I got my exgf pregnant and treated her very bad afterwards, I broke up with her then began a new relationship. I ended up getting involved with her neighbors daughter and married her, now my wife is pregnant with my child. My child's mother put up with all my BS for the sake of our son, I would hardly give her any money and gave her a very hard time about everything she did. I eventually crossed the line and the police got involved, I have no issue with saying it was all my fault. She is a great mother and has turned her life around, I like to think my tough love had something to do with it. I also have no job. She works for a major company and I hear that she is dating a stock broker. I am oddly bitter and jealous. I have not tried to contact her in 6 weeks and am consdering taking her to court so I can see my son. btw I did not sign the birth certifcate.
I probably sound like a real jerk, but I am who I am and I want to see my son. is it wrong to push a custody suit on her?
2007-02-26 13:56:32 · 13 answers · asked by juy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you don't have a job, don't waste your time trying to get custody of the child. You probably couldn't get it even if you had a job as the mother generally always gets custody if she's a good mother. Looks like she has a lot going on for her and has a promising future. If you want to see your child and she won't let you, then you have the right to try to get visitation rights. The tough love you gave her may be construed by some as abuse so I wouldn't push it.
2007-02-26 14:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you have the right to see your child, even if you are not paying support in most states.
Second, if you go to the Friend of the Court offices and start a case, you will most likely have to prove paternity through DNA testing. If the baby's mother is willing to have you listed as the legal father, you can get an affidavit of parentage, fill it out, have it notarized and have the birth record changed to reflect you as father. Once you have established paternity and opened a case, you will be able to get visitation. You will probably also be asked by the court to pay child support.
Third, you have one child and another on the way. You need to get a job or some kind of state/federal aid, if you are not working due to disability. No matter where the baby's mothers work or who is helping them financially, those kids are yours and it is your responsibility to provide for them financially and emotionally.
I would definately recommend going to the court, no matter how well you and the mother are getting along at any one time. Things change and if theres no guaranteed visitation schedule set by the court, she can tell you that you cannot see the child. If you have court ordered visitation, she cannot deny you access to your kid. Also, if she does get or has gotten a restraining order, you can arrange to drop off and pick up the child at a neutral location. Usually, its a friend, a relative or the local police department.
To the poster that said you do not sign the birth certificate, thats wrong. If you are married, the name of the husband is automatically listed as father. In cases of unmarried parents, the father has to legally acknowledge paternity or be listed by court order.
2007-02-26 14:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to see your son for all the right reasons!
Not out of pure jealousy, just to see the ex or anything like that. If this is something you really want you have to be a constant in his life not come and go for long periods of time.Im sure the court would allow you access even if at first its supervised and you work up from there. Good luck
2007-02-26 14:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 00:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you still want to control her. And that's what you were trying to do with not helping her support your child. And "helping" Her with your tough love. She has done what she has because of her not you. She has learned not to depend on you. And now is finally finding someone who will treat her child and her with some respect. She has out grown you...What does you wife think of you obsessing about her and being bitter and jealous of her life? I don't think you want to see your son at all...I just think you want your ex back into your control and to hurt her.
2007-02-26 19:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by sparksgirls6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you are very wrong for wanting to take her to court. you are married. get over her jealously and ask her to let you see your son. If she is as wonderful as you say she is she will let you see your son. Then if she will not let you see your child take her to court. But try first. Don't be a jerk and treat her curl because you are jealousy that you can't have you cake and her too!
2007-03-02 13:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole Powell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the sounds of it you don't want your son you wast to punish her for Making a better life for her self and your son if that is the Case leave them alone
no state will just hand over custody because your the father you may get visitation with him but i really think you will start battle you wont win you have proven your self to be violent and you have not been there for your son and courts don't like fathers like you
i am not tring to be rude just stating facts
2007-02-26 15:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to her about this first, before the court papers arrive. She may surprise you. Regardless of what a complete jerk you've been, you are still this childs father and MAY deserve to see him. However, you had better expect to be raked over the coals. And it sounds like deservedly so !
2007-02-26 14:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by Johanna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get going and get an education and/or job. Start thinking about supporting your current wife and child-to-be.
You are wrong to screw up the good life your older child and exgf are living. Learn from your mistakes and don't do the same things to your wife and baby.
2007-02-26 14:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most states will not give you any paternal rights since you were not there during the pregnancy. However if you pay child support you have a right to see the child.
2007-02-26 14:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by kittenbrower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋