My boyfriend never seems interested in having sex with me. When we first started dating he wanted it all the time, but for the past year he never wants it. When we do have sex it is very routine and a bit boring. We have taked about it, he says he wants to have sex more often and spice things up, but he never takes action. When I try to initiate something (most of the time) he turns me down. What is the problem and what can I do?
2007-02-26 13:02:49 · 11 answers · asked by joanjet456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem? You're having sex.
And this proves my point that sex complicates things.
Wait till you're married.
2007-02-26 13:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, people are born with a deficiency, to a sex drive, ask him if its that he thinks its psycological or if he should maybe get a physical and/or talk to a sex therapist, or maybe its little things that turn him off, or what you want to know most importantly is HOW to turn him on. Maybe its when he initiates it, or if you do, it bothers him because his mother was permiscuous, you can only get the info if you ask the question. You have to figure out if this is mental or physical and go from there. Maybe he is questioning his sexuality and is confused, maybe he just needs to talk this out, it could be a number of things, go to the sex therapist together, don't tell him he has to go and do it all himself, tell him that you want to help him find out what exactly it is so you can help him feel differently or help him period, to find out what is really the problem, if he even just has you as a friend to talk to and you get some help from a sex therapist /and or without telling him, all it will show is that you care, but make sure you never tell anyone about this because a man is very sensitive about their manhood. You have to have the talk in order to help him out, take care Heather
2007-02-26 13:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your hygiene is good to begin with (it is very unlikely that is the problem but an easy place to begin) Do you criticize him when having sex? If so he could feel that he cant satisfy you. Not to say that you shouldn't let him know what you want. In any event communication will be the key to resolving this even if it turns out that he is sexually involved with someone else. My guess in this case is that for some reason he feels inadequate or fears pregnancy or transmission of an STD..
2007-02-26 13:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has lost interest in you. Perhaps he is finding he confused about his sexuality. Maybe he likes another girl. This shouldnt be happening now. This happens sometimes sadly enough after 25 years of marriage but now..my God...confront him..and ask him why dont you desire me any longer?
2007-02-26 13:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some toys if your into that, or just handcuffs. or cute langura [ sorry cant spell it aha ] or something and surprise him. just make sure hes turned on before you introduce this stuff or it wont work . dont tell him, and dont wait around for him. do it yourself
2007-02-26 13:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by braineak123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have not idea whats wrong with he, ill be happy to help you out with the sex problem
2007-02-27 06:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by paul b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like its time for a new boyfriend
2007-02-26 13:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
-----Having sex with your wife is risky. Having sex with anyone else is mental illness. ---Jim
2007-02-26 13:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by James M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try more teasing
2007-02-26 13:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get really kinky with him and do some sick insanely hot ****
2007-02-26 13:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋