I'm almost 21 and a junior in college. I just got accepted into Physical Theraphy school, I'm a successful college athlete, I'm attractive and fit, I have plenty of friends and I get along great with my parents. I'm in no way a miserable person!
...But every once in a while I get this little tingle of fear that I might not find that "special someone." I have fun with my friends and meeting new people, but it just seems like I'm a lot more mature than most guys my age. I'm not one of those girls that always has a boyfriend, and lots of my guy friends have told me that I'm "one of those girls that just looks like she must be taken." What does that mean?! I always tell myself that I'll find someone, but I worry a little sometimes.
Surely I'm not the only person who feels this way sometimes, right?
2007-02-26 14:37:38 · 23 answers · asked by ♥ it's katie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to the guy who told me not to wear rings on my left finger so i don't look taken... i only wear one small ring on a regular basis, and that is on my right hand. that isn't what they meant by "must be taken."
2007-02-26 14:58:47 · update #1
and to the guy who told me to get a backbone, i DO go up and talk to guys all the time...
2007-02-26 15:00:28 · update #2
haha cynical! no, i have blonde hair and blue eyes.
2007-02-26 15:10:15 · update #3
You're definitely not alone. But, if you're as nice as you sound, you'll find someone when you least expect it. Don't worry! You're young and it sounds like you have your priorities straight. The rest will come in time.
2007-02-26 14:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble on the maturity thing, but most guys don't mature until they are closer to 30.
Can you define what that 'special someone' is and why someone should meet that expectation without compromise on your part?
As far as the 'look like you're taken' thing, that is no fault of your own. Most guys are intimidated by very attractive women and because they fear rejection, they console themselves by assuming that you are already taken and will begin to pursue the not as attractive person next to you!
Your main priority should be to get that degree, establish your career, and then focus on finding that 'special someone.' At twenty, you have the rest of your life to find him, so stop worrying!
2007-02-26 22:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First if your more mature than your friend date older guys . As for being one of those girls who is taken well dont wear rings as for worrying about something thats no in your control you may well end up alone depends on if your will to put it on the line where ever you see someone you like to paraphase get some backbone and go over to him
2007-02-26 22:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sometimes I feel that way too. Take "must be taken" as a compliment but let them know you are not. Apparently you're not hideous and should have no problem dating. Finding quality people sometimes is the hardest part. We're not all perfect but settle for nothing less than what you want. Someday you will find it.
Best of Luck
2007-02-26 22:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by mjohnson351 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This the same conversation that I had with my son earlier this evening. He is 20 years old, very bright, funny and handsome. He settles for his girlfriend who treats him like ----, because he is afraid that nobody else will love him. I don't get it.......Maybe I should hook you two up. He has a MY SPACE....wish I could remember what his online identity was, I'd tell you to look him up. He has a "thing" for Hispanic girls though. If you don't have dark hair and eyes, he would not be interested. He has GREEN eyes and dark brown hair, is 5'10 and works out every day. Maybe you could change his mind?
2007-02-26 23:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by cynical1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, because if you do, you will just look for Mr. Perfect. And there is no such thing. The boy of your dreams just needs to know how to put a smile on your face, and knows how to make you feel good. So just remember: The more you worry the longer it will take. The time will come when the time is right. Good Luck!! :)
2007-02-26 22:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young, smart, and fortunate to be accepted into Physical Therapy school!! I know that must have been a difficult feat.
Don't worry so much about finding that "special someone" It will happen at the right time. Just continue to have fun with your friends, casually date, and believe me everything will fall into place... Think positive and positive things WILL happen!!
2007-02-26 22:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Movie Spice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not the only one i am 29 years old and dont think i will ever find mr right or get marryed and have my own family everytime i think i have a bf and have found the right one they leave everytime just had one to lie to me he is 34 with a 9 year old son and i thought things were great we like the same stuff and got along real well dont even know what i did if anything but he told me he was coming but never showed up so i tryed calling he would not take my calls and i wrote him a 8 page letter telling him how i feel about him and his son and he had his Friend to write me and say he dead monday with a heart attack with a photo of him laying down with a flower on top of him he is not dead i called his job he was at work when i called the thing is i want him back and i forgive him for lieing but not so much his Friend but he want talk to me at all but i miss him and love him so much. i am about ready to give up on love and getting marryed and i have not had sex yet at all trying to wait until i am marryed but dont think that will ever happen was 16 when i had my frist date and now almost 30 will be this summer and no bf or ring. so your not alone join the club girl i want mr right in my life i pray for that all the time and wish that on my b days but has not happen yet if at all if ever. tired of getting my heart bronken and beening hurt by man but oh so tired of beening alone want some one to hold me in his arms everynight. i get very lonely at nights.
2007-02-26 22:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I hope this helps and dosen't make you feel worse. Get your education, make a life for yourself, be wonderful, strong, wise and don't just settle and that special person will come your way. I was 45 years old before I found someone who really loved and cared about me. I felt the way you feel most of my life but I refused to settle for just anyone and boy am I glad I didn't.
2007-02-26 22:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by older and wiser 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't! Everytime i watch romantic movies like "the notebook", i get sorta sad because love looks so happy, and it seems as if so many people already have expierenced it.
And i know what you mean. Guys tell me I'm pretty and funny and I seem to have fun with them, but it's not like I have a bunch of boyfriends either.
But I know I have many more years ahead of me, and love always comes when you least expect it.
2007-02-26 22:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Remy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it happens to many people...you seem like an interesting gal but you have pretty high standards as its ok to have them but not that high, some guys may seem imature like me but you can have a lot of fun with them in the end ..dont worry you'll meet someone before you know it
2007-02-26 22:42:52 · answer #11 · answered by Juan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋