My dad is an abusive alcoholic......can you help (advice)?

Question

. My father is and abusive alcoholic and to be honest I dont know how to deal with it. I have two older brothers whom I am VERY close to, the were beat a lot and I had to watch. My sister and I were emotionally abused a lot, and it still goes on today. I also watched my mom get hit. My dad is my brothers step-dad , and because they weren't his real kids and I was I always felt that it should have been me who got hit instead of them. This past summer we found out my dad was cheating on my mother. (yes more bad news and he left.) He is now behind on all his bills and is still drinking heavily and is on drugs. I haven't seen or talked to him in 6 months. I guess what I really need help with is I am the kind of person who keeps everything inside and because of it now I cut and I am on major depression medication, just to be able to be a normal person.... advice?

Please if your just going to say i'm stupid for cutting or just want attention I really don't want to hear from you.

Answer 1

You have my sympathies. How old are you? Is there any other relative/friend you could live with. You definitely need to get some counseling. This is more than you can handle by yourself. But remember life is a series of choices. Choices that you make. Don't try to blame your problems on others forever. You must get help and make good choices for yourself and for your future. I think you can do it.

Answer 2

i cut myself for ten years,alot
so i dont think your attention seeking outright
but your on here seeking attention so i will say that is is OK to want and need attention, so im giving you mine :)

i think part of the problem is that you shouldnt have to know the things you know, its not your job to worry about your dad its his to worry about you,

put aside his drinking and drug abuse, because that is his cross to bear, not yours, if he fixes is or not, he is the only one who should be worrying about that

for the abuse, i also find similarities between us in that respect, and the only advice i can offer is what i know
it is going to take a long time, but this too shall pass, one day you wont feel as bad about the whole thing, the next might be a little better and the next you might even smile,

i think you should worry about your own recovery, just yours, because you are the only person you need to worry about, im not saying dont love your mom or dad or siblings, but you need to focus on you, and how important you are and how much you need to stop cutting and feel good again

aside from that stay away from your dad if you can, because he is not worthy of you right now, and one day he may realize what he lost, but he might not

i hope you feel better soon

Answer 3

You say your close to your brothers go out together for a coffee or something and talk to them let them be there for you.. They can truly understand because the live it to.. If your not comfortable with that get a counsellor and talk to them.. or you can call a help line they do not know who you are and you can talk freely without being scared of them judging you.. They really help people who need it.. Good Luck things will get better

Answer 4

i know he is your dad and you will always love him no matter what he dose to you but my advice is seek help for yourself and put dad behind you if everybody sticks together and says dad enough is enough and we dont want nothing to do with you untill you stop drinking then maybe he will see what he is loseing and see how much it is hurting his childeren before you except him back in with open arms make him go threw treatment aa is free and it wouldent cost him a thing you could also go to aa classes your self to get help on dealing with dad they offer classes for loved ones who have family who is alcoholics and its full of people who need someone to talk to that cant deal with the problem anymore please seek some help and ill keep you in my prayers

Answer 5

this is going to sound well stupid but if u wanna talk to someone hit me up on myspace, myspace.com/teddy275.... it really helps to talk about that stuff, my dad doesn't drink but i've seen him do similer things and has cheated on my mom.

Answer 6

i would report him because it could esxlaid int him going to fare asnd killing someone