this guy and me are talking. well he's going off to navy boot camp and i want to show him i can be good for him. his been so good to me the past month or so and we never even got a good shot at being together before he enlisted. we decided not to start nothing because of the distance thing and we really haven't hung out because the closer we get the harder i know it will be to say goodbye. but while his gone for the 8 months and then for the year after that...i want to show him i can stay loyal and good to him.
how do i avoid other guys asking me out?? i think that being happy single will help how do i go about doing that?? and how can i prove to him that i've been a loyal girl?? i just wanna show him that i want to give us a chance...i'm not in love with him or want to marry him just yet...we've only known each other 2 months, but i want a chance to love him.
2007-02-26 12:54:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really want to put off your life for the 18 months he will be gone. I am married to a Navy man but I dated him before he enlisted and married him after boot camp. I knew the long distance relationship would not work out. Do you think he is going to be thinking of you while he is out with the fellas. Girl I know about military men. If they are single they gonna get theirs. Just be friends and when he comes back if it is meant to be then there you go. Don't put your life on hold because of a guy you met 3 months ago.
2007-02-26 13:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, am so in a very similar situation! I love him....we haven't even had a proper chance to be together and now he had to move to another country. This a very tricky situation. I hv to decide whether to stick to him, or to keep it open. He tells me to do what I think is right.
I'd say.....first of all....see how he behaves with u, treats u and the relationship long distance. Is he keeping in good touch? If he seems to be avoiding, or getting distant, or being vague about his life....and isn't sure about the both of u, etc, then is it worth being loyal to such a guy who isn't all that into u, or is even there to see if u r being loyal to him? So get a feel for his feelings first before you decide one way or another. If he seems to be showing some genuine interest, u can go that route of staying involved with him. But really, your call in the end. I hope he feels the same as you do for him. Certainly, keep an active life going (which doesnt mean u need to date)....it will help u cope better with the separation. Pay careful attention to how he is with u long distance. I wish u all the best.
2007-02-26 13:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well going by your question i would seem that you think your having or intending to have a relationship of some kind.if so wouldn't the answer be obvious?it works both ways though of cause.even though it appears that you havn't started a bf/gf etc. relationship what you both bring into it will certainly help decide how strong and in what direction the relaitonship goes.i would suggest a good base would help form a much stronger and longer lasting relationship?trust and honesty are a mainstay to any relationship whether it be intimate or friendship,it would seem you both have an oppurtunity to prove this to each other?i'm sure theres a lot of ppl wished they had that chance before or at the begining of thier relationship.anyway i wish you both all the best and hope things work out.
2007-02-26 13:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him and want to wait for him then just do it. Write him nice encouraging letters, he will need them. Go ahead and tell him things going on in your life and things you do, like go out with girl-friends and don't mention any other boys. You don't have to avoid other guys asking you out, you just don't go out with them if they ask you and you are wanting to wait for him. You could end some letters with something like, "still waiting on you and missing you." Just see how you two are with the long distance, see if you fight or lose interest in writing or if you even miss him after a while. All these things will help you know if waiting on him is the right thing to do. If you decide not to wait on him just let him know, that will hurt less then him finding out the hard way.
2007-02-26 12:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, in my opinion, you would be really short-changing each other to "wait." You don't even know each other. Write and e-mail each other, get to know each other, see other people while he's gone. See him when he comes home on leave--I don't think it will be 8 months--maybe more like 3. Enjoy yourself while you are young. If it's meant to be, it will be. You should not sit around and mope for 3 or 4 years for a guy you don't even know. Best wishes.
2007-02-26 13:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only known him for 2 months, then dont sweat it...boot camp will change a person completely anyway! All my cousins went to bootcamp. 2 came back with different sexual preferences, the other came back married to a woman in Germany. But goodluck with that.
2007-02-26 13:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and dont put your life on hold, if you two are not even together. He is moving on and may meet someone else. If he did not commit to you before he left, i think it was respectful of him to not keep you hanging on. If he gets back and you are both single give it a try then. I'm sure he will understand if you dated others.
2007-02-26 13:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by another journey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I joined the Army I was in a similar situation my G/F sent me a letter every week
and hand made goodies(cookies or brownies)
once a month at the beginning I struggled with a long distance relationship then I got shipped off to Iraq she did the same thing at that time it seemed special I couldn't wait to get back to her. long story short it wasn't that special to her
So how ever you show him your feelings make sure you are true to how you feel.
2007-02-26 13:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be good for you to get out, do things, experience life, and have fun while he's away. That doesn't mean you need to date if you don't want to, but don't shut yourself away over a guy who hasn't made you any promises. If guys ask you out, just say you're involved with someone. But meanwhile, have a good life.
2007-02-26 12:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can lock yourself in an ivory tower, and throw away the key, you can wear a double gusseted chastity belt, and join a nunnery.
HE WILL NOT BELIEVE YOU!
And do you HONESTLY think he is thinking of you????
After two months!
Get a grip girl, get out and enjoy yourself!
And IF you still like him when he returns, THEN go for it!
2007-02-26 13:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by tattie_herbert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋