2007-02-26 12:18:11 · 12 answers · asked by RebeccaAnne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we have been together for 3 and a half years he is 25 and we have been living to gether for 2 years. i am told that i am mature for my age and we just got a mortgage for a house we move in in 4 weeks!
2007-02-26 13:21:29 · update #1
you two are doing very well! Already have a mortage is great and is a perfect step. I think 20 is fine, as long as you know hes the one and only there shouldnt be a doubt that this would work. I know a lot of people who got married between 18-23 and they are still together married for years! Its all about Love and Trust. Seems to me your well on you ways. Congrads!!
2007-02-26 13:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question to complete strangers, it sounds like you may be nervous and not sure about the wedding.
Ask yourself this. Can you call off the wedding and not feel like you let anyone down? If the answer is YES, then you are NOT to young to get married. If you answer no, because you are concerned about other peoples feelings, then you need to re-evaluate quickly.
Then ask yourself. Am I making this decision because he's really romantic, etc? If the answer is yes, then you shouldn't be marrying this person. Marriage is about paying bills, buying homes, planning families, romance comes into it, but it's more about the partnership not the stuff you see in movies. The sex will have some lousy nights. You'll get mad at each other for stupid stuff. But you'll also be able to read each others stares and thoughts, and share the most beautiful thing not imaginable.
Have you dated this person longer than three years? If so, you are probably past the huge hormone surge, and would probably do okay marrying this person. I tell my Friends who are getting married, if you still LIKE the person you want to marry after three years, then marriage is a good idea. Because you aren't going to change them.
2007-02-26 21:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by zeebarista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 21 Ive been married 8 months. The first few months were VERY hard for me because I moved away from home and I couldnt go out and party anymore. I had to think of his feelings as well. I love love love being married. I just had to get used to it. I think every young married couple will have some issues with marriage until everythings comfortable. And doesnt matter how long you've been with him, marriage is all new territory. I've been best friends with my hubby since we were 15 and I learned a lot about him when we got married. But I dont think your to young if your ready do it. If not then dont.
2007-02-26 21:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by chantakg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have been living together for two years and that you have undertaken a huge financial committment says to me that you are not too young to marry. However both you and your partner need to be aware how much you grow over the coming years. My twenties have been a time of much change, and development on so many levels. Ensure you give each other enough room to do this and to continually enjoy each other. I am about to be married in April, this is my second marriage (at 28yrs) My first marriage was a lifetime ago when I was 19. How much has changed in that time.
For you and your fiance You guys have every chance for a happy and sucessful marriage. All the best!!!
2007-02-27 02:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I too was engaged young at 18. He was 7 years older. I could not imagine being married to him now. (we broke it off thank god) I had a lot of growing and changing to do, university to finish and figuring out what I wanted. I am 28 now and getting married in June. I feel so right about it this time. I guess it does work for some people. I just hope that you get to experience the normal things 20year olds do like university, friends, fun, etc. I know a couple people who married young and divorced because the women (in both cases) felt resentful of all the things they had not experienced. problem was by this time they both had kids and never did get to do any of it. Good luck and best wishes. (I am really not trying to say that it won't work out, just sharing info)
2007-02-27 00:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by nakiska11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in love... like really really in love i dont think you can be too young. I think the hardest part about getting married (fyi im not so im just guessing) is getting used to new boundries which at 20 can be setting a lot of limitations. but that is really easy to get around if you work it out with your partner. its not like just because you are married you have to settle down and start a family and everything gets all serious.
2007-02-26 20:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by josie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I married my husband who was 20. We have been married 6 years now. It will be hard but no I don't think you are too young. Its all mind over matter.
2007-02-26 20:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Stumped 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the info provided, I say yes. I knwohow much I changed from when I was 20 and now at 27. Night and day. The person most people are with when they are 20 are not the same person they are with in their late 20s. Think about it
2007-02-26 20:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by godinfan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are asking, then you probably are. You're only asking because you feel that way. You're not too young though. People used to get married at 14 for crying out loud.
2007-02-26 22:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we were married at when i was 16 and amedeo was 18 its been 51/2 years and we are going stronger than ever, but i do agree that it is going to be very hard but if its honestly love you guys are gonna be ok
2007-02-26 20:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋