my mother hates me should i kill myself?

Question

i am 13 my mother always tells me i was a mistake and i don't deserve to live.. she yells at me everynight for being the way i am... i don't know who i am though shes told me many times she hates me and she wants to kill me should i commit suiside? i have no reson to live

Answer 1

Hey Gutair Girl,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Your mother is a hurt and unbalanced person.

I know it may be hard for you to tune her out, but do not allow her to dictate how you feel about yourself. Everybody has been put on earth to serve a purpose, and nobody has a right to say who should exsist or not. You have to keep telling yourself that you are wonderful despite what she or anyone else says or thinks.

Even if you did something to disappoint your mother, she is still wrong for speaking to you that way.

She is in a lot of pain, very unhappy and wishes to make you suffer emotionally the way she is.

I would say a little prayer for her to heal her heart and for you to have the strength to still carry on with your life.

Find a school counselor or another trustworthy adult to share what you are going through. They can help you to understand that you are not the problem and how to deal with this.

Do your best in school, so that you can prepare yourself to be successful on your own.

I went through a similar experience with my mother when I was your age. I was suicidal too. Now many years later, I am independant, with a good job and my mother is regrettful about how she treated me. I have since forgiven her for her emotional abuse, but I keep my distance from her.

Focus on your future, get involved in schoolwork and activities those 5 years will be here before you realize.

I hope you feel better.

Answer 2

Wow...that's horrible! She "doesn't deserve" to be a mother, if that's what you would call her. I think you should seriously talk to an authority figure who could do something about your situation. You should not be living with a "mother" like that.
Do not kill yourself, grr! Well, of course for the obvious reason that it'd be wrong. I feel like I just want to die sometimes myself; however, I'm too chicken to do it. I don't think I ever could. You wouldn't be able to enjoy the many things that life has to offer. And what about after death, aren't you scared of that? What really happens once we die? I'm not saying that I am atheist, agnostic, or for any religion, but what if nothing happens when you die; what if it's all just...black? I've also heard suicide is a sin, you go to hell if you kill yourself. Also, if you were to kill yourself, that'd score a point for your "mother". If what you say is true and she wants to kill you, you would only be giving her the satisfaction of winning.
Life can get rough at times, but there are times that it's not. It can be fun! Right now you are living in a horrible situation. Tell someone, anyone, be it your school teacher, a police officer, a friend's parents. They will do something about your situation and you will not have to listen to your "mother" anymore. She is a horrible person who doesn't deserve a daughter such as you.

Answer 3

No, don't do that, why give her the satisfaction? She sounds totally nuts. How can she say that to you? Are you acting out and being bad or something? Do you rob stores and get in trouble with the cops? If you are 'good' and don't do that, then your mom has a problem that you can't fix. Can you move into anyones house or stay at a relatives? This is so bad for you to deal with. Don't kill yourself though.
Why would your mom say you are a mistake? Is she going thru a lot of stuff and is losing her mind? She sounds crazy!

Is there a teacher at school you can trust/talk to about this? You need to confide in someone you trust.

Don't blame yourself for this, it's not you. Your mom needs some psychiatric evaluation. Please don't kill yourself, try to get some help from someone you can trust. Email me if you need any other answers, okay?

Answer 4

Your mother has the problems not you. She is a very mixed up woman and not able for whatever reason to find all the good things in life at the moment which is loving herself and loving you. I am sure you are a good person, you were never a mistake, and you have everything to live for. If your mother does all these things, I suggest you talk to someone at school and seek a counsellor through school. You would be better off with another family. Please dont do something foolish. I care, all the people answering you cares. You will leave behind such pain. And all this pain you feel now is going to leave you trust me. You will be happy living on your own one day. Be strong smile..and seek help and remember. We all care for you!

Answer 5

I don't think you should act so rashly. I think you should think about it first. Is your mother being stressed and pressured now? It could be from anger. Maybe you can try something like run away to a friend's house without her knowing. Stay there for a week. And see if she'll panic.
But even if she doesn't love you, you shouldn't kill yourself. You don't have to find happiness in your mom. Even though it will be sad. But you will find reasons to smile again. I'm positive you will if you believe you're strong enough. Many have done it, including myself. And I urge you to. (Ps. I'm 14)
If you love your mother, but she doesn't love you. At least live for your love.

Answer 6

And let her get the last word? Pulleeze! Being 13 is hard enough to deal with without adding 'attempted suicide' to your resume. What if you miss and end up paralyzed or vegetative? There are worse things than being dead...or yelled at by your mother.
You have many reasons to live... and find someone to love.
Suicide is a very permanent solution to very temporary problems. Talk to a counselor at school, a favorite teacher, the police... even a family member not living in your house.

Answer 7

Sweetheart...I feel really bad for you. you are in a very bad situation, where your mom treats you so badly. I know its difficult , but you have to wake up every ,morning and remind yourself that you are fantastic person and non one (including your mom) can make you feel bad about yourself.
Also, life is a very precious thing don't waste it over what anybody has said. I read somewhere that when you are feeling really blue and bad..think of all the other people who are in much worse situation than you and then you actually feel good, coz what you are going through is certainly not that bad.
Anyway, if it helps, do some meditation every morning. I think it will help you feel better. Take care.

Answer 8

Since I am not convinced your mother is ruining you life or even that she hates you. I would ask you to consider why you are so against your mother. Be honest . On a piece of paper draw a line and on one side write everything you dislike about her and the things you like about her on the other. Then emphasize the things you like about As for suicide I believe there are alot more ways to deal with this.Revenge isnt going to ge you anywhere. No one can make anyone else wnt to kill themselves.

Answer 9

No you shouldn't kill yourself no child is a mistake it doesn't have to be planned. But, your mom has mental issues and you shouldn't pay the price for that you have a whole life ahead of you. Seek therapy or go to someone in school because every mother should love their child and im sure she does just doesn't want ot show it because she wasn't ready to have a child. No mother should tell her child she hates them.

Answer 10

I strongly recommend you speak to your school councilor. This kind of treatment is detrimental to a young persons self esteem. I regret to tell you that your mother has an abusive personality, verbal abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse. You are a good person and very smart for looking for advice. When you go to school ask to speak to your guidance councilor, tell them what's happening at home. Don't be afraid, they won't do anything to your mom and they will give you the help that you and your mom need. Good luck. Be strong. God loves you.