is she avoiding or telling truth ?

Question

I am from india ; both love and arranged mariages are jostling here . we are modern but many of us are still steeped in medieval viewpoints . i met this girl in chat ; i am 36 she is 22 . she is very spunky very electric but very ill ( she has a brain injury )and troubled in her personal life . we got on to phone chat and quickly very deep feelings came to both of us in most part because she found a friend in me who was always there to give a shoulder to cry on . we met each other on a date i thought to be very successful ...... then her 16 year old cousin eloped with someone that night . so she does not want to continue the relationship anymore since her parents are ultra conservative and it will cause great hurt to them if she chose her man . if her parents are conservative why did she do this to me ? it hurts REAL BAD .. i been with many women but she seemed to be the one and she said so too . the chemistry was amazing . will she return or do i bite the bullet and keep walking

means is she doing this to shield me because she has said so before many times that she will not become a burden on my shoulders . my support in her illness was the way we got to be close in chat and phone

Answer 1

I am so sorry that you have been hurt in this way. I know it is hard to deal with. I had a crush on a guy who flirted with me so much and even expressed an interest in me. I asked him out, he said no. In a few months, he had an arranged marriage in another country to a woman he had never met before! I guess that for some people family ties are stronger than potential romantic love. Romance doesn't last forever, family does. She is 22, maybe she is too young to have the strength to push beyond what her family would want for her. Just from the little bit of info you gave here, I have to doubt that she is trying to protect you... Seems she is just afraid to go against her parents. 22 is very young to know for sure if hurting her parents is worth the risk. You may feel she is right for you, but maybe she doesn't have enough experience with men to trust you will not cheat or deceive her. I think that, if you haven't already, you should at least have one more talk with her and express your true feelings. Ensure she knows what she could be missing out on. I hate to say this, but there might not be alot of men willing to be supportive in her situation. So she could be losing out on alot. Just make sure she knows that, then let her make her choice. If her choice is still no, keep walking, as you said. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Bite the bullet an keep walking Her brain injury could drive you over the edge. I'm sorry you were hurt but this lady may have more problems than you know of.. She should have respected her parents in the first place and not went out on a date with you knowing this also you took a chance on what would take place. If you didn't next time ask up front some aren't honest no matter what race you are. I had a nephew that was took for the ride of his life and left his education for a woman from India and this woman was pretty and deceiving even to his parents they sent her plane tickets and waited at the airport for a woman that wasn't there. I never seen anything like this in my life. But he loved her so he kept giving her chance after chance for 3 or 4 years and he was welcomed in her family when they lived in our area but when they moved to California they hated him and he kept trying. So don't lose years of your life to anyone. I hope you find someone that's good to you from India and has the same ideals.

Answer 3

So sorry to hear about this. I hate to say this, but it sounds like she has a lot of issues beyond her health. Most 22-year-olds still have quite a bit of growing up to do. I know that I'm much different at 35 than I was at 22, and I certainly wasn't ready for marriage at that age. If her family will not support your relationship, then it would be a hardship on both of you should you get married, especially in a culture where arranged marriages have acceptance and are considered normal. I'm in the US where arranged marriages are the exception, and my family's approval of my fiance was absolutely necessary before I was willing to get serious about him.

You say you've been with many women, so you know that there will be others in the future.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

except we are speaking approximately concerns of criminal requirement, then i've got self assurance that absolutely everyone has the main stunning to withhold information. One should not be under any form of criminal accountability to offer out information (truthful or no longer) in simple terms because of the fact somebody has asked for it - this is own, private or delicate - persons are no longer rapidly entitled to be responsive to your employer while this is none of theirs. permit me provide you an occasion. I, famously, do no longer opt for to communicate my age, and that's my prerogative. If I have been to assert i'm 21, then i could be mendacity. If, although, I say i'm over thirty yet under sixty, then i'm heading off telling the actuality yet i'm no longer mendacity. My age is MY employer - whether somebody needs to be responsive to, i do no longer desire them to be responsive to - that certainly is my precise.

Answer 5

Since she broke it off right after cousin eloped, it is probably because she saw the pain it caused in the family and doesn't want to do that to her parents.

Answer 6

you do not get close to anyone in a chat you only have the illusion of closeness. I think you should chalk this up to experience and move on with your life there is nothing for you there.