Ie you pretend you did not do all the same things when you were young.
Or pretend as a girl you were this innocent 17 year old virgin
Not some groupie or party girl dating all the guys doing it in cars, cinemas, clubs, etc...
Then grew up
As for guys only into one hting...
Takes two to tango so the girls were just as much into sex stuff as the boys... more so... girls get it easier.
How many wnet clubbing and had a good time?
well the clubs I was into were all very safe... in one saw one fight in 14 years and thats only as someone was dumb enough to touch the butt of a fiesty tomboy girl who floored him, twice her size who out moshed the boys in the wild most pits.
how many all snuck into all the r/18 rated movies, drank underage, smoked, smoked dope etc.
As it was pretty much all I knew.
2007-02-26 13:48:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
FINALLY SOME HONEST SENSIBLE PEOPLE
2007-02-26 13:59:21 · update #1
yeah well I got the keep me innocent **** and it worked and ruined my life...
all those who slet around had everything go right... those who didnt and listend to their parents are now all fucked up.
2007-02-26 14:19:06 · update #2
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Ok seems many here dont want their kids making the same mistake...
Same here...
Was the good well behaved one who studied, didn't get to date etc till over 18 just like your parents want... it ruined my life and all ever been is hurt and lonley...
therefore would not want others going through the same thing as it only hurts and you miss out on any hope of love.
thats far worse then your fears of getting pregnant or other stuff.
Plus ever heard of condoms and the pill combined
2007-02-27 00:59:52 · update #3
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Ok seems many here dont want their kids making the same mistake...
Same here...
Was the good well behaved one who studied, didn't get to date etc till over 18 just like your parents want... it ruined my life and all ever been is hurt and lonley...
therefore would not want others going through the same thing as it only hurts and you miss out on any hope of love.
thats far worse then your fears of getting pregnant or other stuff.
Plus ever heard of condoms and the pill combined
2007-02-27 00:59:53 · update #4
Plus as said the clubs I hung out in were all frendly and peacful and fun , And the culture taught you to look after others.
2007-02-27 01:00:31 · update #5
at last it has been revealed why you are so full-on about all the issues you bring up on this site!
i'm sorry if you think its your parents fault that you have never had a successful relationship and are paranoid about what the rest of us are doing/not doing, saying/not saying to our kids, but at some point you need to realise that there are people out there who have had a lot lot lot more s**t to deal with than you (ie just being over-protected by parents) and have gone on to have successful lives, because they at some point took responsibility for themselves and got over it, via therapy etc etc.
you are right to be concerned about the kids of the world, but dont over burden yourself with worrying, or dare to presume that all us parents are f***ing up our kids, believe it or not, a lot of us are doing a grand job!!!
parents do NOT have to right to tell their kids EVERYTHING they did as kids themselves, its too much information and could be inappropriate in some cases, BUT, you can tell them edited versions, esp if you been thru something similar yourself, or a friend etc, so they can put situations into perspective. i did this recently with a minor bullying issue with one of my daughters, my bullying incident was more long-running than hers, but i didnt labour over details just told her how i felt and then in a humourous way, told her how i dealt with it. it was a positive chat and helped her a lot, and so has a wonderful head of year at her high school who she trusts and talks to a lot, sometimes more than she does to me at the moment - not because either of us is 'damaged' but coz she's a teen and at the 'my parents are slightly embarrassing stage)!
you must stop generalising about us parents, word your questions more carefully so parents dont feel so attacked by your questions, many of which are valid but very intense and generalise a lot!
and maybe get some counselling for your issues before they burn you up with resentment.. if you are a parent or going to be obne in future you need to shed old issues 1st or you will be the one who may f**k your kids up instead! if parents stil alive, try talking to them too, you may get a whole new perspective on what they were trying to do (ie protect you). my dad was over protective and repressive, i rebelled a bit, but we all still get on ok, coz i'm not wasting energy hating him or anyone else who messed up in my life, as we are just human after all. different if there was abuse etc, different issue, but you can see what i mean, yeh? even in abusive cases there is a need to move on and deal with thngs so they dont hamg round your neck like millstones all your life.
chill out, have more rational debates. maybe go work for a childrens charity, paid or unpaid, and channel your energies into something that will get real results for the kids you worry about, but for yourself too.
good luck.
2007-03-03 18:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is only possible to accurately judge something when using hindsight, not at the time. Parents have the benefit of hindsight, they generally know people who did all that when they were young, and how they've messed up their lives. They have a more objective viewpoint, they understand why their own parents tried to stop them doing stuff, they know that there's more to life than just being young and having a good time, and they also generally care about what happens to their offspring. Some, however, are still hypocrites.
2007-02-26 14:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by canislupus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called learning from your mistakes. When your older and have kids of your own you will try your best to protect them. This is when you go "omg my parents were right!" and you realize you've turned into your mother........its a horrible feeling. I wish I could go back and do everything over knowing what I know now. Your parents are out to be mean to you, they just care. Things like getting into an R rated movie isn't going to make your mother cry, coming home high or pregnant will. Don't do anything that wouldn't make your mother proud. If you feel you have to be bad.......for goodness sakes don't get caught!
2007-02-26 13:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by toplesbabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is the parents who behaved like that didn't care about themselves very much at the time.
They care now and it is too late to do anything about their past mistakes.
They wish someone had put up warning signs WARNING SEX IN THE BACK OF CARS LEADS TO UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES , unprotected sex can result in AIDS etc
and so they try to help their own kids by providing the warnings.
They know everyone needs to learn from their own mistakes but they dont want the lesson to be too expensive.
They feel they have more concern for their teenagers life than to worry about being hypocritical
2007-02-26 20:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by marvelous_mad_madam_mim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All parents have secrets from their children. They've made the mistakes and don't want their children to make mistakes that could ruin their future. When you are a parent, you will do the same thing.
"Back in the day" grown ups would do what they shouldn't in front of you but slap you silly if you did the same thing, since you were a child. I'm not so sure that's so bad of the parent. After all, they are looking out for you. I'm not referring to parents who deliberately abuse their children, verbally and physically.
2007-02-26 13:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the parents learned from their mistakes and do not want their childen to make their same mistakes. Also a lot of kids have this thought in their mind "well my parents did it so it's okay for me to do it" or "they cant punish me for this because they did it too" and that is NOT okay. Of course some kids think "okay my parents did it and they said it was not worth it so maybe they are right" but that is very few. Also isn't everyone a hypocrit? You'd be lying if you said you weren't.
2007-02-26 13:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to a point. My parents were hypocrits. They said dont drink but they drank dont smoke yet they smoked dont do drug but they did drugs. So I did go out and make mistakes but I learned from them and dont do stupid things anymore. So I am living a life my children can see not just hear about. So I hope that with me living a better life they will make better choices than I did with the examples my parents set for me.
2007-02-26 13:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone did that
As a matter of fact I know plenty of grow ups that i have been freidns with as kids and they didn't do any of that.
And most of them were innocent 17 year olds.
And parents are just trying to protect there kids from making the stupid mistake that thye made.
2007-02-26 13:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was a 17 yr old virgin and very innocent! LOL
I married the 2nd guy I dated!
And I am honest with my children!
All parent want is for their children to have a better life than they had!
God Bless
2007-03-05 05:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They care about you, and they don't want you to get hurt. I did many stupid things as a youngster and hope my children won't repeat the same. I don't want them to be hurt and I don't want them to be ashamed of their actions later on. Case in point, I was at a reunion recently and everyone remembers the "loose" girls and talks trash about them, even while they are sitting right there with their husbands. A lot of high school follows you throughout your life. We aren't hypocrites, we just care.
2007-02-28 00:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by eee_aww 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't lie to my kids. They know I did a lot of horrible mistakes in my past. I use me, what I did, and where I am now as an example as to why I have certain expectations of them to they can grow up to be healthy adults.
All they have to do is look at their low-educated, un-glamorous, spiritually hurt mother and what got her here to know a lot of what NOT to do.
2007-02-26 15:40:53 · answer #11 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋