she is 13 and her and her bf have been goin out for 8 months and they are honestly, really in love and they feel they are ready. but i think she is 2 young and she doesnt know what to do. i think she shouldnt but, what do u think?
2007-02-26 15:04:04 · 19 answers · asked by bre022594 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is 13 and her and her bf have been goin out for 8 months and they are honestly, really in love and they feel they are ready. but i think she is 2 young and she doesnt know what to do. i have talked to her almost constantly and her bf isnt pressuring her cuz he respects her. and she has read up on it and knows almost everything there is to kno. i think she shouldnt but, what do u think?
2007-02-26 15:17:23 · update #1
Yes, she's too young to fully understand how big of a decision this is. If you can't talk her out of having sex with her boyfriend then talk to her about practicing safe sex. Make sure she goes out to a clinic to get free birth control and condoms. Her parents don't have to know. What your friend NEEDS TO KNOW is how important it is to protect herself from STDs, getting pregnant etc.
When you get a chance, look up safe sex on google. Educate yourselves (this is good for you too) about your menstrual cycle and what days you're most likely to get pregnant. Also... remember that women don't always show signs of infection (after getting an STD) SO make sure that you're friend knows that she needs to see a gynecologist at least once a year for a check up and routine STD testing. (They have free clinics for STD testing also -- They keep the information there confidential so no one will know).
A friend of mine once had an undetected STD go on for YEARS. Her boyfriend never told her (or he never knew) that he had a STD. And now she can't get pregnant... even though she's old enough, mature enough and ready to have children. It was a mistake that changed her life forever. So, don't give up! Talk to your friend and learn something for yourself too!
2007-02-26 15:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think 13 is way way to young, however its up to her just make sure she understands that they HAVE to use a condom to prevent a pregnancy because she does not want to be a 13 year old mum! /this is really worrying that 13 year olds want to have sex but yeah atleast let her know of the risks.
Another thing, it has been provedin medical studies that ovarian cancer has more of a cance to develop the younger you have sex and also the amount of partners you have sex with at a young age. read up on everything before making a choice!
2007-02-26 23:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but you have to let her learn from her mistakes. I agree she is too young to even consider having sex. You could try to talk to her but sounds like her mind is made up.
2007-02-26 23:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. she shouldn't have sex. but when u tell her no, don't like yell at her because she might do it out of rebellion. just give her a million reasons of why not to do it. some reaons might include STDS (mainly AIDS), SEX could ruin their relationship, not help it. and tell her that if her bf is pressuring her, tell her to break up with him. and just let her know stuff u know? but definitley stop her with force if they decide to do it. u have to get involved. she shouldn't. u have to talk her out of it
2007-02-26 23:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! for God's sake, She is to young for it and will regret it all her life. If you are a good friend you would do everything in you're power to stop her. Talk to her,tell her parents anything!
2007-02-26 23:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica_The_kitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is obviously to young. if she were to have a kid at this age, it would ruin her life! what if the guy doesnt even love her enough to stay with her afterwards? u should explain that to her as well, tell her to wait, and tell her to tell him to wait as well, if he can wait for her, until she says yes, then most likely, hes worth it, if not, then dump him like garbage!
2007-02-26 23:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by la latina! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk her out of it ,its best to wait till much later for this sort of thing,why rush it give it time if he cares and its true love they will still be in love later too,this souldnt have anything to do with sex,they are not the same thing
2007-02-26 23:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by raindovewmn41 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk her out of it, talk her out of it, talk her out of it! As young as they are, once he gets what he's after, he will most likely become history and she will be just another notch on his belt. And boys talk! She will most likely be a hot topic for some time.
2007-02-26 23:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a little too young but it is her choice, as her best friend let her know that it will change her life, her reashonship, and is something she can never take back
2007-02-26 23:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by wings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes too young!!! if they are really in love with each other, why dont they get married and have SEX when they're older.
2007-02-26 23:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by marinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋