Ok I just started going out with this guy I just met on Friday night and I REALLLYY like him! Even thought I barely know him.. so today a little before 6 oclock after we'd been texting ALL day he calls and leaves me a message saying he doesnt know if he can be with me becuase he likes this other girl blah blah blah.. so I texted him and asked if he was breaking up with me and he just said he was really confused right now but he still loves me and always will.. so what am I supposed to do?! I texted him and told him I'll give him time to think and that I love him soooo much.// and he said he loved me back but he's just confusing me becuase he says he loves me alot but is confused right now! So i'm really confused and sad & worried becuase I think he's going to break up with me but I REALLY dont want him to! like not at all! I will be sooooooo sad if he does.. do you have any advice?! anything I can say to him ?! please help! it will mean so much to me! and no mean or stupid answers plz
2007-02-26 12:39:58 · 26 answers · asked by paige b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i really do like him! he is SOOOOOOOO nice and sweet and caring and everything he is perfect! and i cant see him till this fri.. so its not like i can talk to him in person or anything cuz he doesnt go to my school
2007-02-26 12:44:39 · update #1
Uhm I'm sorry to say hun, but I'm pretty sure he's going to break up with you. It sounds like he's just trying to prepare you for what's coming by acting like he doesn't know what his decision is yet. My advice is to just say "ok", and check back with him in a bit. He might really need time to figure it out, and if he figures out that he likes you, he'll appreciate that you gave him a second to do it. He might already know he wants to break up with you, in which case you shouldn't be giving the jerk the time of day anyway; and finally, he might think you are a little clingy and be testing you, and if you let him do his thing for a few days, you'll pass! :-) Cheer up, babe. It'll all work out for the best. If it's meant to be with him, he'll figure it out.
2007-02-26 12:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love is quite a stretch first of all. However, obviously he cares enough that he'd take a lot of time out of his day to text you and keep talking to you. Love is a feeling where you only have ONE person on your mind no matter what. So obviously, since he's confused about another girl, love isn't something you can use to describe how he feels, but that doesn't mean he doesn't care. Give him time and space, and he should come to the right decision. If he breaks up with you because he wants to be with this other girl, then you have to realize he really isn't worth your time then, and you can do better.
2007-02-26 20:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You barely know the guy. You sound too young to be saying I love you to a guy that you met Friday night. This guy has had this other girl longer then he has known you. He is playing the field but wants to keep you around just in case it doesn't work out with the other girl. Don't waste your time on this loser. Move on and get to know someone else better then saying I love right away to a person you just met. I think you are just desepatre to have someone in your life.
So what if he breaks up with you. It would be his loose.
Take a step back and honestly could you really say to yourself what do you really love about this guy. What is it about him that your like? Don't just say its because you like the same things.
Seriously look at your relationship with this guy as if someone from the outside looking in.
2007-02-26 20:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you met this guy on Friday. Today is only Monday. How can you say love in a couple of days? I think you really ARE CONFUSED. love and lust are often confused. Especially when you are young. You will get over him fast, cause you wern't in love. I think that you don't like the idea of another girl,COMPETITON. That is the key. If she wasn't involved, then it wouldn't have been a big deal. Better get used to competition, cause its everywhere. At work, school, sports, love. Not trying to be mean, just telling it like it really is.
2007-02-26 20:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you just met him on Friday, are you sure that this is not a combination of extensive infatuation and lust? true love grows with time and if you really love him you would give him the space he needs to get his thoughts in order because it would hurt you even more if you guys get together and then he cheats on you. so you keep looking you best and doing your thing and give him a little time
2007-02-26 20:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Roselle E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girly,
I think that your in deep. You said just friday you started dateing this guy? I meen you can't love, love someone that quick maybe a deep like but love... not possible.. But all you need to do is give him time and space let him figure out what he wants, because if you try to tie him down now, he's gonna run and if you want him around I suggest you don't make him feel tied down!
I hope I helped
Jazzi
2007-02-26 20:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow you will be seen as an esy pick. You fall headlong in love with a guy u met in 1 day. U r nuts.
Spend some of your spare time volunteering and find a decent boy.
2007-02-26 20:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you love someone that you just met friday night. yes you do need help, but not from me. you need to learn what the definition of love is. i am now totally confused also. i thought people had to know each other longer than a few days to know they are in love.
2007-02-26 20:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is honestly, that if your texting someone and calling it a realtionship, it isn't. If you are serious and want to be with him you need to meet and talk, not just text back and forth all the time, especially in such a critical part in your realtionship. Tell him you want to meet him ASAP. Go to dinner, go to a movie, just go somewhere where you can talk with him person to person.
2007-02-26 20:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a life. You just met him Friday.
2007-02-26 20:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋