so there is this guy (best friends to the first guy i fell in love with..) who has told me he liked me and has been after me. i wondered if he Really liked me or if he just tried to get me since i was in that vulnerable state after getting my heart broken.. but he always says he likes me and all this stuff. i even talked to him today about it in texts and we got in this huge argument.. because it started because he asked me on a DATE. and i do not want to date him.. i just want to be friends. and i have made this completely clear to him for the past like 3 weeks, but he still keeps persisting in trying. so then the argument ended with him Taking something i said as saying i would go with him, but i NEVER said YES or accepted.. he just assumed because that's what he wanted to hear i guess. also since he is best friends to the last guy i loved (who started liking another girl is why he's gone) i kindof feel wrong when i'm with him.. is that wrong like i think? and is this date wrong?!?
2007-02-26 14:09:44 · 10 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks all.. and also i just wanted to add that i Have been honest with him.. and told him when he asked me on the date that i just didn't want to lead him on in any way and not be unfair to him since he liked me and i didn't return the feelings right now. but he still said he wanted to go with me. so i let him know i am not leading him on.. because i know how bad that hurts so i don't want to do it at all.. (that guy i was in love with led me on for three weeks while he fell for that other girl...)
2007-02-26 14:20:28 · update #1
It sounds like you both need time to figure out what you want...believe me...EVERYONE has been there who has ever been in love before! It's confusing...and I don't think you're wrong at all...but just do what is best for you and don't worry about anybody else...you're the one who was hurting, and if he makes you happy the go for it...if you need time, then tell him that. Honesty is the best policy...
2007-02-26 14:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by claireandmouse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey no one can force you to do anything you don't want to do.Sometimes best friends do have successful relationships because you already know the person but sometimes i can make the friendship end on bitter terms.Now if you have made it perfectly clear that a relationship is not of interest to you,tell him again and let him repeat what you have said to him and make sure he understands clearly what has been said to him.After that leave it alone because there is nothing else you can do.
2007-02-26 23:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY WRONG!! ...u dont tell him that just bcause he keeps persisting , u can do the same thing by persisting in telling him no...u know the dude likes u but if u dont like him u dont have to please him, at the same time ur keeping him around by doing that...and in my opionions, the dude doesnt have any respect for u ..cause he keeps trying to "make" u go out with him while he knows that u just broke up with his best friend ....and plus that ur going to look real cheap in ur ex' s eyes,if u date his b/f after u jst got dumped by him.... the best thing for u to do in order to get over ur ex and this stubborn dude is to tell him strait up 1 last time and dont ever pick up the phone the next time if he calls again(obviously he simply doesnt want to b just friends w/ u )...life is short ...just pack up and move on... take care..
2007-02-26 22:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Wow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. If it feels uncomfortable to you then it is probably not the best thing to do. The answer is in your heart. For me I would not go out with him if I'm not interested cause that would be leading him on. You would be doing yourself and him a favor if you desist now.
2007-02-26 22:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by sasiprinsess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really liked him, then it doesn't matter if the last guy you dated have been close friend with him. but if you are just saying yes , because you want him to stop bothering you and leave you alone. then you should go talk to him, and tell him the TRUTH. even though the truth hurt more than the LIES.
2007-02-26 22:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by GuitarChik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes dating is wrong cause if he's already arguing with you he must not care too much about how you feel and he's also not accepting the fact of being friends nor realising.the fact that he's your first loves friend thats not good at all due to him knowing the dislikes about you
2007-02-26 22:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it kinda depends on what kind of person ur friend is but i don't think its wrong. Maybe u should give it a try n u might be surprised in a nice way. and also ur friend might have liked u from the beginning but didn't tell u because his best friend liked u. i hope watever u do goes well =]
2007-02-26 22:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should like talk to the guy just talk ... get to know him really and tell him that... and if you really feel like he's gonna be ok... and you like him.. then no its not wrong to date him.. but i think you and him should just talk for now
2007-02-26 22:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lopez Pride 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If YOU feel wrong than it's wrong. It's all up to YOU. This might seem sorta hard but in the end its simple. Think about it.
2007-02-26 22:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by The Curse of Curves 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is because you don't want to date him. Simple enough and if he can't take the hint then he must be mental as well as stupid.
2007-02-26 22:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋