I like her... in fact i fell deeply in love with her. I had expressed to her and she is not ready for any relationship currently. she had broken from a relationship 8mth back.
I actually not ready for any relationship too as i got too much to focus in life at the meantime.
The worst thing that happened.. I keep thinking of her every moment, worried about her and care for her. Every morning i got to wake her up to work.
This is torturing and i wonder how can i get out of feeling this way. Should i continue loving her, wait, suffer and persist on her or totally remove her from my mind?
2007-02-26 12:31:23 · 10 answers · asked by Fred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMMMMG - you are someone i really want to talk to because this situation you have right now - i'm going through except i'm the girl...my best friend and i have been friends for about three years now and he's had a big thing for me this whole time...ive heard about it but never paid much attention to it. So just recently, i started to develop deep feelings for him. He knew about it but i also hinted at the fact that i'm not ready for a relationship because of school and what i need to accomplish on my own first before i'm with that "one" person - i believe that i would be "selfish" if i had a relationship right now because i wouldn't be teh good girlfriend i can be -esp. to my best friend - he deserves more. Lately, he told me that "everything is bad timing" - i guess he had the same reason as me - he's been stressed with school, work, and money issues. What he told me was that he wants to be with me but right now, everything is confusing in his life - if he were ever to be with me - it would be a "worth - real, long lasting and serious" relationship - i know he's being sincere but it's hard for me to believe and accept. I KNOW he still feels something for me from the way he's acting - he'll say one thing to throw me off but when he hugs me, it's close and i FEEL it. He's always been throwing some fronts, acting like he doesn't care and it doesn't affect him but i know it does.
All i can say for you is that if you truly care for someone, that will never go away. I tell myself, i'll get over this "hype" - the situation but i will never get over the person. If you really love the person, let it be and love them but you have to accept the fact that you guys have to move on and that there's no relationship anytime soon. Just stay friends with her and hope that maybe somewhere along the line, something might happen. Never underestimate the power of love, it's strong ****. If you really love each other (no matter how much you deny it), love will find a way and things will work out - just have to trust your instinct, believe what you're doing is right and move on! GOOD LUCK!
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5:51 PM - hey "fred" - what do i do??? is he being sincere?
2007-02-26 12:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh love... It's so very complicated. You're everywhere to me. Yes, you, indeed, love this girl. She can't get out of your mind. Asking this question must put you either at ease, or make you think about her more. You might go and try to brainwash yourself with TV, movies, computer, music, on and on but it only reminds you of her, right? You might go and hang out with your friends, but you just can't get into anything, right?
This is the hardest part of romance, DEALING with it. Dealing with the fact that you can't be with her but you NEED to. All you have to do is think about this. Sometimes, NOT avoiding the subject of her is the way to realize things about her. Start a journal and write all about her. But DON'T call her. Don't contact her or else you'll definitely regret it. Girls need space to breath. Just think of why you two aren't together.
You both need space. You both need room to see other people. You both know you wouldn't be able to stand each other. Start brainstorming reasons why you should/shouldn't be together, and you'll realize where your relationship is. Brainstorm differences between you two, religion, politics, points of view. Try to realize why you aren't with her right now. If you can't think of anything, you two are TOO MUCH alike. Imagine being with a CLONE of you. That would be horrible; I know you'd think that. You two would find flaws in your own personality! That wouldn't work. Two different people can be together. Wait for her. Perhaps, patch up the things that just don't work between you two. Talk to her a little and truly tell her how you keep thinking of her. She'll think you're the sweetest thing. Just keep a diary. Talk about you're life in it and her. Eventually, if you two are meant to be together, you will be. In the mean time, give her space and look for others around you. She'll appreciate that and you will too.
2007-02-26 12:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by My Name Doesn't Fit Here 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Move on.
The key in life isnt stressing over some chick!!
and all though you were in love (or still are), you should move on.
Do things to take her off your mind.
EX: Reading, take an art class, listen to music or anything else that you enjoy.
Second off, Write your feelings in a journal.
It helps and relieves some stress on yourself.
If you have no one to talk to, then find a person or a counselor you can confind in.
Just remove her from your mind and find someone else.
Its not simple, but don't waste you life, you should be enjoying it as much as you can.
2007-02-26 12:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really in love with her u would want to wait and if u wait tell her u are madly in love with but u are not ready for any relationship right now and u think she is not ready right now too. So if she can or would wait.
2007-02-26 12:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by dollyfacesash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fred,
You are focusing on a girl who has clearly stated she wants no relationship. You have even said you have too much to focus on in your own life. So focus on the other matters. If it is meant for you to be with this girl. It will happen. Things happen for a reason.
2007-02-26 12:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well this happens.
This may be cruel but try keeping your distance for a while and extend ur choices.
You have to move on.
Like I say...If you miss one bus you gotta get on the next
Obviously she is not ready so you have to respect her wishes
You have to look for a woman who share the same interests as you
2007-02-26 12:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by oh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much she means to you. If she is worth waiting for, then wait. If untill then you meet someone else, then test the waters. You can wait for her and still date around.
2007-02-26 12:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
2007-02-26 12:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2007-02-26 12:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend on you, u must think carefully & do not regret ur decision.
2007-02-26 12:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by babyga1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋