This other mother and I have taken turns taking each others kids and my 20 month old daughter is being tormented by this 4 year old demon child that I have volunteered to take. This boy already has an extensive vocabulary that consists mostly of filthy words and he teases my daughter who barely talks or understands why she's being pushed around
I try to separate them but he seems to be a sadistic four year old who won't stop. He even calls me names until I put him on the "stairs" and then told his mom I was "mistreating" him. She assured me she didn't believe him but has been suspicious looking around me.
I would never mistreat a child, but what do i do with this manipulative brat!?!
I only have one child and I am a younger mother than this other mom who already has 3 kids...what do i do?
2007-02-26 13:48:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Stand up for yourself and your child!!! Don't put up with this garbage any more. Do you want the baby's first sentence to be one they picked up from this brat???
Tell her the truth. You never refered to her as a "friend" so I suspect there is nothing to lose. And just b/c she has more experience being a mother, she obviously doesn't know more than you do about raising kids.
Most obnoxious children have clueless or obnoxious parents. Get rid of her and the devil spawn.
When your little one gets older you will notice that she picks friends who are from families much like yours. Moms with similar ideas etc. Good kids like to be around other good kids.
Good luck to you!
2007-02-26 13:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind that you are basically saying every child but yours is a brat. Yes, that child sounds bad, but he is just a CHILD. He probably does not know much better, try and set a good example for him, instead of complaining abt the problem, try to fix it. He is still young and learning, if you really think it's his mom/dad/anyone else causing these problmes, maybe you should talk to him. Ask him where he learned those words, and try to sound calm and sweet and very compassionate and caring when you tell him not to say those words, if you make him feel stupid or dumb, he might never change just to spite you, but hey, he is only around 4... right? So just try to set a better example than the trash he is learning.
I wish ya good luck!
2007-02-26 21:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once called over protective when my 5 month old daughter was picked up by a 5 year old child and almost droped her. I freaked. I had a good reason to. Your best interest is in your baby. Youll find other friends. nice ones with nice babies you can share your time with. You dont need her. besides that. that little brat already put a wedge in your friend ship, and that's hard to over come. tell her what you think and send her on her way.
2007-02-26 23:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like this is not your only problem. How do you know your own child is not being mistreated by the other kid when she is in the care of the other mother?
You must stop your arrangement immedately and find another loving parent to share the care of your respective children.
2007-02-26 22:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww i feel bad for ur daughter....the mom has to know that her kid is bad...or maybe he doesn't act that way with her...? as a younger mother then some i know..i know how u feel i also do not allow my kids act like that. while older mother let thiers run wild...which just drives me nuts...i don't think u did anything bad did u tell her how he acts? how he's pushing a baby?
if she don't believe u i'd tape it lol. show her what he did show her how u handled it by just putting in time out...but i'd watch the tape first...cause well then everyone see the light when they see it happening in a outsider look not the one who has to handle it.
2007-02-26 21:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by dragonwolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop hanging around theses people,if you dont your child will be hurt and will pick up the other childs bad behavior.either his mom is unaware or she just doesnt care.i cannot beleive that people allow their kids to be so rude loud bossy mean just rotten and do nothing about it.then they have the nerve to get mad if anyone says or does anything about their bratty kids.wake up the world doesnt revolve around you are your bratty children,you are the parents act like it!
2007-02-26 22:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't watch him anymore. I'm sure she knows how her son is, but doesnt want to deal with it because that is the "easy" way out. If she doesnt believe you then video tape it and show how he treats your daughter. I'm probably not much help but Good luck
2007-02-26 22:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her what you do an dont not tolerate , i would borrow a friends camera an record what takes place an tell her that he will get punished for it . otherwise you cant just allow it to happen because you would be punishing your daughter an she doesn't deserve that an also can pick up nasty habits.
2007-02-26 21:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by peeps you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the parents know and are working with the children. Most of the time, the are so used to how their children are, that they don't realize it. (Everyone wants to think they have perfect little angels.)
2007-02-26 21:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run the other way! You shouldn't have to watch her kid (I hope you don't have to watch all 3) and put up with his bratty behavior.
2007-02-26 22:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋