That doesn't work very well, i learned that first hand my friend. If it is meant to be it will be, not to go all Saturday morning special on you. lol
2007-02-26 23:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to tell you this, especially if you like her this much, but she doesn't like you back... at all. Typically a girl jumps for the opportunity of being with a sweet guy who will treat her well, but it seems like she thinks she has no chemistry with you, and isn't looking for anything. I know this because I've been in this situation before with a guy friend. The reason she is apathetic is because she doesn't want to tell you no directly to your face, so she doesn't hurt her feelings. You can try one more time, just so you're sure, but if she still acts the same way it's because nothing will ever happen between you two.
2007-02-26 23:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandra H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey man. Don't let her get you down. Seriously. I went through the EXACT same thing with a girl a while ago. It hurt me so badly when she turned me down. I figured out that I was borderline obsessing over and had to take a break from her to clear my mind. Through a series of conversations with numerous friends of hers, i figured out that she didn't like me in that way but wanted to keep a happy, positive exterior. She does just want to be good friends, yet at the same time she likes the attention. Back off a little bit but dont drop her cold turkey. That will only make you look like an obsessive ***. Be good friends. Take advantage of it. I'm sorry I can't tell you something more pleasant.
2007-02-26 23:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by 1* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she may not be interested in you the way you are about her. Just keep doing what your doing by keeping your distance. Let her approach you. When she feels comfortable in wanting more in a realtionship she'll come forward. You never know, by the time she comes to you wanting a relationship, you might have moved on and realized that she was not worth the time and concern that you're now putting into this whole thing. Don't try or think to hard...it will work itself out one way or the other. In the end, she'll be the one wondering if she missed out on a good thing. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 23:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now you're living in the real world, people seems to act like that when they know that you really care for them. All you have to do is stop acting like you care and watch how she reacts toward you. If she dont change, then she is not the one so dont keep wasting your time caring for someone who doesn't care about you the same way.
2007-02-26 23:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by B. Gregory 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is possible for "somcbody to be so uncaring and apathetic towards a person who cares for her so much"
She wants fun, not serious, get over it.
2007-02-26 23:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is.
You're being selfish. Think about it.
What do you want? Obviously for her to like you. And does she like you? Obviously not. So what do you do? Whine about how "apathetic" and "uncaring" she is.
It's not a woman's job to like you just cuz you want her to. Let this be a lesson to you: figure out where you went wrong and fix it. If you're gonna blame anybody, blame yourself. Quit expecting girls to like you just cuz you want them to. They're not mommy.
2007-02-26 23:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just move on cause she doesnt even know what she wants but she knows that its not with you. Sorry to break it to you like that but shes not interested in you dude move on you deserve way better
2007-02-26 23:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋