This guy Andy broke up w/ me in Nov., and he turned into a jerk and started rumors about me, and talks trash about me now. For some reason, I can't get over him, cuz he was my 1st true love. Some days, he's nice and when he is nice, I sometimes try to get him to like me again. Well, in Jan. I got another bf, Peter, and I broke up with him cuz we didn't have a whole lot of chemistry and he was rude sometimes to other people. I also like this guy Thomas, who is Andy's best friend, but Thomas likes my best friend Allana, and also talks trash about me. Its always one guy after the other, and it seems nearly impossible for this thing to stop! People spread rumors about me and every guy I go out with! What should I do, cuz now, I'm losing my bff's who are going along with this crap!
2007-02-26 11:52:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ignore them and try looking for better people. If you make a big deal about it they will still continue. Simple as that. If people believe what they say then the people who believe must not be much of a good people.
2007-02-26 11:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The absolute best advice anyone can give you, is to stop being so desperate for a boyfriend.
My guess is that you have way too many other important things in your life to concern yourself with.
If you didnt know, those boys, are not going to be in your life in the next 1-4 years anyway, so why put your precious time into those fools???? (girls or guys)
People spread rumors about you, because you get yourself involved in alot of drama (you dont even realize it)
YOu need to mind your own business and life. The more you get away from those people, the more they dont care to waste their time spreading rumors about you.
Get a real life, get through school, get a good job, become independent, and at that point you will have the courage, and the brains to find a great guy/friends.
Dont settle, girl!!!
2007-02-26 19:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tough, but keep your head high and act like none of this is bothering you...find some new friends...and a new boyfriend. Life will get better. I know from personal experience. Rumors hurt, but what helped me is to remember that people who spread rumors have really crappy lives with nothing better to do but to try to make themselves feel better by talking badly about other people. As long as you know the truth, then rumors can't hurt you.
2007-02-26 19:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?if ur a teen then id say this is just how dating starts off. If your a bit older then I would say just taqke your time and the right guy will come along in time. Dont sleep around or jump straight in bed with the first guy you meet and he will respect you more and wont believe any of these stories anyways. And if these guys are that bothered about your past they dont love you so get some one else. If you love some one you love everything about them including there past which is what makes them the person they are today!
in short stuff them there losers and just nide your time xx
2007-02-26 19:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sean C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what's with this talking trash about one another? I think you are hanging out with the wrong people. Try joining a church where there are nicer ( no, not perfect) people. Yes, there are people that say mean things about each other there but it is definitely not the norm. I go to Calvary Chapel and it's the most incredible and positive social outlet I've ever experienced.
2007-02-26 19:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sierra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friends aren't really friends if they'd go along with all that and not stick up for you. You need to just leave all them people alone. Meaning stay away from them and cut off all communication. Don't call them and don't answer there calls. Make new friends a find a guy that can accept you for who you are. Things will get better. Have faith.
2007-02-26 19:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sounds really mean. But the best thing to do about it is to COMPLETELY ignore the rumors, the only thing that they want you to do is to back down and loose confidence. I would tell the school because that is bullying, and its against the law to do that kind of bullying.
I'm sorry if this didn't help... but i hope it did.. ^^
2007-02-26 19:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mizunushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the rumors,and the trash that goes with it and keep moving. Life is too short. Be the bigger person.
2007-02-26 19:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stop dating for awhile. It kinda sounds like to me that you don't know what you are looking for in a guy. So give yourself some time to recoup from all of the other guys and start over fresh.
2007-02-26 19:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to shatter your dreams of true and lasting love, BUT,,,,As you get older you will realize that love is not a crush. Believe it or not, you'll be lucky to have found true love in the next twenty or thirty years. As you mature, your concept of love will mature also. Love is total commitment and sacrifice without stupidity.
Good luck
2007-02-26 20:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by rick m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋