2007-02-26 14:33:24 · 38 answers · asked by RhondaL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That depends on what she did.
What on earth did she do to destroy your wedding day?
2007-02-26 14:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what she did, if it was an accident, forgive and forget, shes your sister. but if it was purposely try to find out why she did what she did and talk things out. I know your wedding day is special so its ok to be upset. Just dont let something make you be upset with your sister for ever.
2007-02-26 14:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by luckyduck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesss! It does not matter what she did you should still forgive her because that will be on you plus thats family. If you do the right thing you will feel alot better.I know that it probbaly was wrong for whatever she did. But just forgive her and everything will be okay "let the past stay in the past and look at the future!"
2007-02-26 15:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on how she destroyed it. If you still got married to the man you love that day I would say yes you should forgive her. You cant rewind time and make it right, so you might as well just forgive and forget. Just be happy your with the one you love!
2007-02-26 14:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm... Well, we are in control of how much bitterness and hurt we choose to harbor and nurture inside us. Always remember that forgiveness is more for ourselves than anyone else. It keeps our hearts good and clean and keeps bitterness from controlling us. Unfortunately, true forgiveness can take a lot of time, reflecting, patience, humbleness, and effort. You have to let yourself feel the array of emotions, the hurt, the anger, the bitterness, etc., and you have to allow yourself to see different points of view so you can come to your own understanding of the situation. Be patient with yourself and take the time you need. Keep your distance from your sis for a while so you can collect your thoughts and find your own peace inside. Don't pressure yourself to hurry or to do anything that doesn't feel right inside to you. I hope you will allow yourself to come find that sweet forgiveness and leave those heavy bitter feelings behind.
2007-02-26 15:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what she did, but that is irrelevant; if you can forgive her, you should forgive her. It is better for both of you. It takes a lot of energy to hold a grudge, and it is just not worth it. If what she did is really terrible, then forgive, but do not forget--and leave her off of the guest list at your next event, so she can't hurt you again.
2007-02-26 14:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shellbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is difficult but necessary for our emotional and even physical health. All of us get married forever.It's sad, but most of us don't. This is harsh, but men come and go, but sisters are forever. Be it she was drunk,jealous, angry, anxious, fearful. It really doesn't matter. We all do stupid things. All of us.Weddings are imperfect,stressful, and anxiety provoking.We may not be able to pick our relatives, but perhaps these people are here to teach us how to forgive, compassion, and love given the worse circumstances.May you find the balance you need for all of those that love you.
2007-02-26 14:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier to answer if you had given more information. If she did something on purpose and viciously ruined it, I don't know about that. If she destroyed it without intending to do so, then yes, forgive her. Did she have good intentions? Need more info.
2007-02-27 02:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on how badly she ruined it and exactly what she done to ruin it, but to be honest if my sister ruined my wedding i would be awfully pissed off and upset. I'd make her pay for a new wedding or make her ring every single person there and apologise for her behaviour. It would take a hell of a long time for me to want to talk to her again.
2007-02-26 14:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need to get over this and get on with being happy. But you need to remember how she is and when you plan any other function take this into consideration when doing the event. Life is short don't hold grudges but do not let your time get messed up again for the same sort of thing.
2007-02-26 14:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't mistake forgiveness for friendship. forgiveness will benefit no one but you. To carry around a hate in your heart, hurts only you. You can forgive someone but still choose not to associate yourself with them.
So for your own sake, yes do anything you can to forgive her and be rid of that resentment. If you should include her in your life at all, is up to you and her... but remain cordial to her at all occassions for your family's sake.
2007-02-26 14:42:47 · answer #11 · answered by Sara K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋