My boyfriend had to go back with his ex because she tried to commit suicide?

Question

She claims that she will try again if they ever break up again. He cares about her, but doesn't want to be with her. He feels that if he leaves her again, her next attempt will be successful and he wouldn't be able to live with himself. How do you deal with someone like that?!

Answer 1

You're boyfriend is weak. You're better off.

If she wants to control people with the threat of suicide, and he's enough of a wimp to fall for it, seriously, they deserve each other.

If it's any consolation, they're going to be miserable. And when you get over him, you can enjoy the high drama that's sure to follow those two, and thank god that you aren't dating Mr. Spineless.

Answer 2

It sounds like he's gonna make it worse because she's gonna try it every time they break up! Most people that say they will do it again most likely will not be successful because they really don't want to die. I would have him talk to her family...does she really want to be with a guy who is only with her because she says she'll kill herself? He obviously doesn't want to be with her...she's just very upset and not sure what to do. I am a nurse and when I work ER I see alot of this...it seems it's an attention ploy and he is NOT responsible for her. He needs to tell her family and GET OUT! It will only get worse every time...talk to him in a caring kind voice, and if you need to, use a mediator like a counselor or even a local hospital...but help him out and hang in there...if he means alot to you be there for him!

Good luck...you can IM me if you would like me to find a list of hospitals that have free mediators for her and him and you...it might take a day or two, but the hospital I work at has all that info.

Answer 3

This is a sign that your boyfriend is a weak person. He went back to her, because he wants her. You would be a fool if you stayed with him, as he is using you. As for the two of you getting her "committed" to some asylum, it can't be done. A immediate family member has to do that, and then only by a court order.
My advice is to leave him, and find you another boyfriend, one that is free to be with you, no strings attached. You'll be happier in the long run. Being with this guy will just cause you more grief and trouble in the future. Take care, and find another one.

Answer 4

A person who has tried to commit suicide or is even contemplating it, needs help not an ex boyfriend.

Personally I find it hard to believe that anyone would go back with someone because they were that unstable. Does he think he is therapist or some kind of benefit for her well-being? Tell him that if is so concerned with her well being, he should talk to her parents or anyone else that could get her to therapy.

Honestly...it sounds a little unlikely the whole truth is being told. You should distance yourself from both of them. It can only end badly for you.

Answer 5

you know i went thorugh exactly the same thing (it did NOT have a happy ending) we were in love but she attempted suicide and threatended him, the EXACT SAME THING. technically it hasnt been resolved yet, but the advice most people gave us was that you guys should tell a third party that would deal with it. a family member, a counselor, even the police because she cant keep you from having a relationship and if it ends up in her death yes, it will be bad, but at least you guys tried.

now, i dont mean to tell you what you dont want to hear but heres how mine ended up, the only reason im telling you is because even though i hope this is not the case, there is still the possibility that this might happen: well my boyfriend (ex now) decided he loved me too much that and that he couldnt blame himself, so he gently broke up with her again, you know, talked to her, told her to get help, and he got back together with me, except that months later he broke up with me again to go back to her and he currently (over a year later) is still with her. conclusion: he cared about her more than just "to save her life" so you better watch out, because it is a possibility.

hope this ends up well for you and that you and your boyfriend end up together

p.s. after reading wht other people wrote it reminded me that some people DID tell me to ignore her and that he was wimp for believing her threats, but its not true. you know your boyfriend, and thats not the case. good luck!

Answer 6

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She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.

She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.

Answer 7

He probably felt that he had to go back, but he didn't...and he's being manipulated. When she threatens him with suicide, he needs to IMMEDIATELY call the authorities, and tell them she has made this threat. It's illegal to kill yourself. No kidding. They will come to her home, pick her up and take her to get some mental help. She apparently is in serious need of this!

He (nor anyone else) can just have her committed against her will, UNLESS she proves that she's a danger to herself or to others. By making that threat, she has shown that she's a danger to herself. You can't wait around for days before you call though. When she makes the threat, he needs to make the call.

When she tried to commit suicide, what did she do? Pills? Cut her wrists? Did she actually TRY to do it, or just threaten to? I think she's bluffing, but either way...if she means it, she needs help. If she's playing games...she'll wake up when the police take her to the psych ward! It's seriously the best (and only) thing he can do.

Answer 8

Okay,personal experience here (both ends).
She isnt going to kill her self. This is calles malipulation. She knows itll bring him back (and she's obviously right). If he leaves, she'll plead with him not to go, beg, bargain. If he can be strong and walk away, ignore the calls, she will cry in her room, play depressing music, but she will be okay. In the crazy off chance to she does, it wouldnt be because hse lost this guy, it would be because she was already a hopeless wreck. It isnt healthy for either of them to be in this relationship. She's in serious co-dependancy which has little to do with her love for him but rather an obsession with a guy who shows her all this attention. He needs to feel wanted AND she's making him feel guilty when he tries to move on to a real life...maybe with you. He needs to be strong, walk away, dont look back. In a month or two she will forget him, she will live and he will be happier, again....maybe with you.

Answer 9

I would call the police or her family and explain that your boyfriend is her ex boyfriend and that she tried to kill herself and that he feels like it would be his fault. Then, maybe, she can go and get some help. I would tell your boyfriend to do this-OR YOU WILL!!! This girl needs help and if she kills herself, your boyfriend cannot blame himself because she is the one doing this. Also, a woamn who keeps doing this all the time may not suicidal per say, but, she may want attention.
This is what you should do. Tell him to call someone or you will take action and if he refuses-LEAVE HIM!!!
Maybe he likes the drama. I know I don't.

Answer 10

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.