My boyfriend is trying to get me in bed with him!?

Question

He wants me in bed but i don't wnt to take the chances of pegnecy when im only 18 he has never acted like this what do i do?

Answer 1

I bet.

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Answer 2

tell his young hormone ridden butt to take a long walk. Geeez you girls need to be out having fun with your friends. Learn all you can in school and travel as far as you can. I know I sound like somebodys mother but let me tell you something. when I was 18 I got pregnant and had a son when I was 19. I now am 49 and my son is 31. i love him dearly and we have a great relationship but my parents stepped in and adopted him so I would not have to be responsible. You think you can take care of things but you can not. My perfect thin body has never been the same, my **** are never gonna be perky, my stomach will never be flat....I work out at the gym but once you have a baby that is it!!! And I was one of the lucky ones, i had no stretch marks. My girlfriend that had her baby 6 months before me cant even wear a bathing suit. Birth control pills are expensive and they make you bitchy and fat, not to mention prone to cancer, You are of course 18 so you can do what you want to do. so If you do choose to do that check into an IUD.... an internal uteriun device....it has to be inserted at the dr. office while you are on your period. there area a lot of pros and cons about it but I have had one for 45 years now (not the same one of course) and never got pregnant again. I had periods on time and they were kind of heavy but what the hell....The work 100% as far as Im concerned. there are some cases that complain they have problems but i have had mine changed out every 10 years and its the best thing thats ever been invented. hope it helpes you......but dont get pregnant till your married and very happy and sure of your life ..If you have no one you can contact me and i can help you.

Answer 3

If you have to ask "What do I do?" then you are not ready to cross that line. There are many things you can do--prescription birth control, over-the-counter birth control, sexual variations that don't carry the risk of pregnancy--but what YOU should do is say, "No, my dear, not yet."

If this relationship continues, and if you educate yourself more, you may have a chance for a good, risk-free, satisfying first sexual experience. If you jump into bed now, you'll just be another 18-year-old in trouble.

Answer 4

Don't let him rush you if you aren't ready. Anyone who will not respect that you aren't ready doesn't really respect you. It is much better to wait and be sure than to rush it and regret it...you simply cannot undo some things in life. Being concerned about pregnancy is a valid reason to wait. There are birth control options but abstinence is really the only 100% option at your age (some are very close when used properly but still not 100%). It is your body and your decision...you do what you feel is right.

Answer 5

Talk to him, if he cares he will understand. If your both willing, try oral sex if you can stop from going all the way,, or use a condom and birth control. Sounds like you're not ready to have sex with him yet, and if that is the case, he must be told. His frustrations may break you guys up, he's in his prime (just prepare for this), he wants it bad, but don't do it if your not ready and keep yourself protected at ALL times. At least you know your not ready for a baby! Very smart!

Answer 6

Have you guys talked before about sex? I'm assuming not, but if you've already laid down boundaries shame on him. Sit him down (when you aren't in the heat of the moment) and explain why you want to remain a virgin. Explain that condoms don't cut it, and that the risk is too great. Set this boundary and then stick by it. It doesn't help if you're both naked and in his bed together (trust me, I would know). If he probes and says things like "well, there's such a small statistic of pregnancy, it's really not even a risk at all" then please ditch him. If he truly loves you, he will adhere to your boundaries and not push. These men do exist, I'm dating one.

Answer 7

tell him he is pushing it and its only pushing you away. i was in this situation and i just told him that trying to make me do it wasnt getting him anywhere and if he didnt stop that would be the end. dont let him force you to do anything. you will regret it later and you cant change the past if something does happen. let him know ou trust him and everything but you dont trust the chances of you getting knocked up. if he cares about you he will understand that a really future with opportunitie and freedom is more important than a root. and he should be profective of your feeling and well being not just trying to use you for what you have. just let him know that it isnt going to happen and he needs to back off cause he is only pushing you away. good luck dont give in to anything cause you might regret it big time.

Answer 8

Never ever do anything in which you are not ready for. NEVER! If he is pressuring you to sleep with him, then get rid of that looser! If he loves you and respects you he will wait. That is what respect is. You seem to be very intelligent because you brought up some key points about the consequences. One thing you failed to mention is when you start sleeping with a man, and you are the one with the feelings, you can get hurt. Being sexually active is a mature decision with consequences. Take your time honey..............

Answer 9

tell him no, if he doesn't respect that decision enough, drop him.

guys are usually horny octopi.. by any chance, would this "get you in bed" phase have anything to do with you just turning 18 and him being a bit older? If that's the case, that's probably been his only goal all along...

Answer 10

Well... The real question is do you think he's the one you want ot have sex with. Maybe you should consider taking birth control or make him put on a rubber. And if you still don't want to do it then let him know how you feel. I know you don't want to be a virgin for the rest of your life. But if your not ready then let him know and don't do it.

Answer 11

If you're not ready then don't. If he still pushes the subject, then he's not worth it because he doesn't respect the fact that you don't want to. He's a guy, so obviously he wants sex, but don't let what he wants persuade what you don't. If you do, then there are condoms, birth control...Just make sure you're ready first, otherwise you'll regret it.