My boyfriend who has been having a stressful time at work, is going through a major career change, looking for a new job as he's unhappy with his current one is upset with me. He explained to me that he is under a lot of stress and pressure and he said he might not be as available as normally. I said I will let him focus but I did not, I called him, I texted him, I cried and questioned him about his feelings and the relationship. At first he was patient but then he got upset with me 2 days ago as I told him that I dont feel special. He has two big interviews coming up near my city and he told me that we will meet then but this was prior to him getting upset with me for my neediness. I said I was sorry but he said that I always say that but nothing ever changes. He said it's really hard for him. I did not hear from him since yesterday. I said I will give him the time to concentrate but I worry so much that I upset him and pushed him away. I want to contact him but should I?
2007-02-26 11:38:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. Let him come to you. Men under stress are not fun to deal with, they definitely need their space. Good luck.
2007-02-26 11:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, honey, just let him focus on what's at hand (his current career moves). He's probably just trying to eliminate as much stress as he possibly can, which is understandable. So, just be supportive and be in his corner. I recently learned that women are always going to be concerned about the relationship no matter what is going on. But, men on the other hand are totally opposite. When my man is having a hard time at work, he finds so much strength in knowing that I've got his back and am here to make his day easier in whatever way I can. So, if that means don't bring up anything right now regarding relationship issues, then I try my best to respect that. It lets him know that I care about what goes on his life outside of our relationship as well. I hope I am making sense to you. LOL!
2007-02-26 19:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by clearlovepink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off now, or you WILL loose him, he is looking near you, that should tewll you he is at least consideing a future with you..nobody wants a clingy child for a life partner, go find something to keep busy with, have some fun, he will call you when he gets things settled...and maybe even sooner, he will find that he misses talking to you!!
If you don't give him the chance to miss you, he will just feel smothered..good luck, it will be hard but you can do it!
2007-02-26 19:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't bug him unless you really want to loose him for good. You need to make yourself busy and keep yourself busy. And give him time to himself. You realize that your needy and most guys don't like girls that are needed because it become very draining emotionally. So leave him alone and wait until he's really to call. And if he's doesn't call after the interview then you know that he didn't get the job and he mad with himself so give him a few days to get over the disappointment and just listen to his needs.
2007-02-26 19:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are jsut making things harder for him to focus. let him be woman! if you were going through all this crap you would be mad too with a partner pulling on your sleeve! send him a simple message. just say hey just me, letting you know to contact me when your ready and tell me the news about everything. until then stay safe and relax cause you are to perfect for every job to be stressed over it! call me if you need ANYTHING at all ok.(and if your a love you couple then say it with a xoxo on the end). let him have some space but let him know you are there for him. but dont bug him, he is trying to get settled in. good luck
2007-02-26 19:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sure, call him right away, then again in 20 minutes, heck....call him every 30 minutes. Let him know what he's involved with here. Buy him a book on enabling needy codependent females. geeeeeeez
2007-02-26 19:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by meemadee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be for alil while but i sugest every time you want to talk to him write him a letter then look at it later and decide weather or not you need to give it to him that away you can get your feelings out but not put so much pressure on him and still have the choice on giving it to him if it's something important
2007-02-26 19:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by arkariansgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls like you can never keep a boyfriend because you are considered "psycho." Dont worry, in one week he will be dating the girl down the street because she doesn't give a **** what he is doing and she doesn't need him to make her feel "special."
2007-02-26 19:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by dregg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello....grow up...back off...give him some space and do as he has asked....if you don't, then you don't care about him or respect him....this is not about you.....get over yourself and stop being a selfish little brat
2007-02-26 19:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up..give him the space he needs or you will run him off....
2007-02-26 19:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋