how is a woman supose to feel when her boy friend treats her like she is always in the wrong ?

Question

everytime we have a disagrement its always my fault dont matter if i know iam right.. at the end of ower disagrement iam wrong. like the say i fall to the bottom of the pile. i want to feel special and loved i dont think this way it should work. I talked to him about doing somthing about it becouse it makes me feel very badly

Answer 1

You are fighting a losing battle. This person cares more about being justified than he cares about you. You can do much better than that. Love is not that selfish. If a person loves you he will be concerned for your feelings over his. If he won't go to counseling, then get out of that relationship. Before you go into another relationship, find out if he is the same type. You are looking for Mr. Right not Mr. Always Right. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/5SaWD

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Answer 3

I agree with the people that answered before me. You deserve better than someone that treats you like this. You need to drop him, and move on. Remember, you don't have to be in a relationship to be happy, make sure you are happy on your own, with or without a boyfriend. That will make it easier to be in a healthy relationship.

If you feel you flat out cannot live without this guy, and there are more positives in the relationship than negatives, then go to couples counseling. If you aren't old enough for that, go talk to your school counselor. If you cannot afford couple's counseling, there are several county and private places that offer either free, or low cost counseling. Check with your local Red Cross for places.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You're not suppose to feel anything, there is no requirement. Right and wrong have nothing to do with feelings. But what you shouldn't be feeling is abused. Kinda sounds like he doesn't really care about you and why would you want to stay with someone that makes you feel very badly?

Answer 5

I think that all men do not like to feel wrong. They always think what ever they say or do is right. I experience about the same thing with my boyfriend and it is nerving. However, their isn't much you can do about it. If he feels he is right, he'll always feel he is right. the only thing you can do is let him know to give you credit for your opinion, and don't make you feel dumb. Explain to him how his responses do not make you feel special and badly, a sensitive guy will care. However do not feel too badly because the majority of men are that way, with their high ego.

Answer 6

I understand more then you know my ex did the same thing to me, I think for one it's a man thing, it has to be, for 2, I think it has to do with power, they want and need to have power over you, that's why he always makes it your fault and never his, if you've talked to him before and it's not changed, then it's probably not going to, but I'd give it one more shot and let him know that it hurts you very badly when he does this and things is going to have to change and see what happens, if he loves you he will sit down and listen and talk to you about it and at least try to change for you.

Answer 7

Quit "knowing" that you're right. Pick your fights carefully. If you're arguing over whether or not to have unprotected sex, thats' a pretty good fight. If it's whose chewing gum is the best- let him win! If the fighting itself happens all the time, I'd say you two need to be separated!

Answer 8

You said it yourself sweetie, YOU want to feel special and loved, if you are not feeling this way, be really strong and break ties with him. You deserve better, than a blamer.

Answer 9

You're suppose to feel like it's time to drop him and get a new man.

Answer 10

turn the tables on him. if he points at you, point back. show him that you have fangs and are willing to use them. or just dump him, guys like that aren't mature enough to be in a relationship.