My husband is shooting cocaine and has been off and on for about 2 and a half years.Not around me or kids he runs off for days at a time leaveing his son with me.Saterday he got an erge and took off with my stepson and another little boy he took them to serval drug houses and a motel all wich the boys had to wait in car.They left at 8pm it took me till 4:30am to find them.I called my stepsons mom and grandma so needless to say he is staying with them now because I told him I couldn't keep him safe.I can't stop his dad from takeing him or get the law to look for him.My stepson won't even talk to me on the phone.He is telling everyone that I sream at his dady to get out of my house all the time and I do but when I do its because he is on drugs or has got somethig from some where and I don't know where I just know he don't need to be aroud kids.When I have him leave I get raked over the coals from inlaws.He has been in and out of rehab for 6yrs.How can I make everyone not hate me????????
2007-02-26 15:20:32 · 9 answers · asked by trenia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh honey, i feel bad for you.
It sounds like they just don't want to admit that your husband has a major problem. Have you tried to explain to them how bad he has gotten? They may have know about his past problems with cocaine, but do they know the extent that he is at now?
As for the stepson, this may all depend on his age. How old is he? He may very well be just to young to realize what his Dad is doing or that you are trying to protect him.
All I can tell you is to take comfort in the fact you are helping your stepson more than you are hurting him.
Also I think that you should consider what his behavior is doing to you. You should seriously consider moving away from this situation. I don't know if you have more children but they should not be exposed to this kind of life and neither should you. Your husband needs serious help and it sure does not sound like he wants it.
2007-02-26 15:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by leahhy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you got yourself into a very difficult situation. The only way out is to take the kids and leave him or get him out of the house. Screaming at him is absolutely pointless and will not solve a problem. He is a drug addict and his reasoning is zero. You may as well scream at the wall. Your in-laws make things worse by defending him. You must protect your kids!!! Don't worry about your in-laws hating you, let them hate you all they want. So what? You need to get out of the situation for the sake of the kids! This is the only thing you need to worry about. You owe it to them. I know it is not easy but you probably have some people who will support you. If your husband has moments of clear mind tell him that he needs to go to rehab or you will leave him.
2007-02-26 15:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to waste the rest of your life with this pathetic excuse of a person? You have stayed with a person who is a cocaine addict. Do you work to support him? Why not leave so that you can make a decent life for yourself while you still have a shred of self respect. You can't make everyone not hate you in a situation like this. You are going to be dragged to the bottom with him and his habit until there is nothing left of your sanity.
2007-02-26 15:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you love your husband, but unfortunately he loves his drugs more and for all this time and him going thru rehab he is not going to stop, and his family seems to be in denial as well, for you its not fair to live like this and in my opinion you need to leave and go live your life you dont deserve any of that....
2007-02-26 21:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even putting yourself through all this?If I was the boys mother I would keep him as far away from his father as possible,and you should get away too before he takes you down w/ him!!
2007-02-26 15:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your doing good,hence the anger towards you. people dislike it when you make them accountable for what they do. and the kid is how old? he may have an attarction to you and is unable to deal with it soi he lashes out ayt you...how old is he (stepson)?
2007-02-26 15:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay in this situation in the first place?
2007-02-26 15:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy yourself a coffer, in case anything happen that you cannot handle.
2007-02-26 15:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anybody on answers.yahoo.com is going to tell u whats right. u should like well i donno
2007-02-26 15:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by theperson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋