My matron of honor wants to take me bar hopping for my bachelorette party which is ok I guess...but I would really like to go to the strip clubs and hang out with the guys because I know they will be having all the fun!!! I love going to the strip clubs and having a good time too...I don't want to ruin the guys fun but I don't want to be bored all night either....Help Please!!!!!!
2007-02-26 15:04:02 · 16 answers · asked by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most of the girls who will be out with us are kinda iffy when it comes to strip clubs and they probably wont want to go!!!!
2007-02-26 15:08:38 · update #1
Ok now I am mad!!!! I have plenty of self respect and I do like haging out with the guys...I do know what marriage is about and I do like to go to strip clubs......He doesn't ever go to the strip club without me and Im not needy or obsessive. I don't care that he is going to the strip clubs, If i do go with him more than anything I would contribute more to him fun because I want to see them smack his *** with the belts and cuff him to the poles. Its fun!!!!! I am not one of these woman who has to be around thier men 24/7 I dont mind him going out and he doesnt mind me going out....I think women are beautiful and they have enough self respect to know that they are beautiful they are just smart enough to get paid for thier beauty......UGH
2007-02-26 15:30:41 · update #2
Good for you! You're secure enough with your own sexuality and with your man. Don't let strangers judge you. You're the only one who knows what makes you happy, so go with it.
To answer your question, however, I'd say you should let the girls take you bar hopping. You'll still have a good time. Sometimes we have to "suck it up" and be good sports when people want to do something for us.
You can always go to the strip clubs with your hubby later on.
2007-02-27 02:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats the dilemma? When you say you want to go to the strip club and hang with the guys, you don't mean your future husbands bachelor party do you?
If you want to go to the strip club, then go. They have liquor too. Maybe bar hop until the strip club opens and make that the last stop. The iffy gals can leave right before your last stop so nobody's left out.
Not sure if your talking about male or female strip clubs, but don't go on the same day or place as your future hubby. That's tacky and a little obsessive.
2007-02-26 23:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go to the strip clubs, then tell your friends this is what you want to do. I think they'll be able to come up with something raunchier than bar hopping.
However, you should NOT tag along with the bachelor party to the strip clubs. That is your fiance's party; it doesn't matter if it sounds like fun, or if he'd have fun with you there. It is his party, and you do not belong there.
Unless you were to do a combined couple's party, in which case everybody all goes together to the strip clubs. But have a talk with your fiance about this before you get excited about it. Its frankly his party that you'd all be crashing, and you need to understand if he doesn't want that to happen.
2007-02-27 10:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe suggest that you go to a pole dancing class (my bridesmaids surprised me with that) and then go to the clubs or a different strip club to the boys. After all it is your hens night but you don't want to impose on your hubby to be's bucks party. Maybe meet up much later in the night. your hens night is meant to be your last night out with the girls as a single woman.
Your matron of honour should understand, especially if bar hopping isn't quite your thing.
2007-02-26 23:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by foodychick 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you need to make sure the guys are welcoming to you. If this is normal night out stuff for you it might be OK. But you being there may keep things ftom the level of fun they had hoped for. If all is OK with them, suggest to your bachelorette thrower that you have a day time event. One that is over in plenty of time for you to go hang out with the guys. Then again, one never knows. Sometimes those you think are the most stuffy, turn out to be the most fun.
2007-02-27 00:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go girl!
First, see if you can find out where they are going. Let them know that you will not go to that establishment, and you will be at another strip club.
Or better yet... if you go to the one they are at, leave and find another one. That way you won't have to ask and sound like you want to watch him.
Let your matron of honor take ya barhopping, but after that take some girls who would like to go and go to a strip club. Time it so after barhopping you are near/at a strip club :)
2007-02-27 08:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone is different but it would be good if you got an okay from your boyfriend before doing so.
What be better is something your friends might like. I forget the name of the club women like to go to see male strippers and I have a feeling your girl friends would enjoy that a lot more than seeing naked women dancing and fishing for tips.
2007-02-26 23:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't meet up with the guys....that will ruin their time.....either go to a different strip club.....or go dancing. for my cousin's bachelorette party the bride had to do a list of things for a scavender hunt. that was fun....she had to take pictures with random guys, kiss a guy on the cheek, get a guy's boxers, etc. good luck and have fun!
2007-02-26 23:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sure do have a dilemma, but it's not the one you mentioned. Your dilemma seems to be whether to act like a respectable young lady ( who is about to exchange vows with apparently a man who finds pleasure in drooling over other females) or go join a bunch of sexually deviant men and women who wouldn't have the first clue on what getting or being married is all about? Have a little pride in yourself! I am amazed that younger women will not only settle for this kind of behavior, but will even go so far as to be involved in it! I'm very sorry if you think I'm being judgmental, I'm just very sad that you or other young women like you seem to have no self-respect.
2007-02-26 23:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
It's one night,I would just let your friends plan it,I'm sure you can find a way to have a blast.I don't think the guys will be all that happy if you ladies tag along,or you could just visit a different club then they plan to go to!!
2007-02-26 23:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋