Please help me on this. So I'm 18 and in college on a full-ride scholarship. My bf is 17 and in high school. He's not the most dedicated student, in fact he ditches quite often, always with some excuse or another. His dad got on his case yesterday about him not cleaning the house enough, and my bf got really upset and decided he wasn't gonna put gas in his car and was just gonna get stranded an hour away from home and force his dad to pick him up. (Real mature, right?) Well, I convinced him not to do that. He and I both have a slight alcohol problem, and recently he started smoking weed. I said I didn't want to smoke any, but he begged me so much, that I tried it. I'm also always saying I don't want to drink anymore, but he's always buying more and bringing it to me. He even wants to get a fake id to be able to access alcohol easier. And on top of all this, he's been making me pay for literally everything every time we hang out. Motels when he comes to visit, food...everything. Sorry for the list of grievances, and trust me, the list of his positive attributes would be much longer, but I'm not concerned with that right now. Anyway, I just don't know who to turn to about this because my mom would freak out and anyone else's opinion would be too biased. What do you guys think I should do?
2007-02-26 14:52:26 · 5 answers · asked by a.hawari@sbcglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man... I see your problem. Well, like most of what the other people are going to say, you should put some distance between you and your boyfriend. You have too much riding on your future to be drug down by a mistake that might cost you more than your willing to pay. You have a full ride scholarship. Do you want to lose that? You need to surround yourself with people who want the same things you want out of life. Also, if you join A.A., you can find a good support group, to face your alcohol problem. It seems like your boyfriend has some growing up to do. So do you, but atleast your smart enough to realize it, and that my dear is the start of becoming a mauture adult.
Good Luck
2007-02-26 15:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, just because you have a full ride scholarship don't mean you supposed to spend all your money kicking it with him. I'm sure when you tell him you don't have any money to kick it, you'd notice a change in him. As long as you're paying for things it's cool but you should turn the tables. If he loved you or cared any for you he wouldn't be begging you or convincing you to smoke weed. Focus on school, there is many people who would love to be in your shoes.
2007-02-26 15:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by niecytonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah a no brainier here, lose the loser and move on with you life get some help with drinking (aa) take you free ride and make something of yourself.
If you don't take care of yourself, no one else will.
Find a nice guy at collage and an nice group of friend and go make a new life for yourself.
I hope you do will in school. Stay cool and keep you chin up.
2007-02-26 15:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well bottom line, your bf needs to grow up. he needs to understand he isn't gonna be living with the rents forever.and he also should know that all the booze and drugs isn't going to lead to anything good. you should stop it too.
2007-02-26 14:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by corie j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence he sounds like kinda a bad infulence and yea u may love him but if its ganna put ur future at risk maybe ur shud give it a break or tell him how ur felln
2007-02-26 14:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋