I have been with my boyfriend for about 6.5years now and we want to settle down. My family like him but not for me(as hes a nice guy but i can do better for a life partner). They think im too good for him and i deserve someone who is a bit more focused and capable.
We both have fairly good,full-time permanent jobs( im an accountant and hes a chef). They keep telling to think before i go ahead and things that confuse me even more and upset me.
I have always been very close to my family and respect what they tell me...but im torn.
Have any of you been in this predicament before and what are your thoughts????
Any help will be appreciated!!!
Thank You!!
2007-02-26 11:45:02 · 8 answers · asked by GenuineGemini 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Focused and capable people are everywhere you look. Finding someone who is good to you can be much more difficult. You can surround yourself with focused people day and night, but it's not quite so simple to find someone who is a genuinely good person and wants to settle down.
I imagine this must be really challenging with your family not 100% behind him, but if you think you're ready to settle down with him, then I'm sure you'll be strong enough to let them know that you've made your decision and not worry about how they feel. As long as he's good to you and you're happy with him, everything else WILL fall into place. Good luck! :)
2007-02-26 11:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey - your family is awful. Your partner has been committed to you for a long time and he has a full time job. Not just a job but a career! I say ignore them and go be a crazy kid . In your parents eyes - no one will ever be good enough for their baby. Grab hold of your own life and love your man like the day you first dated. Good luck sweet heart - go for it. Best Wishes
2007-02-26 19:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend. Relationship - marriage involves two people trying to bond their lives together, share life's ups and downs together, share a certain intimacy. If that claim is honest, then I believe that's the proper basis on which a relationship should be build. You are not anymore child..so, I think you must seeking to build a truly sitisfying relationship with your boyfriend and also your family, if you will stand up for your capacity for responsibility and commitment to your love. Be strong. The Art of happiness is in your hand.Do not let someone to speak badly of your boyfriend, this negativity, with a feeling of hurt or anger, destroy your own peace of mind. Be HAPPY. Protect yourself and your boyfriend from that feeling of hurt. Tell your family, your result and not let them agitated anymore that subject.
2007-02-26 20:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by helena v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to choose who you want to be with. The one that is going to live with him is you not your family. And for the record, there is no one better than anyone else. I consider that we all are equal but we have been given different opportunities under different circumstances that some of us take and others don´t to better ourselves as people. I just believe that if you feel you can have a long lasting relationship with him because you love him and he loves you then everything will turn out just fine. Love will survive if it was meant to be. Your family if they love you as they say they do then they will accept whom you choose to be your long life partner.
2007-02-26 19:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by jaaaam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would your family feel if he won power ball? was a multi millionair. I have just been threw the same thing with my 17 year old daughter. trying to explain that the guy she was dating was not good enough for her. His comeing from a bad family and no money had nothing to do with it. We asked to meet him. He made excuse's he lied to me. And then had the nerve to try to tell me what I could and couldn't do. he had no respect for me. He had a chance to prove himself and failed.
I think your family loves you a lot. But I think they are being snobs if they like him and think he is a good person, but not good enough for you. I am sorry but that is the way that i feel. He has proven himself to be hardworking honest and respectable. I say marry him and let them get over it. If they really love you they will. respect your decision and love him as well.
2007-02-26 19:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, forget about your family they are not the ones who will be getting married and living with guy. it's gonna be you and if this guy is the one you love and you really want to spen the rest of your life with him, which is a really long time and you should think about that, then you shouldn't let your family tell who is the person you can or cannot marry, it's not their choice. i respect my family very much, but when something involves the person i love then they have no say in it because it is not their place to be saying it. so you decide, you live your life.
i hope this helps, good luck.
2007-02-26 19:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously ask yourself what you are looking for in a lifelong partner. If your current boyfriend fits the bill, don't worry about what your family thinks, they will come around when they realize how happy you are with him. Tell your parents why you love him and why you want to be with him. Ask them what they don't like about him. Sounds like you have a family who cares about you. Good luck!
2007-02-26 19:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well who cares what they think!its your life.Just listen to what they have to say you been with this guy forever.Say you respect there opioion but im the one in love not you and they should leave you alone about that.Hope you tell your family how much youur in love with him!Good luck!
2007-02-26 19:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by $**Cutie pie**$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋