Relationship probs.. Help needed pls..?

Question

2 days ago i got a heated argument with my girl friend about when she is working late at night.. yesterday out of the blue moon she goes wild and goes riding with another guy.. she confessed to me, but i got so mad that i started flaming her with sarcasm and some vulgarities.. and today she claims to be have broken up with me.. I've known her for 4 yrs and we got into a relationship after that and now it is a total of 5 yrs knowing her.. the past few months back she starts saying i was being harsh and rude to her.. due to my background i said came from a dark background.. and most of the time i would apologize to her and she would forgive me.. but now she doesn't take my apologies anymore.. i'm confused and sad.. because i love her a lot and cherish every moment when i'm with her.. i splurge her with gifts and some fine dining but most of the time i would just bring her to some fast food.. all these while i always spend time with her even though i got friends and a part time work + sch

Answer 1

maybe she's worked out that you may well be apologizing but you never fix any of the problems - they come back again. You keep on verbally abusing her, so she's moved on.

You might want to go get some therapy.

Answer 2

Ask yourself if you would like to be treated like that, (if she act the way you did?) If the answer is NO, then you need to take a good look inside yourself and see what it is you can change about yourself, you need to love yourself before you can love someone else. Okay so you came from a dark background that doesn't mean that you continue the cycle. NO you need to brake the cycle. Don't bring any kid into the world if you are not going to brake the cycle and have your kid be treated badly. Give your girl some time to cool down (couple of days) then talk don't shout about it and maybe in time she will she the changes. Oh did you think about marrying her that might be the other reason why she mad, because you too have been together for 5yrs and the relationship is going nowhere.

Answer 3

Hi, you guys been together for so long, I would think that at this point she might think that you might want to move further up in you're relationship, I do not know so much but I would think that she is acting up because she wants to tell you something and might not know how, as a woman, yes you do get tired of the same words over and over again, personally I like to solve problems and see changes, even if is me, and as far as for your background, that is all it is: background=past, there is nothing you can do about the past, all you can do is do your best to do better today, so today go look for her, tell her that you do want to change, not for her but for you, and tell her that you are open to listen to her(be honest, do not say this if you are not open to listen!!!), so maybe she needs to tell you something, but do listen, women do not like when you guys pretend to listen. Good luck.

Answer 4

HHmmmm...let me think. Well for one it was wrong for her to go off with another boy. That shows that you cant completely trust her anymore. But you mite not should've been so harsh with her. Maybe you just need to sit her down and BOTH of you talk about stuff bothering you. Maybe you can work it out together like that. In a relationship, there are things that are going to go wrong. You need to find a way to deal with them on your own and how you will go about fixing you problems. But you may not be the right one for each other. If she really loves you she will give you another chance. I really hope everything goes well with yall!

Answer 5

Saying sorry doesn't change what you do to someone. Once something is said, it can't be taken back. Saying sorry is easy, actually being sorry and stopping the bad behaviour is hard. She won't take your apologies anymore because you keep doing the same thing. She doesn't want to be hurt anymore. You may have lost her for good mate. Sometimes we don't actually appreciate what we have until it is gone..........

Answer 6

This is a tough one. I suggest you tell her that you love her and that you are sorry. If she doesn;t forgive you, you hav to live with the harsh reality and move on or you can surprise her with a dinner but if that doesn't work ask her to still be friends and move on.